Hi, I‘m Brian. I am Bisexual. I'm a married, 48 year old male. I came out to my wife just one week ago. We are working on keeping our marriage intact and working on my sexuality. I live in Louisville, Kentucky, USA. I work for a large appliance manufacturer, GE. I'm am a sports enthusiast . My favorite teams are University of Louisville, the Cincinnati Reds and the Pittsburg Steelers. I have three grown children, one grown step-daughter, and two beautiful granddaughters.
I'm the youngest of eight children. I had one brother who was gay, and he died in 1986. I have an older sister who is also gay. I'm the only bisexual in the family. With coming out being so new, my wife is the only one who knows, but I plan on letting others know, including my children.
What being bisexual means to me.
What I would like the world to know about bisexualsThat there are a lot of us out here, and we have to tell our story. It's very common, and married men need to come out to their wives or they will never be happy.
What was your path to a bisexual identity?I have been attracted to both sexes since I was in my twenties. I kept my attraction to men a secret for over twenty-five years. Finally, after two failed long-term relationships and one failed marriage, I knew I had to do something. My current wife, of two years, found out from gay porn and other things. So, I finally told her, and she accepted it, and we are working through this together.
What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?Coming out to my wife.
What is the best thing about being bisexual?Now that my wife knows, we can work on our marriage and on my sexuality. I don't have to go behind her back like I used too.
How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?My wife is the only one that I have come out too. This just happened a week ago.
What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?Be honest with yourself and your loved ones. It makes you feel free and able to go on with your life without feeling guilty.