Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Cerina. I am Bisexual.

Hey, I'm Cerina. For now, I'm studying at NAU, but the more I continue with it the more I realize it's not for me. I love to write (mostly poems). I have gone through a lot, like most of us, and I've been lost for a while, but I personally know who I am now.

What being bisexual means to me

I, personally, like both males and females, and that's that nothing surprising or weird.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We aren't half and half, nor do we want a threesome with everyone (because that's the biggest thing I get asked from people). Also, you don't need to come out as early as others. I am still hiding it from family, and I try not to bring it up in front of my straight "chick friends," because I'm scared to creep them out.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Well, I have been in hetero relationships all my life, and have looked at girls and, I guess, flirted with them (that's what others have told me). And, yes, I found them attractive and sexy, but I thought that was normal.

Last year, during my last year of high school, my transgender friend, who is transitioning, educated me about bisexuality. I told him about myself, and at first we thought I was a biromantic heterosexual, because during that time I was in a serious relationship with a guy. So, I didn't think too much about it.

When my boyfriend and I broke up, I started to reevaluate who I am, and I now realize I'm bisexual. Practically everyone is okay with it and like I'm still close with my ex. But, I feel behind in my life.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

My troubles are different than most because I'm in college and recently came out as bi. No one wants to "help" in a sense, and I don't blame them. Also, nobody trusts us (bi people) because we cheat so much, or so they say.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

In all honesty, the best thing is that you can enjoy the best of both worlds. Also, you're more open-minded because now you understand more about both gay and straight relationships.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My friends are accepting. I have a lot of gay friends, so now they are trying to hook me up with girls, which makes me laugh so hard. My family, on the other hand, doesn't know. They probably won't reject me, but it's not open arms either. I would be teased and questioned, so I'd rather not deal with it.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

I don't know because I'm still figuring stuff out.