Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Kelsey. I am Bisexual.

I'm Kelsey! A shy, kind of reclusive budding artist, I work hard when I'm not feeling lazy, I'm passionate, I love drawing, and cartoons, movies, music, writing stories, being creative, playing video games, and making those around me happy. I also LOVE food and want to try everything!

What being bisexual means to me

For me it means comfort. I know who I am, I can be comfortable with who I am and who I love.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Just because I date a woman doesn't make me a lesbian, just because I'm dating a man doesn't mean I'm straight. I'm not confused, it's not that I haven't "made up my mind". I have made up my mind already.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

In High School I had this best friend who was a girl and one day it hit me like a ton of bricks that I was in love with her. Now flash back to Junior High when I was just learning that the whole world isn't just heterosexual, a lot of my friends were realizing what their sexualities were, but I was still keen on the idea of being heterosexual and I had never thought of my life any other way.

Flash back to High School when I realize I am seriously in love with my friend. As you can imagine for a person who was aggressively heterosexual for most of her life, suddenly realizing you're in love with someone of the same gender brings up some questions (or in my case a five year crisis of sexuality). I went to school counselors, talked to other friends, questioned myself, questioned my life style, tried to figure out if she was just an anomaly or if I felt like this all along and I was just pushing it away because I wanted to be "normal".

Five years pass, the feeling about my best friend hadn't gone away and if anything I was starting to like more girls and realize my entire life I had had a thing for other women, which was just adding to my "Oh god am I a lesbian?" crisis. Then I discovered that romantic and sexual attraction were different things. Suddenly I was okay with the idea of being interested in other women. For a while I kept the idea of being a Hetero-romantic bisexual, but eventually I realized that I love women romantically just as much as I love men so I dropped the romantic and am just happily bisexual.

Long story short: I fell in love with my best friend, huge five year long sexuality crisis happened, I found out about bisexuality, and crisis was averted and I could finally stop stressing about my sexuality and be happily and platonically in love with my (asexual and aromantic) Best Friend.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

There's so little bisexual representation in media that's done in a positive light.

Also people think you're just attention seeking (and as a tween I thought the same thing too) or just sleep around.

Additionally if you're in a relationship with someone people are quick to dismiss your bisexuality and claim that you're something you're not.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

When I came out to my friends they all told me that they were happy that I got through my five year struggle to figure out what I was. It took much longer to come out to my family, and when I did it was spur of the moment. My mom told me that it was fine and fully accepted me for it, so that was a giant weight lifted off my shoulders.