Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Bianca. I am Bisexual.

I'm from Las Vegas, NV. I work as a busser at a restaurant. I love to dance, hike, cook, party, veg out, enjoy my friends & family...

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means being attracted to men and women sexually and/or romantically. I also believe you can be any gender, find yourself attracted to many gender identities, and still be bi. It's an attraction to feminine and masculine. You can see sexiness and beauty in all genders as a bisexual person. It's a desire to bond deeply with multiple genders. Being bisexual means accepting that you are different from gay or straight, and accepting that people might not acknowledge or understand that.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuality is real. It is different than being straight or gay. We aren't confused. It takes exploration and soul searching sometimes to reach a conclusion about your sexuality, but that doesn't mean that someone is confused. It could take minutes or years to understand your sexuality.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

When I was a little girl, I always had crushes on boys. In kindergarten, I remember having a crush on a boy. A few years after that, I started developing an interest in girls. I started to pine for my best girl friend in elementary school. I developed sexual feelings at a very young age, as I was about 9 or 10 at that time. I was confused suddenly. I started to wonder if I were straight or gay, because my attraction to boys and girls continued. I high school, I knew what I was. I accepted that I was bisexual. I knew my family would accept me, as they were always supportive and understanding. But, I was shy about it. I told a few friends, and avoided telling others, as there were a few homophobes in high school. I stopped caring about judgement around 18 or 19, and told my sister and boyfriend at the time. I am so glad I have a wonderful, supportive family and great friends today. I feel free and whole knowing I can say who I am without fear.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

It's really tough coming out. It's tough coming to the bisexual conclusion, as liking both genders as a youth is confusing. It's tough when guys get jealous, and try to demean women for being attracted to a gender other than their own. It's tough when people think bisexuality isn't a part of the lgbt community, and that bisexual people don't need support. It's tough when people assume you're confused, lying, trying to get attention, or a, "slut" (wtf is a slut anyway?).

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

You get to enjoy masculinity and femininity as a bisexual person. Men and women both have wonderful things to offer. I think it also helps to understand people more. You get a more well-rounded understanding of men and women sexually and/or romantically.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some with jealousy, some with shock, or kindness, acceptance, awkwardness, disgust, intrigue, attraction, and more... Pretty much every reaction you can think of.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Really look into yourself and listen to your heart. Don't worry about what anyone else will think. Your sexuality is your right to either be open about, or keep private. But, Remember that bottling the truth or emotions will be toxic to your soul... So if you are closeted, but it's hurting your happiness, please consider coming out, and find a supportive group of loving people to be around. Once you realize who you are, and you take that terrifying plunge into the ocean of honesty and openness, you will be free. You will feel whole.