Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Jessica/Joshua. I am Bisexual.

Came out in college and recently discovered more about my self that I'm more actually gender fluid bisexual and enjoy being my alterna personality Jessica who loves to feel beautiful with her make up and outfits and the such but there are days I have to be male more as I have 2 kids who are young and wouldn't understand this at this given tim im currently 33 and live in Anchorage but want to eventually move to Washington State.

What being bisexual means to me

That I can love both sexes even if I'm not in a relationship with both. Also that I'm still attracted to both semester at the same time and not limited to just one.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

There are some who are bisexual but swing more towards women and there are some that also love both but tend to swing more toward men.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I started having an attraction to guys as well as women one day in college and didn't know why it was happening. Talked to a lesbian friend of mine who told me to go to a meeting for teens called IMRU2 that was a starting support group to help me figure out who I am. That group helped me realize I was bisexual then I started hanging out with a Bi/Trans group a different one that continued to help me grow my understanding who I was then and now. During my 2nd support group Adam and Steve I was asked if I wanted to dress in drag and do a performance for their 1st anniversary party. I was nervous but agreed and sang Kylie monogues
Can't get you out of my head and ended up enjoying it. Only dressed in drag one other time but 2nd time was for Halloween just for fun. Didn't do it other then the 2 times.

I did date a gay guy but realized it was tough as I still wanted both genders. After dating my ex boyfriend I realized if I were to date another male it would have to be a bisexual male as I figured he would understand me better. I enjoyed the LGBT community in Houston TX when I lived there. Recently I discovered I still have an attraction to both and realized there are days I love wearing make up and pretty outfits and the realized recently i am also gender fluid as well. So far so good everything has been good.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

That many think bisexuals are confused or just because you are bi you like have to pick one or the other. Other then that telling some that don't know yet that you are can be tough.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I love the fact I get the best of both worlds and I'm allowed to love both genders.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Mainly my main family knows but the friends that I care about most have been helpful

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Seek More support in the community or whatever is available at the time it's important to find it for when you need it it's there.