Male

Bisexual

Australia



Hi, I‘m Calum. I am Bisexual.

I'm an Australian filmmaker, obsessed with movies, grew up in front of the cinema screen and I aim to create my own studio and business in the coming years. I love a good book, I enjoy playing funy, kid-friendly video games and I have a wonderfully supportive family. I've been battling depression since I was fifteen, and anxiety for almost a year now and it's a horrible thing to deal with. I like to believe in the good of humanity despite the negativity we see on the news. I love all kinds of music, but my favourite bands are Nirvana, Tool, Pearl Jam, Grizzly Bear, The Decemberists, Lamb of God, Slipknot, Al Namrood, I love Bjork, Bill Callahan, Philip Glass, Hans Zimmer, James Newton Howard, Alti Orvarsson amongst many, many others. I only dislike rap. My favourite kinds of film and TV are horror, sci-fi, comedy, action. I love DC Comics and their shows Arrow, Flash, Supergirl, Legends of Tomorrow, Constantine etc. I love Jason Voorhees and Michael Myers, I love Star Wars and Trek (more a Padawan than Trekkie). My favourite films and TV shows include Where The Wild Things Are, Fight Club, Batman v Superman Dawn of Justice, Weeds, King of the Hill, MXC. My favourite authors include HP Lovecraft, Stephen King, Edgar Allan Poe, Theodore Roszak, Lewis Carroll...I also like the odd Mills and Boon/Harlequin book ... shh don't tell anyone! I'm a fierce cook when I'm not feeling lazy and I love sharing a good meal with those I love, as well as a good movie.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means my future lies with a man, woman or someone in transition. Bisexuality is a gift to enable me to look beyond gender norms and binaries to look at the person inside, regardless of genitalia.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are the underdogs of the LGBT community and we are believed not to exist, or be important. I am raising my voice to say we are not "greedy", "gay in denial", "habitual cheaters" or any other bizarre negative stereotype ignorance attaches to us. We are no more likely to cheat than a straight or gay person, we are not automatically polygamous or polyamorous and can be monogamous just like straight and gay people and we are NOT in denial. We can love anyone in this world, don't tell me I can't.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path was a confusing one. Relying on internet pornography during puberty, I was able to access all kinds of pornography from straight to gay, vanilla to hardcore and many, many fetishes in between.

Watching the Disney film Sky High also made me realise, when I was 15, that I was bisexual as I found myself attracted to males in the film, but was harbouring a huge crush on a female school friend, and during the film it dawned on me: "I am bisexual."

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The confusion of whether I am truly bisexual or simply gay, it's a constant battle but the confusion begins to die down the more confidence you gain in your identity.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The possibility of raising a family with a man, woman or someone transitioning. While the idea and uncertainty is scary, the possibility is also tremendously positive and exciting.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I'm not tremendously open. I don't go out of my way to hide it, but I don't make a big show of it either. You don't see straight people going on about how straight they are.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Love yourself and explore. Don't be afraid. Be safe. Take care of yourself. Don't let negativity set up house in your head. You are who you are, you have to work that out for yourself, but you have a huge community behind you, ready to accept you for whoever you realise you are.