United Kingdom

Hi, I‘m ACM. I am Bisexual.

I'm from northern England, I work in sales and have been in an opposite sex relationship for around 9 yrs. my main hobbies and interests involve gaming and comedy. I come from a working class Catholic upbringing but I am myself agnostic.

What being bisexual means to me

For me being bisexual means I don't have limitations on who I can love romantically and feel attracted to. Of course I believe in being committed to one person in a relationship though if single I could see myself falling for a guy or girl and the focus is on them as a person.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

No, bisexuals are not using their identity as a stepping stone. We are not all just confused, And we don't cease to be bisexual once in a committed relationship.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Basically I found both men and women attractive, though I did for a long while think my same sex fellings would eventually disappear. Around the age of 16 I started to accept my bisexuality within myself though have only come out to my parter at the age of 29 after 9 years in an opposite sex relationship.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I'm not sure as I'm not really publicly out unless someone was to ask about my orientation or identity. I guess the fear of not being accepted by both the straight and gay communities has stopped me coming out fully.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Finding all genders attractive in different ways and being able to see past gender identity.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I have only told my long term partner after 9 yrs together and she seems okay about it though she didn't really ask many questions about it.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time and don't allow people to define your identity by your current or past relationships/sexual activity. I believe sexual identity is fluid and can be complicated. Also Don't feel like you have to prove your identity.