I'm a composer, songwriter and multi-instrumentalist. I write music for television shows, feature films and commercials. I have been coming out as bisexual for 15 years, and can often be found at events sponsored by AmBi and Sex Positive L.A. I am proud of my bisexuality and thrilled to be right at home in our vibrant LGBTQ community.
What being bisexual means to me
This has changed many times over the years. Initially, it meant that I could have sexual play with both men and women. This was very liberating and a lot of fun. As time moved along, I noticed that my group of close friends was expanding to include all kinds of wonderful and interesting platonic friendships across the bi spectrum. I love this community!
What I would like the world to know about bisexuals
Bisexuals are people. And like all people, they can range from wonderful to not so wonderful.
For the most part, though, I find my bisexual friends to be thoughtful, intelligent, eclectic, playful, accepting, friendly and forward-thinking.
What was your path to a bisexual identity?
It was a long, fun and adventurous road starting at age 10.
What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?
Having to explain my orientation to people who have fixed ideas rooted in myths of what bisexuality means.
What is the best thing about being bisexual?
The friendships, the community, the connection, the love.
How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?
Mostly well. Some were confused. Some reacted a little awkwardly. Nothing particularly harsh has been said to my face. :)
What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?
You are not alone. Join amBi on meetup.com and go to some of the social events to meet some bi folks. Attend some bi discussion groups at an LGBT center and see if you find the people and experience helpful or enlightening.