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Hi, I‘m Pete. I am Bisexual.

I am an advocate, counselor, educator, vegan, endurance athlete, and bisexual/fluid/queer person. I live in the Cleveland area with my wife and two fur babies. I am a counselor educator at a local college, a clinical counselor/supervisor, and a researcher with a focus on LGBTQ+ issues and wellness. I enjoy the outdoors and consider myself a steward of the natural world through advocating for environmental issues and being vegan. I have a wife but have been with both women and men.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means loving the person, not the gender. It means being attracted to intellect, motivation, interests, dialogue, and yes, cute ones. We do exist even if the new White House does not believe so.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I want the world to know we exist and do so a lot more than people think. As both a bisexual person and researcher I know this to be true. There is so much more to us than the stereotypes out there about us.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path took turns, zigs, zags, and now that I am in a monogamous relationship is solidified not in what others see but in what I now. The path now is being the person I am while also relating through research, advocacy, counseling, and teaching others about us. I am even conducting my dissertation research on what I term "affectionally fluid persons" to raise awareness and then create action for mental health professionals in terms of wellness practice for bisexual and other fluid persons.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest thing about being bisexual is probably the erasure. As if we do not exist. Both heterosexual and gay/lesbian communities exclude us often. In my case I can pass as heterosexual and recognize the privileges which come with that. At the same time LGBT and heterosexual persons make assumptions about me stray far from the truth.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The greatest thing about being bisexual is gender not being such an absolute factoring being with a person. I do not need the binary systems of gender, orientation, gender expression or identity. I instead can rage against these systems in simple and complex ways.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

SO many reactions. Some are as simpleminded as the stereotypes suggest, "So you have a lot of sex!" or "Oh great, you're selfish". Most people, especially in my immediate family, just do not understand it. They don't get it probably because I have a wife so they often will say, "Well, looks like you are straight now..".

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Explore being bi, safely of course. As both a bisexual person and therapist I cannot stress enough surrounding yourself with (when possible) other persons who will accept and love you, for YOU. Do not come out immediately to everyone, process this and come out on your timeline, not others. Do it safely.