Trans woman

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Rickie Jean. I am Bisexual.

I'm a transwoman living in a medium-sized town that has yet to make it into the 21st century. I have to travel 2 hours into San Francisco to find help and understanding with my gender identity. I have been very lucky. I have a few great friends who have been there for me in very difficult times. They are more family than friends. I not only want to find love in friendship, but hope to find love on a very personal level.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bi means that gender doesn't create a barrier, but more of a means, to finding love and friendship. To me, it's a means by which we can find common ground and bridge gaps that, in other ways, might seem impossible to traverse. I consider myself to be bi, though I do lean more toward women, and at times, consider myself more lesbian than bi. But, men do attract me, though not as much as women.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I think the world has a lot to learn from bisexual people. Being bi means that you are trying to gain an understanding of all genders. We tend to see people as people, and not as male or female.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I learned at a pretty young age that I was bi, and even told my mom when I was only 15. Though, even back then, I was more attracted to women.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Without missing a beat, it's got to be finding love. Men find me attractive, and though I don't count them out, I truly want to find a close relationship that could eventually lead to marriage.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Again, without missing a beat, that would have to be the opportunity to find love.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Because I am bi, I have found that I am a bit more accepted than if I was flat-out lesbian. My experience has been that bi women are more attracted to me than lesbians.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time. Find yourself, because no one can help you do that. We might guide you, but only you can determine who you are. Don't let outside influences force you into making decisions about yourself too hastily.