Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Matt. I am Bisexual.

I am a married bisexual polyamorous 43 year old father of three, just like many of us that just skims the surface of who we are, I am also a lawyer, an outdoor photographer, a hiker, a political nerd and junkie and a chronic disease sufferer. I am from a small town in the south. I have dated with guys and girls and have been married for 22 years. In the time I was developing sexually I openly dated girls but had secret affairs with a few of my guy friends. It seems so odd to think of that time 30 years ago feeling so free and alive connecting with my first male love but not being able to acknowledge the fact to anyone not even yourself, but, I knew what would befall me if I came out in rural south Arkansas in the late 80's so I bottled it up and proceeded with life, however trying to fit in for the sake of fitting in never really works out in the end and your true self will blindside your life if you don't pay attention to it. Never again will I go along to fit in, i am me an that is valid.

What being bisexual means to me

Being honest where most people are incapable.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are all around you and you int even know it.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Adolescent playing and exploring awakened something in me that I tried to stifle for along time but just would not go away, so I finally decided to embrace it.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Feeling alone when you know you are not

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being in the middle allows you to understand things from both male and female perspectives

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

mixed results

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

just relax and be yourself