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Hi, I‘m Kyra. I am Bisexual.

Hello, my name is Kyra I was born and raise in Northern Utah most of my life. I lived in a very sheltered world. I now reside in Eastern Wisconsin. I was raised in the Mormon church. I am deaf, I lost my right hearing at the age of three and my left hearing at the age of six. I now have a Cochlear Implant and have had it for 17 years now and absolutely love it as it really brings out my independence side. I don't think I've truly found an hobby I enjoy but I do enjoy playing video games, it's a good distraction for me and a perfect stress reliever. I am a college student , majoring in Medical, Billing and Coding. I am very excited for this chapter of my life because I'm actually pursuing an career and to prep myself to hopefully settle down, get married, start a family.

What being bisexual means to me

What does bisexual mean to me? Bisexual to me means that I am attracted to both genders. I tend to flock to men more than I do with women. But I do have a benefit when it comes to attractiveness of a women where I can help my guy friends by being their 'wing-man' I have a very particular taste when it comes to women by how they look, hair color, body type and most of all their personality. With men I don't care what they look like as long as they treat me well and of course their personality is important to me as well.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I want to advocate for bisexual because I know bisexual is not very well known as gay and lesbians. Did you know that bisexuals have a harder time coming out of the closet than gay and lesbians? Being bisexual is something you should be proud of, it's something you truly identify with.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Since i mentioned that I led a sheltered life and being raised in the Mormon church has really prevented me to come out to my true self. At the age of fourteen years old, I knew I was different than the others I attended church with, I felt really left out. I knew at that moment that if I came out as a bisexual individual that I would get excommunicated from the church, get disowned from my family and get judged because the church does not support it. So I kept my sexuality in the closet for so long until I started dating a guy who told me he is bisexual, it came to light that maybe I could really redeem myself and have his support in me coming out. I started telling my close friends of my sexuality they were very supportive, next I told my cousin who is 6 months apart so we were really close, he was also supportive so I thought okay so far so good maybe I can actually come out to my parents. So when I was ready, I called my mom on Skype and I told her, she was pretty shocked but she told me, that it was not something she wanted for me but still loves me no matter what. I told my Dad at a different time and now he won't speak a word to me. I took it hard but now I realize that I'm not the one that's missing out, he is the one that is. I am now much more at peace and happy knowing that I can tell the world of who I really am and not have to hide anymore. But now that I've gone public, I get really harsh words thrown at my face. So this is why I really want to tell my story and encourage people that it is okay to tell people who you are.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I think the toughest thing about being bisexual that you are not as recognized as gay and lesbian does. It's tough to hear when people tell you oh you are a part time lesbian, a attention whore, a sex addict. Also one other thing that really bothers me when people make a comment that bisexual people shouldn't settle down because they are attracted to both genders. I try not to let it get to me but since I've gone public I think it bothers me more that we are not recognized and gets pushed aside or tells us oh you are gay not straight. What is wrong with being bisexual? Nothing, nothing at all. I really wish people knew that bisexual is a thing, it exists.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I think the best thing about being bisexual is that you have more than one choice. I think one of the things I enjoy is that I can talk with my guy friends and comment on how hot a girl is. I think that's pretty much what I know of so far.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I think mostly people have reacted really well or really bad on my bisexuality. I don't think there's a happy medium when it comes to people's reaction; They are either supportive or turn against me.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

My advice to you is, if you are struggling in coming out as bi, is that you should, when you are ready to come out to your very close friends because that's your comfort zone you are comfortable with them and know they will support you. Once you get the support from your close friends, tell a cousin or a aunt or uncle that you are more comfortable with or even your parents if that's what you feel comfortable with. Once you get their support, your support system grows you have people supporting you and I think that's when if you haven't done so and is ready to come out to your parents. I know it's the most scary thing in the world to tell your parents because you fear rejection from them. Been there, done that. But if they support or don't you still have a great support system already, use them. Your parents will come to an realization that this is who you are.