United States

Hi, I‘m JAY. I am Bisexual.

I am from Texas and I guess you can say I do have some southern hospitality left in me, but I have lived in Las Vegas for about 30 years and have always been in management roles whether in life or career. I have always had an easy going attitude and look at life as a dare. I am adventurous, love to hike, dance, gym, movies, crowds, and I love chaotic atmospheres. I am very family oriented and have very very few close friends I trust. One thing about me is I do not judge people for how they are or who they are I just try to find a way to mess with them or not. I have the biggest heart but I also can be very blunt and direct. I do have my faith and do attend church not because I should but because I adore going and love how it helps bring me to peace. I work very hard and play harder. I do love hard but can tend to seem unappreciated in showing it.

What being bisexual means to me

Well bisexual means to me is that it's just Love, I do not have to choose a skin color or and hair color or even yes even a man or a woman and frankly I wont. I choose to breathe and I choose to look at a person and feel how ever I am feeling. Yes I love men and yes I love woman. But that is my preference and I allow others to love how they feel and have there preference. My sexuality is being attracted to both sexes and knowing I will pursue either man or woman with fondness and tease.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I just want the world to know yes a man or a woman can be bisexual. Its just as understanding for you or the world to except gays and heterosexuals as it is to except someone who likes both. But I will not let the world or people in this world define me or choose who I can love or just plan be with. But I will say this; bisexual people just want respect too and wanna love.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path was just growing up straight till I was in high school and being attracted to guys so I stopped dating girls because I thought I had to be gay only or I had to choose that it was wrong to love a man one minute and a girl the next. I guess it took me till maybe another ten years out of high school to stop holding in my attraction towards woman and only having relations with men. That is when I met a great friend and I had a short maybe tryst with her that I said screw this I wanna date women to and so its been me flirting with woman and men and dating both or just having relations with men and women.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest thing is people's stupid comments on how the can except being peoples (sorry to say) fag hag and excepting gay friends but make a rude comment on how they can not understand bisexual people or how they do not believe in people being bisexual.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing is I don't try to choose anymore, I just smile my happy face and feel like I have that many more fish in the sea and just try to enjoy that there is someone out there perfect for me as long as I do not ruin it with being selfish and ignoring there needs.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My best friend in the whole world loves me no matter what, she is my inspiration and is one great reason I also stop on solid ground, she truly taught me the meaning on " no judgement move on" Well as for family I guess some are good and some well it is that 'what I thought you where gay" or "How does the other person feel about you dating a guy or a girl." Some people just do not get that being bisexual to me does not mean I am dating both at same time.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

My advice is find someone who can stand with you in any way of understanding and stay strong. Courage, strength, and knowledge that you are just as normal as everyone else, you just have more options than they do!!!