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Hi, I‘m Jade. My sexuality is Fluid.

My name is Veronica. I am 30 years old and live in Fayetteville, North Carolina. I’ll probably stand out from other bisexual individuals because I also have Asperger’s Syndrome, a mild form of autism. Also, my bisexuality is very fluid. One day I may experience high attractions towards men, then women the next day. I’m currently studying Early Childhood Education and hope to graduate in 2019. I have a twin sister named Jessica (whose also autistic) who I love dearly. I hope this site will help me accept my bisexuality and just live life to the fullest.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bisexual means being attracted to both men and women. It is a sexual orientation, not a phase. It is also something that should be acknowledged more often in the LGBT community.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused. We just happen to be attracted to both genders. We will love who we love, just like everyone else. And just because we are bisexual does not mean that we will cheat on our partners. It would be easier if we said that we were gay or straight, but this isn’t the case. We are bisexual, gay and straight put together.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

When I was in third grade, I started noticing certain body parts on a female. But I did not think much of it, hey, I was just a kid. However, when I was in fourth grade, I had my first crush on a guy. This went on all through middle school. At the same time, I stared at girls often in middle school. But I did not give that much thought. Fast forward to adulthood, my attraction to women started to take affect much more intensely. However, I knew I could not come out as a lesbian because I have experienced attractions to men as well. So this is how I knew that I was bisexual.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest thing about being bisexual is the fact that you have to come out to every person that you experience interest in. It’s also the fact that coming out will never end.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual is that your options (as far as dating) are a lot more open than the straight and gay communities.The best of both worlds baby!

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

The people in my life are very supportive, especially my family and my friend of 10 years, Michael. I'm so blessed to have them. Without them, I don't know what I would do.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time. It's a process to figure out if you are bi or not. As far as coming out, do this when you feel deep down in your heart that you're ready. It will not be easy, but in the end, you will feel a sense of freedom.