Female

Bisexual

United Kingdom



Hi, I‘m Sophie. I am Bisexual.

I am Sophie, I'm 20 years old, and from the UK. I am currently studying for a degree in Criminology. Music is an enormous passion of mine, I am self-taught acoustic guitar and could happily sit and play all day long. My absolute dream is to be a polyglot - this is someone who is able to use multiple languages.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bisexual is having the ability to love without gender, it is the true expression of 'love it blind.'

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We aren't greedy, confused, liars or cheaters. We just want to love and be loved in return, just like anyone else in this world.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I was always aware that I looked at boys and girls the same way when I was young. It wasn't until I was around 15 that I began to understand what I was feeling. However, due to other events happening in my life at that time, I just pushed all of those feelings down until they were blurred out enough for me to ignore them. It wasn't until I got to University aged 19, that I was able to let go of all of those restraints I had on myself, and that was the best feeling.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The stigma is 100% the toughest part about being bisexual. When I was 14/15, I had a friend who told me that being bisexual was disgusting, wrong, and greedy (a girl we knew had come out as bisexual). This was absolutely soul crushing. Growing up, my dad was never homophobic, but not really pro-lgbtq, so this made me delay 'coming out' for a long time.

It is also the looks that I get when I say 'I am bisexual.' I hate to generalise and point the finger of blame, but it is usually from lads. It is like I've gone from a human being to a piece of meat in the space of two seconds. As if I'm just going to sleep with them and it will automatically become a threesome because I'm bisexual.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

As I've already said, the ability to love beyond gender, is the absolute greatest part of being bisexual.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My friend's reactions have been the best. One friend said "well I'll just add that to the list of things I already knew," another said "I always knew you were as bent as [name]'s funny tooth" (she was referring to her boyfriend's tooth. Only two people have been surprised so far; my dad, and my oldest friend.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Don't worry and do not stress. I made this mistake and I ended up putting so much pressure on myself I became very ill. Coming out isn't easy. Some people will tell you that you 'have it easy' because you're not 'a full gay' or that the lgbt community has a lot of support now so it is easy for you to be accepted. However, they don't know what is going on in your head, only you do. I hope that you are all coping well, and if you need any help, if you need to talk, if you have a question; then please do not hesitate to contact me on any of the social media links on here.