Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Tessa. I am Bisexual.

Hi, I'm Tessa :) I'm a junior in high school. I spend a lot of time on tumblr (like, a LOT). I love musical theater (omg HAMILTON!) and I call myself a writer. I danced since I was three but quit last year (I think I danced for around 12 years but ew math no exact years lol).

What being bisexual means to me

I'd be happy in a relationship with either a girl or a guy.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We're normal people too. And no, we're not gay or lesbian sometimes and straight other times. We're bi.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Ok. So my school was having Pride Day during spirit week, and I didn't have anything to wear/show my support with even though I wanted to. My friend had a headband that was beaded and read "BISEXUAL" and she asked if I wanted it. Of course, I didn't want to wear it if I wasn't actually bi, so I thought about it. I thought back to in elementary school, and I remember thinking back then "If I was a guy, I would date Taylor Swift" (my little 6 year old mind didn't realize that girls could date girls lol). And I realized "yeah I guess I'm bi." Very casual. I came out to all of my friends (and the whole school I guess) by wearing the headband. Funny thing, that same day, a different friend of mine came out as bi, too.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Knowing that some people might not accept me because of who I like, or that the LGBT community might treat me poorly (it's never happened to me though)

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Idk, freedom I guess. I can date who I want without having to explain my partner's gender to anyone (if that makes sense)

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Pretty fine. I haven't told my family, just my mom and dad and friends. My friends were totally cool with it, but my parents had a hard time (although I think that was purely because of how they found out). My mom referred to it as "being confused" though, which really bugs me because she's pretty accepting with the rest of the lgbt community

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Don't stress about it too much. Yes, having a label for yourself is nice, but also, sexuality is fluid. Plus, there's not a super strict rule book either, so even if you like guys a hell of a lot more than you like girls, but you still like girls a little bit, then who cares, call yourself bi if you want too.