United Kingdom

Hi, I‘m Tara. I am Bisexual.

Hello my name is Tara, I'm 22 years old and proudly bisexual. I completed my degree in Abuse studies, and an MSc in CBT (Psychotherapy). My dream is to become a trauma based therapist working with people who have been sexually abused. Currently i am a substance misuse practitioner working with young people aged 11-21. Within my workplace i'm trying to always promote better understandings of LGBT issues, especially helping people with new terms and debunking myths surrounding bisexuality. I'm hoping to become an LGBT -coordinator for young people as it can be difficult. I love learning about anything new and am always curious to explore new things and ideas. Personally i love my old classic horror films, i love to read and love to watch documentaries (the darker the better for me) overall i'd say i have an extremely dry dry sense of humor (cards against humanity was based on my humor) and think everyone deserves to be treated with respect. I never take myself too seriously and there is always ways that we can improve our sense of self.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means that i am able to be attracted to men, women and anyone really. It shows that i care more about someones personality than their gender (which is socially constructed anyway). I struggled for a long time with my attraction to women, especially when i fell in love with my straight best friend (yikes). After lots of repression and some later soul searching, i decided to come out. Having an amazing supportive partner meant i was able to be honest without being stereotyped or ridiculed with all the myths bisexuals face.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we are human. That we are not cheaters, that we are not a transition stage and that straight privilege is the most damaging thing to someones self esteem.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I have always been attracted to women, but i knew it wasn't really allowed and felt it was taboo. I suppressed this part of myself until i was 19 and fell in love with a woman. This confused me and really made me anxious as i didn't understand why i liked her so much. When i was 21 i started to develop feelings for another friend who reciprocated my feelings. From that point onward i knew i wanted to be honest in calling myself bisexual. I now introduce myself as bisexual to new people i meet and it feels so empowering!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Not being accepted by both the straight and LGBT community. Hearing comments by lesbians saying that they'd never date a bisexual women because they are not 'gay enough'. Being asked to decide which gender you like best.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The possibility of falling in love with anyone. Appreciating bodies in every form and seeing the different sides of dating different genders.

The best thing is about being bisexual is being able to be myself and be happy in my own skin.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I have had amazing support from my friends and family. For the people that dislike it- i don't have to consider them in my day to day life. I don't exist to please other people- i am enough on my own.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time and there is no rush. You don't have to prove anything, in the process you don't have to sleep or date both to know. Join an LGBT group and talk and discuss about any issues you may have. Tell a friend who you trust and talk it through.