United States

Hi, I‘m Cate. I am Bisexual.

I play guitar. I enjoy running, reading and writing. My favorite TV shows include: The Office (U.S.), Breaking Bad and Mad Men. I dance randomly. My favorite drinks are coffee and beer. I live in the Twin Cities area of Minnesota. I am Christian and am non-denominational.

What being bisexual means to me

I am attracted to two or more genders. I always have been. I think there's power in saying that you're bi, or bisexual, if that's how you identify.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are here. We exist. We deserve the same services as everyone else in the LGBT+ community. Our identity is valid and matters, just as everyone else's identity matters.

We also need more positive representation in the media. And, we need media characters and real people to actually say the words "bi" and "bisexual".

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My first crushes were on girls. There was this girl, Emma, who I adored; and looking back, there were times when I'd be daydreaming about kissing girls. I also had crushes on boys. I dated guys, but knew I could date either males or females.

I came to a women's college and really started noticing my attraction to females. I didn't really let myself explore these feelings until I was 19 or 20.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

People thinking that I've "made a choice" based on the gender I'm currently dating.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Knowing that I could date anyone, regardless of gender. It's also nice not having to change pronouns when I sing love songs.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My sister reacted strongly. Currently, none of my roommates are straight. My sister believes I just "chose" this identity because of who I live with. I did not choose this. I've always been bi. I didn't fully accept it until I was 21.

My partner has been amazing through this and I have a supportive network in the LGBT+ community.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

It's a process and that's okay. Don't be scared; there are resources out there for people like us. You don't have to come out to friends or family if it's not safe for you.