United States

Hi, I‘m Marni. I am Bisexual.

I'm a freelance fine artist and writer. My hometown is in Southern California but I've lived in several states. I was also an expat for several years. I spend most time at my desk creating pieces of art or writing poems. When not working I enjoy traveling to other states and countries, taking pictures of nature and people, and meeting people from all walks of life. I see myself as very open minded regarding cultures, and find creative inspiration in a vast array of culture, nature, experiences, and peoples life stories. I have an outgoing personality sometimes, though other times I'm a quiet introvert. I laugh a lot, as I believe humor is an amazing weapon against sadness. Humor and diversity are what makes this world an amazing place to live in.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexuality means that I enjoy the physical attributes of women, also their strengths, but I also value the same things in men. My sexuality is fluid, and the reason why is because I am looking into the person's heart. Both positive and negative, as well as compatible qualities, can be found in both genders.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals cannot be pigeonholed. We come from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and we feel our attractions/affections differently, just the way someone who is straight might.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

When I was a little girl, I started drawing females, I would say about 4 years of age - imagine stick figures with boobs. My mother was a powerful and beautiful woman, perhaps that was it. But it seems I found the aesthetics of women absolutely beautiful, this paved the way for my work in the arts. I never felt a drive to draw males, as the aesthetic mysteries and beauty in men didn't seem as deep to me.

Around age 12 I started developing crushes on boys but not girls. My attraction to females was purely physical, but my heart was drawn deeply to males, emotionally they were intense and it was thrilling, if not consuming.

I felt I was abnormal, as family and some of my peers made me feel guilt that I drew women.

In my middle teens I developed a deep crush on an older woman, a mentor. I noticed I was attracted to some female friends, and boys. In my twenties I kissed a woman for the first time and really enjoyed it. It was then I understood the innate nature of my attractions and that yes, I enjoyed both genders. I still feel closer bonds to men, but there is no denying the comfort, kindness, and nurturing nature of women in my eyes.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Trying to explain to people the very nature of my bisexuality. Meeting people who don't think I am a swinger or sexual deviant.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Falling in love with a person's heart, and loving them for who they are. Also seeing the beauty, attributes, and value of both genders.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Reactions vary from person to person.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be yourself. Always.