Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Thomas. I am Bisexual.

I was raised in Michigan, but I joined the Army when I was 18 and spent 6 years in Virginia, and 30 years in Texas. Texas is my adopted state. I am retired from the Army and the maintenance department of our local school district. My wife retired two years ago. I was bicurious as a young man, but I never acted on it during my first marriage. After my current wife (we've been married 24 years) and I got married, we discussed sexuality and found that we had a mutual attraction toward members of both sexes. We had a (too short, unfortunately) relationship with a good friend (male) of ours. My wife understands my bisexuality and embraces it. It is definitely not a threat to our marriage.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual, to me, means that I am attracted to both sexes, both sexually and romantically. I enjoy being in a relationship with women and men. I embrace ALL forms of sexuality (LGBTQ). I believe we were all born with our sexuality. God loves all of us regardless of our sexuality. I believe I am not going to hell for being bisexual. ☺

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we are as God created us.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path to my bisexual identity was paved by my loving and compassionate, beautiful wife. She loves me for who I am and in NO way feels threatened by my sexuality.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Deciding who to come out to.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I am able to love and embrace all men and women. ☺

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Mostly with surprise, but overall, with loving support.☺

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Read as much as you can about bisexuality. Consider the consequences carefully before deciding who you want to come out to. But most of all, be true to yourself, take care of number one and be strong. Remember the world IS slowly becoming more enlightened. ☺