United States

Hi, I‘m Alicia. I am Pansexual.

Hi there! My name is Alicia, and I'm an 18-year-old panseuxal female. I live in the United States, in the state of Illinois. I'm a recent high school graduate. I plan on attending community college in the fall. I love to read and write. I spend a lot of my free time on YouTube because I'm incredibly lazy. I live with my parents and 3 younger brothers. One of my younger brothers is gay. He and I can relate to the struggles of not being heterosexual well. I'm currently unemployed, but I hope to be soon.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bisexual, especially being pansexual, simply means I'm willing to date people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. I like the inclusivity and and openness being pansexual gives me. Being pansexual has allowed me to better understand and empathize with people who also aren't heterosexual.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I would like the world to know that bisexuality is very real, and those who are bisexual are very human. It stings to be told a core facet of your identity isn't real or is wrong. Try to think about how being told an important part of your identity is wrong or isn't real would make you feel. It wouldn't feel good. That's how bisexual people and people of other sexual orientations feel when you treat them that way.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I began to notice I wasn't heterosexual from a young age. First, I noticed a lack of attraction to both men and women when other girls my age were starting to be attracted to boys. I still don't feel very sexually attracted to people I don't know well. But I've found I'm open to dating anyone if I know them well enough and want to have a relationship. My family knows I'm not heterosexual, but few of them know I'm open to dating people of all gender identities and sexual orientations.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

For me, the toughest thing about being bisexual, specifically pansexual, is the lack of understanding surrounding bisexuality. People either think bisexual people are confused or sinful. I'm not confused. I'm just attracted to everyone. You can't be confused about something you've been sure about from a very young age.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

To me, the best thing about being pansexual is that my dating options are a lot more inclusive and open than many other's people's. Being pansexual has also helped to instill a sense of empathy in me toward people from all walks of life. Being pansexual has helped shape me into who I am today, and I wouldn't change that for the world.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Few people know about my pansexuality. My mother and one of my brothers know I'm panseuxal, and that's about it. They're very accepting of it. My father wouldn't be nearly as accepting if he knew. He has very restricted ideas about sexuality. He thinks one can either be heterosexual or homosexual. He doesn't believe one can be bisexual. The fact that he thinks that way stings.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

My advice for anyone who is bisexual and is confused or feels something is wrong with them, know that there is nothing wrong with you. You are who you are, and that's perfectly okay. Know that those with negative ideas about bisexuality or any other sexual orientation are mistaken. There are plenty of people like you out there who are willing to accept you just as you are.