Female

Bisexual

United Kingdom



Hi, I‘m Vicky. I am Bisexual.

I am from Hertfordshire, UK. I am married to a guy and have two young children, the eldest of which started school last September. Work-wise I do bookkeeping and finance. I really enjoy my work. TV-wise I like things like 24, Blindspot, CSI cyber, Homeland, Breaking Bad, Supernatural, Dexter, Arrow and The Flash. I am polyamorous and generally, ethically non-monogamous.

What being bisexual means to me

I wasn't sure whether to choose bisexual or queer under the "bisexual identity" option, above.

Queer is often easier, as there are a lot of misconceptions that bisexuals only like male/female genders.

However, bisexual is the most accurate description I think, and it shows solidarity with other bisexuals.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused.

We are not going through a phase.

We aren't straight people experimenting.

We aren't gay people in denial.

We are no more likely to cheat than those who are straight or gay.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Although I probably should have realised earlier, I didn't realise I was bisexual until I was about 14 or 15, when I realised I liked women as well as men.

I hadn't really heard of being bisexual before that. I knew I wasn't gay, as I liked men, but I knew I liked women too.

I came out six months after my 16th birthday. Although, I got married to a guy 5 years later, and hadn't had a serious relationship with a girl, so I think people thought I was straight and experimenting, but I am very open still about being bisexual, so often it's a re-coming out.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

People thinking my sexuality doesn't exist; that it isn't real.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Not being limited by gender.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Most people have been quite supportive.

When I first came out, my parents did think I was gay, but in partial denial.

I know some acquaintances who don't "believe in" bisexuality, but they have never said anything to me personally.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Embrace it, yourself. Your sexuality is real.