Male

Queer

United States



Hi, I‘m Ryan. I am Queer.

I'm a data scientist and married. We are trying to have kids, but no success yet. I enjoy video games, learning new research techniques, building things, camping, and hiking. We have a big pitbull mix who is my best friend.

What being bisexual means to me

It means I'm attracted to same-gender and other-gender. So... basically that gender is not a primary factor in my attraction.

I am attracted to people who have more purposeful gender expressions - like intentionally masc or femme, or intentionally somewhere not even in between.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We aren't confused, in transition, or indiscriminate in our attraction.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Was 'straight' until college. In high school I remember wanting everyone to be attracted to me, and one time having my palm read by a boy... and really liking the attention. When I was in college I got to experiment a little more.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

People don't understand how it feels, and have trouble relating. There's no conception of how male attention and female attention are different and I want both.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

More interesting variations on a threesome.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Mostly with ignorance and suspicion. Some people with tepid acceptance. My sister was really happy when I told her.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Play around, but don't rush into things.