United States

Hi, I‘m Paige. I am Bisexual.

I grew up in Wisconsin, and soon I will be graduating with a degree in chemistry with plans to go into forensics. I have two older brothers, divorced parents, my dad's mom, his brothers, and his niece, as well as my mom's dad, and her two nieces and nephew. I love sports. I played hockey for ~18 yrs and am also a lacrosse goalie for my college club team.

What being bisexual means to me

It means that I am attracted someone because of who they are, it has nothing to do with gender or sex. It also means that I prefer relationships that are more emotional than physical, and I like to get to know someone before we take the next step.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused, this is not just a phase. For most of us, we don't prefer one gender over the other, we are attracted to both. Understand that this doesn't mean we are attracted to every single person, we are attracted to someone because they are attractive to us, not because of their gender.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I had questioned my sexuality since I was in middle school, but denied that I was "different" than all my friends. I continued through high school and college. After a long long summer of figuring out who I really am, I realized that I am bisexual. I kept it hidden for a while and finally couldn't handle hiding anymore so I came out to my immediate family and closest friends. I also came out to a girl I really liked (who is now my girlfriend). After about 5-6 months of being out, I posted on Facebook about it and how having wonderful people to support me was the best thing for me! I'm now feeling more confident about myself and I love myself for me! I'm not hiding anymore and I can finally be myself all the time!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest part about being bi for me was and still are the stigmas that people think about bi people. That if we are in a relationship with someone of the same gender we are gay, and straight if in a relationship with the opposite gender. That we are just confused, or it's just a phase. And the general lack of acceptance.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Finally being able to feel like myself and be myself without having to hide or trying live up to others expectations.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Many are supportive, but many are only tolerant. I have a larger family and only two of them are fully accepting of who I am, and support me no matter what. Everyone else in my family is tolerating me, which includes my father, who I was very close with before I came out. Many of my friends have stated that it doesn't matter to me who I choose to love, as long as I'm happy. I have also had many asking questions and wanted to become more educated and/or become and ally.