Male

Bisexual

Canada



Hi, I‘m Mike. I am Bisexual.

Although I have been bisexual for over 30 years I only just recently came out via Facebook in April 2016. The support and positive comments have been amazingly awesome. It's nothing short of huge weight off my shoulders. It is groups such as bi.org that have made it easier to not be afraid and to be happy and just be me :)

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bi means being yourself. Be happy, be proud! Love yourself and others will love you.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Contrary to popular belief we are not sluts and we are not attracted to everyone. We just want what everyone else wants, the only difference is it doesn't matter to us which gender someone is.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

It was a very long path. I was in the closet for over 30 years. During that time, being bi was more of a physical/sexual/fantasy and a stress/loneliness reliever for me. I constantly fought my urges and battled with myself. And yet, I couldn't escape who I am. I have finally accepted myself and came out via Facebook. I am happy I did. I am and always will be bisexual, I am attracted to both genders and no longer shy about being bi

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

For me, it is definitely acceptance: not of other people, but of myself. It has been a constant battle. Even now that I have come out, I am still fighting myself. It's like I feel this need to be "normal" even though I know being BI is "normal" and there is nothing wrong with it. I am still learning to let go, relax, and be myself

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I can be myself, everything

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

The support and positive comments from my friends has been nothing short of amazing. It has been a huge relief and weight off my shoulders. It also gave me an opportunity to let people really know the real me. I have felt I have no regrets other than wishing I had come out sooner.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

That's a hard one. It depends if you have been with someone of the same sex or not. In a society that only teaches us how to be straight, it takes time to figure things out. Above all, don't beat yourself up over it. Just be true to yourself. There are a lot of online groups you can join via Facebook and talk to people if you don't feel comfortable talking to people who know you. As far as coming out, just know you might have positive support and you may have negative reactions also. Just know you don't have to come out to everyone, at least not at first. It's all about feeling good about yourself and being honest.