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Hi, I‘m Kate. I am Bisexual.

Hey! I'm Kate (ostensibly the Great). I grew up in Columbus, OH, live in Spokane, WA, and work in Bend, OR! I work in a wilderness residential treatment program, helping young folks with issues like addiction, trauma, family dynamics, and mental health problems while backpacking in Oregon. I am very passionate about the work I do! In my off time, I enjoy long distance biking, playing ukulele, climbing, drawing, and delving into sci-fi and fantasy (especially J.R.R. Tolkien). I'm a huge weirdo, which I totally embrace.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexuality is... freedom. It's knowing who I am and being okay with it. It's being in a relationship and being open about my sexuality. It's belonging and relating in both straight and LGBT communities - and appreciating both.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuality is real; and we get enough disbelief that we tend to be very open minded and understanding folks!

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I still remember the first time I ever felt sexually attracted to someone... her name was Siobhan. She was gorgeous; dark hair and sky blue eyes. I was smitten with her. We were neighbors and I wanted to spend every moment with her. As I grew up, I never thought there was anything different about the fact that I found my own gender and others attractive. Then came college, and freedom, and finally putting a name to what I felt. I was open with family and friends about myself. It helped being at a liberal school and loving who I loved without judgement. I sometimes feel like I had it very easy; my family and friends were and are open to my truth. I love being bi, and wouldn't have it any other way.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I hate being assumed straight or gay based on who I'm with and their presentation. There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Freedom. Love. Appreciating all love and all kinds of folk.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be yourself.