United States

Hi, I‘m Essence. I am Bisexual.

I currently reside in Washington after taking a five day road trip from Texas. I'm unemployed but getting an associates in business fundamentals and management. I like sketching and singing but more importantly talking about my sexuality. I'm closeted and could talk about my sexuality for hours.

What being bisexual means to me

In the literal sense, my bisexuality is my love for women, men and everyone in between or on the sides.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals like a person the way heterosexuals and homosexuals like a person.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I went through life casually thinking that women were the greatest things on earth. I used to look for the prettiest girl in class and befriend her. It took me awhile to realize that the girls I thought were the best people I had ever met, were my crushes.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Monosexuals inability to realize that they fall in love with a soul the way bisexuals/pansexuals fall in love with a soul. The heinous stereotypes are also difficult to hear.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Any book I read, any movie I watch, anything I do, I most likely have a crush that is making the situation better. It's really nice to find people you're attracted to.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My mother regurgitated every predictable reaction in the book:
"It's probably a phase"
"Most likely {insert childhood trauma} that did this to you"
At one point I think she tried to use reverse psychology on me by saying I wouldn't have as many kids as I wanted if I ended up with a woman. However she never kicked me out and has grown to accept it. I'm not out to anybody else in my family but my friends and random internet buddies have been supportive.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time. Don't worry if you don't figure it out right away. I suspected an attraction towards women at 15 but didn't really come out to myself til 17. As for coming out, only do it when you're ready and hopefully in a safe space.