Hi, I‘m Ana. I am Bisexual. I'm a marketing undergraduate that lives in Mexico. I'm also a PR executive in Espectro CSF, a student association from my university dedicated to LGBT diversity inclusion on campus. Together with seven other friends of mine, we decided to found Espectro a little bit more than a year ago to raise awareness of LGBT matters and to fight discrimination through conferences, workshops, art festivals and similar events. We have several events each year, such as Spirit Day.
More specifically, I wanted to found Espectro because I think that here in Mexico there is still a lot of work to do regarding LGBT-related phobias and discrimination, so it really feels like we do some progress after each event on campus.
Even more specifically, I enjoy reading (either suspense novels or academy and research topics, as in the Journal of Bisexuality, which I'm happy to have recently found), going to the movies and hanging out with friends.
What being bisexual means to meFor me, being bisexual means that I can feel attracted to more than one gender and that I look beyond gender to feel attracted to or fall in love with someone.
What I would like the world to know about bisexualsI would like the world to know that being bisexual is as valid as any type of sexual orientation identification and that it is definitively not a phase. To those thinking otherwise, I would recommend doing some research, as bi-erasure is a type of discrimination.
What was your path to a bisexual identity?When I was a teenager, I noticed that I sometimes felt attracted to female friends of mine. I also noticed that sometimes I felt attracted to male friends of mine. Even though I would secretly browse and save bi-pride images on my computer to later download into my cell phone, I never talked about it with my friends or family. It was until the end of high school that, after many hours of googling "bisexuality", that I came to terms with who I was and admit to myself how I identified. I started by telling my friends. It was more or less the same time some other friends would come out as gay, coincidentally.
I told my family until I was in college after they had asked me why I was so passionate about Espectro. This is partly because I was afraid of how they were going to react, but also because I never felt the need to say it. Fortunately, my family has been very open minded about this subject. After I came out to my parents, I thought it was actually a bit silly to be afraid of a reaction that in my parents isn't likely.
What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?The toughest thing about being bisexual is dealing with biphobia. I have experienced it in two specific ways.
The first one is bi-erasure. It has happened to me often that I feel the need to "go back into the closet" and change my behavior because some people start discussing how bisexuality doesn't exist or is just a teenager phase.
The second one is plain biphobia. It has happened to me twice; I felt attracted to someone and when I made a move at them and they realized my feelings I was the one time horribly rejected and the second time I was run from as if I was some kind of monster. Both awful experiences.
What is the best thing about being bisexual?The best thing about being bisexual is that you look beyond gender when knowing someone, which allows you to see the other person from a different perspective that doesn't necessarily revolve around gender.
How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?As said in one of the previous questions, I've experienced some bad reactions when saying I'm bisexual. However, after giving those experiences some thought, I've realized that, fortunately, these reactions don't come from people I care. Those who actually care about me and respect me have accepted me as I am, which I am deeply thankful for. Actually, some of my friends don't make it a big deal of it while other friends celebrate it with me.
What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?I think accepting oneself is really important in order to come out proudly because it empowers you to somehow face discriminatory comments and keep going. I think that the bi-community is indeed thriving. So don't be afraid to come out as bi, process that can take as long as YOU need. The &quot;you&quot; is extremely important because, regardless of other people's opinions, YOU are the only one who can identify who you are.
Additionally, I think researching online resources, such as the Journal of Bisexuality (sorry, deep fan of research AND bisexuality :D ), Bi.net, Still Bisexual.com, can really help you see that those feelings aren't out of place and that it's ok.