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Hi, I‘m Will. I am Omnisexual.

I'm Will, a 45-year-old man living in Lakeland, Florida. I have, for a long time, very much disliked the labels that are placed upon people; even the so-called politically correct labels just don't sound or seem right. Now I've always labeled myself on my sex-hookup and social media sites as a BISEXUAL man, first and foremost. Yet, I'm most often called gay by gay men, and have to correct them, first by stating, "I am not gay. I'm 100% BISEXUAL," or OMNISEXUAL, as I now refer to it.

What being bisexual means to me

Omnisexual, to me, means that I love to make love with, and have good sex with, people. I have had the best sex of my entire life with women! Damn! I've had the best sex of my entire life with men! I've had the best sex of my entire life with PEOPLE. People having great sex with people is what makes life worth living.

Any desirable sexual encounter with another person is always unique and different in some significant way: special, even if it's not ideal. When someone asks me what I'm into sexually, I'm never quick to make them a list. A list of what I'm totally not into, ever, would be a shorter list of things that most everyone would agree are off-limit. I never know what sex with anyone will ever be like until it's in my memory. Most are good memories. Others, I'd like to forget, but never will!

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are all bisexuals, even if you don't know it or are too afraid to try it. As they say, "IT'S ALL GOOD!"

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I was born, by default, fully sexually compatible with females, and by default, fully sexually compatible with males. By default, every male, at the point of conception, is bisexual. Every male is half-female genetically. And, the female half is the default before the male half is even present. Two X chromosomes, female, is the default. One X and one Y chromosome, male, is the variable. So, it could be said that every female is 100% female and every male is 50/50.

To me, this is very simple. I realized this in grade school, and it makes perfect sense. It's all just simple chemistry. Except for a tiny chemical variance, all humans are exactly the same and have all the same components. Some of us have genital "INNIES," others have genital "OUTIES." And, making an issue about people having good sex with each other if their genitals aren't opposite is absurd.

Every person should make it a point to engage in a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex at least once in their lives. How good does a peach taste to another peach if the peaches never taste each other? How good does a pear taste to another pear if the pears never taste each other?

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Being misunderstood, not understood at all, or being considered GAY, period.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Sex with people, a variety of people. "Variety is the spice of life," they say.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Other people, in general, have a need to label a man in one of two ways, STRAIGHT or GAY. For straight people, as long as they think a man is straight, he's one of them; Anything else, he's one of those. When we are actually, one of THESE!

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

If you think you are bi, you are bi. Don't say something stupid like, I'm just bi-curious. That curiosity is a desire and a need. And, everyone should provide for their needs and desires. Don't make yourself suffer, depriving yourself of a need.

And, it's not necessary to come out. No one must make things, that are the most personal and private particulars about their life, public. Only you, and the people you have intimate encounters with, need to know anyway. Being closeted isn't healthy. But, opening up your personal intimacies to the world and flaunting it can be very unappealing and extremely foolish. No one has to be a walking billboard unless they choose to be.