Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Kenneth. I am Bisexual.

I'm a fun, chill, awesome dude! I'm not one to spill my guts about myself in a traditional "about me" fashion. What you see is what you get! You may see me anywhere really because I travel a lot and I might just be the most adventurous person I know! Addicted to the thrill of new people, new places, new experiences, learning new things, being a multipotentialite, all while always appreciating all of the wonderful experiences I've had and people I've come to love all across the country.

What being bisexual means to me

I don't particularly agree with labeling people, but I think that being attracted to both genders is an awesome, natural thing! I have noticed many people in my life who are "bisexual" but simply can not acknowledge it because its so hard for them to accept that as a legitimate way of being because they have been conditioned to believe in a false duality of gender preference. To me, there are factors in choosing a lover that are far more important than gender.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

There are many people attracted to both genders. All of us are individual human beings. I don't care what arbitrary label any given person uses to define themselves, we are all unique in our own way. I have seen the detramental psychological effects of labeling human beings and they're almost never good and they're almost always needlessly self limiting. In regards to sexuality, bisexual is the only label I can appreciate to an extent not only because it describes my sexual preference, but also because it is not limiting someone to choose any particular group of people. Also, there are not really as many preset social constructs about what it means to be "bisexual" as there are for other labels.

I think everyone in the world should know that they can be who they want to be and love whatever consenting adults they want however they want to love them without limitations.

I think the world should know that we "bisexual" human beings are real, we are valid, and that stereotypes about us are always wrong because we are all unique individuals.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Got my most confusing times out of the way during my middle school years when I would try to choose one of the two societal labels presented to me at the time- "gay" or "straight". Went through needless internal conflict about myself even though on the outside I began sharing my first sexual experiences with boys and girls alike. I eventually realized it didn't matter which label I chose because neither of them felt "right" to me. I knew that choosing either of those labels would be a lie to both myself and others. So I decided not to choose and to just be me. Being "bisexual" has led me to many awesome lovers of both genders and has indirectly led me towards some awesome experiences in awesome places and with awesome people. I guess being bisexual isn't really what did that for me though... it was simply allowing myself to just be me, to go with my own flow, and to define myself on my own terms by properties that actually matter to me... like honesty, integrity, resilience, and bravery NOT by arbitrary categorization based off skin color, sexual preference, strict religious labeling, etc.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to appreciate a nice perky rack and a strong, manly physique. Being able to experience so many facets of sexuality that my monosexual friends haven't.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Generally, either positive or apathetic. I've honesty even told friends about it who didn't even remember a week later because that's how little it mattered to them.

About 7 years ago, a girl I dated did not like it when she found out through someone else about my past relations with a boy which caused us to split up. I thought I was gonna marry that girl too. I was crushed. It made me upset at the time because I thought I was the one with the problem. Needless to say I eventually realized I wasn't the one with the problem...

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What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Let yourself like who you like and don't let yourself read too much into their gender. Think of gender like you might think of hair color.... do you run around worrying about if you're gonna stick with blondes, brunettes, or *gasp*, both!? (bc you can't REALLY like BOTH, right?). I'm being fecitous of course but no, I'm thinking you prob don't go around worrying about that because you know worrying about that is silly and a waste of time. Well guess what folks, so is worrying about if you're going to stick with guys, girls, or both. When you put it in these terms, even the very premise behind the question sounds silly right? Hopefully we will all see the day when such questions will not have to be asked.