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Hi, I‘m Briggitte. I am Bisexual.

My name is Briggitte. I am 20 years old and I live in Chatsworth, California. I was born and raised here. However, I am no longer living with my parents due to the fact that they kicked me out (because of my sexuality). I have 3 brothers. Two older brothers and one younger. I swam competitively from age 4-19. I have been life-guarding and teaching swim lessons since I was 15 years old. As of summer of 2014, I have been coaching a club swim team as well. I am a student at Los Angeles Pierce College. I am working on getting my personal trainer's license and trying to figure out what else I am going to do with my life. My favorite pastimes are lifting weights, swimming, spending time with friends, helping people, hiking, driving, dancing, partying, and writing. I am very good and reading people and having a sense for who they are and their intentions. I can read situations and somewhat predict the outcome. Because of this, I am also very good at helping people in many different situations and I enjoy doing that for them. I am a very interactive person and I love being active everyday. I feed off of other people's energy and nice warm weather.

What being bisexual means to me

As a bisexual, I have been, and can be, attracted to both men and women equally. I may have preferences with either gender, but I have found them both attractive in several different ways. When it comes down to a relationship, I want someone who will love and care for me the same way I would for them. To me, that is what bisexuality means.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I believe that bisexuality is misinterpreted and taken as a joke by many people. A lot of people think of a bisexual as someone who is confused and doesn't know what they want. Others think that bisexuality is an excuse to sleep with or experiment with another gender. As a bisexual female, straight men think that it's "hot" and that it wouldn't matter if I slept with a girl while being in a relationship with them. I've heard that gay women are very doubtful about relationships with bi women because we have more options.

For bisexual men, usually straight girls will not pursue them because they think that they might be entirely gay. I can only imagine that gay men feel the same way in regards to bi men having more options as well. It's more threatening.

I would like the world to know that it is not like that at all. Not for me, at least. When I find someone that I am interested in, that is the only person I have eyes for. I might find another person attractive, but I would never act upon it.

There are too many stereotypes made about us, and often, we are not taken seriously. We love who we love. We love people. That is all.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Around the same time that I became interested in boys, I became interested in girls too. I was always curious about kissing them, holding their hand, and being with them. However, I was only in relationships with boys up until I met a girl in college, who introduced me to being in a relationship with a girl. At the time, I didn't know it was something that I could or would ever do. I liked her so much that not being with her didn't make sense. We, then, dated for a little over a year.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I would say that in general, the toughest thing about being bisexual are the generalizations and stereotypes made about us, which I mentioned in an earlier section. Personally, the hardest part has been how my parents reacted to it. They kicked me out of their house.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual, is the ability to have a variety when you're dating, and be able to love people equally.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

So far, everyone that I have personally talked to, EXCEPT my parents, has been in full support. I have gotten a tremendously large amount of love and support from friends, relatives, coworkers, bosses and others. It's been a tough journey, but I probably wouldn't be here today, if it was not for the people who've supported me.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

My advice would be to experiment and be very open. Also, be open to the idea of certain people opposing your sexuality. It is a very hard, yet fun path to go down and it could go in many different directions.