Female

Bisexual

Australia



Hi, I‘m lee. I am Bisexual.

I am a happily married 40 year old woman .I have been married to my man for 13 years and I have three children.I live in Perth,western Australia.But I am from New Zealand originally.I love travelling and I love to paint and be creative.I'm a pre school teacher.

What being bisexual means to me

It is one aspect of who I am.It took me until 40 for me to really understand that I am bisexual.Growing up I only heard about gays or Lesbians and bisexuality wasn't as widely known then as it is now (atleast not where I grew up).But I have always known I was abit different .It was only when I began reading about bisexuality that it all clicked into place for me.That "ah ha!" realization.I have always been fascinated by women aswell as men and I know I am capable of falling in love with either gender.It's just I understand it abit more now .

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are all different but at the end of the day we just are attracted to who we are attracted to..Also, many of us are in committed relationships ( ME for example) . Personally,my attractions to others can be in different ways eg some are more emotional and sometimes it is just a physical or sexual attraction.
And even if I am married to my man for the rest of my day's,it does not mean I am any less bisexual.I am what I am and I can't change it anymore than a straight, gay or Lesbian person could change their sexuality.And I wouldn't want to change .

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

It's been a LONG path ! I remember first being fascinated with the same sex at a young age (eg My mothers friend).I was 12 when I first experimented with a friend and I liked hanging out with her and her lesbian friends.But, It was only recently when I felt myself being very attracted to a female friend of mine that I began to seriously question myself. I know I am bisexual because it feels right and natural for me.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

It can be lonely.I don't know any other bi friends .And I feel like a lot of straight and gay folk don't "get us" bi people.I can kind of understand that because it is not just black and white-straight or gay,Being bi,there is such a wide scope and I don't think people know what to do with us! lol. But seriously,we do exist and it is hurtful reading about the distrust and biphobia that many bisexual people have to face.That kind of puts me off coming out .But I will because hiding who I am will only aid in this "Bisexuality isn't real" nonsense.We count!


What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I can love a person for WHO they are,not what gender they are.I see that as a blessing.I thnk it enriches my life.It feels good being part of a huge worldwide community of like minded people.I think we are really interesting and awesome! :)

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Having only recently identified as bisexual means I am still processing it all.When the time is right I will tell my husband I am bisexual .He knows I like woman so it may not be a shock for him.As for everyone else,i plan to get a bi sign tattoed on my wrist and if they ask what it means then I will tell them. :)



What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Believe in your own truth.Don't listen to the skeptics.If you believe yourself to be bisexual,then you are bisexual.And find some supportive bi friends as that is what I am trying to do.