United States

Hi, I‘m Jonathan. I am Bisexual.

Dad and lawyer by day; superhero by night.

What being bisexual means to me

Being able to be attracted to the inner and outer beauty of people, irrespective of their gender identity.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we are created this way, born this way, and develop throughout our lives this wa,y and it is not a life choice or a phase.

That human sexuality is not a black or white choice and there are various shades of grey in between.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I've known that I was bi since I was a very young child, and I'm 50 now. The road in between those years has been so incredibly stressful, sad and rough, because of my feelings of being strange, isolated and alone. I felt that I had no place where I really fit in and no one to discuss my differences with.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Feeling that you are so different from others, and that you need to hide who you are as a result.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to appreciate the inner and outer beauty of others without focusing on their gender identity.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I told my wife very recently, and she's been as supportive as possible (although it has definitely been very challenging). I also have one friend, similarly situated, who has been incredibly helpful and supportive.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Love yourself for who you are, and recognize that you didn't ask to be created this way; you are who you are, and this is just part of what makes you special. Forgive yourself for not being entirely out and truthful because of your fears of being judged or ridiculed or hated. Allow yourself to appreciate the challenges of being in the middle of two worlds: straight and gay. Take care of yourself and find ways to relax and find inner peace.