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Hi, I‘m Georgie. I am Bisexual.

Hey yall! I'm a North Carolina gal, avid reader, kayaker, beer snob and rabid ice hockey fan! I recently relocated to the western part of North Carolina from my "home" on the coast. My move has put me back in touch with some lesbian friends I was close to years ago when I identified as straight. I've identified as bisexual for about 20 years but now I really feel the need to be as "out" as possible due to some of the negativity I'm experiencing in the LGBT community.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual is just who I am. I've had committed and short term relationships with men and women. I follow my laws of attraction and can't imagine limiting who I am attracted to by gender.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I'd like the world to know that just like being gay, straight or trans, bisexuality is not a choice...It's just another part of your human identity.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I grew up in a time and a place that homosexuality was limited to rumors about the church organist who never married and the "lezbo" gym teacher. I didn't actually know any out gay people until I went to college in my late 20s. Even then I identified as straight. I was in my 30s when I had my first relationship with a woman. Suddenly things made a lot more sense! It probably took me another 10 years for me to true my identify as bisexual.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest part of trying to be an out bisexual is the discrimination I've encountered from lesbians. My gay male friends and straight friends don't seem to care but my gay female friends seem uneasy. I've actually had a woman request her wife not be seated beside me at a friend's dinner party because I was a "penis monger". That hurt.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best part of being bisexual...especially an out bisexual...is not having to limit who I am attracted to by gender.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Most people aren't really phased by my bisexuality. It isn't a topic over dinner every night. To my close family and friends it's just part of the millions of things that make up who I am.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be true to your heart and your head! I'm so glad that my kids got to grow up in a time when your sexual orientation just isn't that big a deal.