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6 Ways To Make Identifying as Bi Less Daunting

Identifying as bi can be daunting. Here are 6 thoughts that might make if easier to embrace the awesome bi label.


During Pride, Being In An Opposite-Sex Relationship Can Be Activism

Pride is for the entire LGBTQ community, don't let prejudices within the community hide your amazing bi relationships.


Good Bi Love One-year Anniversary: Reflecting on the Past and Looking Towards The Future

Let's celebrate that our community has been growing ever more visible and push to make the next year better than the last.


Good Bi Love: You Can Still Have Preferences

Nevertheless, the honest to god truth is that I typically prefer to date men. This doesn’t mean I exclusively date men. That doesn’t mean I’m not open to dating women.... Here, however, are a few reasons why I prefer to date men.


What if Rita Ora’s Bi Song Was Just for Us?

Initially, I had nothing positive to say about this song, but then I had to accept that the narrative of the song does reflect a part of our bi community.


Good Bi Love: Are More Bi People Poly?

There’s nothing inherently more likely to make bi+ people polyamorous. I think it’s because we felt we didn’t fit in to the heteronormative ideal of relationships, and therefore, challenged traditional notions of relationships more.


What Changed For Me Once I Started Identifying As Bi

Instead of saying, “It gets better,” we should tell other members of the queer community that it could get worse… maybe a lot worse… before it does get better. But eventually, coming out will be absolutely worth it.


Antoni, a Co-host on “Queer Eye,” Doesn’t Know What Bisexual Means

You would think someone on a show called Queer Eye would know what the word bisexual means.


Why I’m Done Accommodating Your Biphobia

You’re allowed to have things upset you. You’re allowed to question the actions of your partner. But I simply don’t have the mental capacity to deal with people who are insecure about my sexuality.


Should Media Outlets Be Calling Abbi Jacobson Bi?

Abbi Jacobson has admitted to being attracted to men and women, but she didn't use "The B Word." Is it fair for us to call her bi?


How Can I Best Support My Bi Boyfriend?

If you’re asking this question, I feel like you’re already on the path to being a fabulous partner, and he is damn lucky to have you.


Good Bi Love: I’m Dating A Woman And I’m Still Queer

It would be hypocritical of me to only allow myself to “live my truth” with men, but then not with women. It’s about living all of one’s truth.


The Bi vs. Pan Rivalry Needs to Stop

Let's quit trying to "out-queer" each other and work together to make the world better for everyone.


Good Bi Love: What About That “One in a Million” Same-sex Crush

I think if we could allow for sexual curiosity and same-sex platonic intimacy, straight men would be healthier. There would also be less homophobia and sexism in the world.


Why Are There “So Many” Bi People on TV Right Now?

Yes, there are more bi characters on TV than there have been in the past, but are there really that many and why the sudden increase?


Good Bi Love: Is The LGBT Community Becoming Too Elitist?

Are queer people afraid to speak up because they are afraid of using the wrong language?


Let’s Celebrate Janelle Monáe’s Newest Bi Anthem

If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. If you have, watch it again. Janelle Monae's amazing new music video shows us the joy of being bi.


Good Bi Love: 5 Ways To Respond When People Don’t Believe Bisexuality Exists

No matter where you live, at some point in your life, you will come out as bi to someone new, and they will invalidate your bisexuality. Either they will claim bisexuality doesn’t exist, you’re confused, you're doing it for attention, or you’re “actually gay.” It’s inevitable.


Good Bi Love: Knowing the Difference Between Ignorance and Biphobia

He cocked an eyebrow. “Are you bi?" I said I am. Queue eye roll and typical response, “Bi men are just gay men who haven’t come fully out,” he said.


Good Bi Love: Help Your Friends And Family Help You

I would find myself annoyed with straight and gay family members and friends for making everything about my bi identity. While they did this out of love -- and to illustrate their support -- it got on my nerves.


Good Bi Love: The Media Has Made Bisexuality Scandalous, Now Let’s Fix It

Bisexuality isn't just about sex scandals, and it's time for the media to reflect that.


Good Bi Love: We Deserve To Have Our Big Coming Out Moment Too

Bi folks deserve to celebrate our coming out just as much as everyone else does.


Good Bi Love: The Unexpected Thing That Keeps Me Going When I’m Tired Of Being Bi

Wouldn’t my life just be a hell of a lot easier if I identified as gay? If I only spoke about, dated, screwed, and loved men? Yes, I believe it undoubtedly would be…if I were gay.


Good Bi Love: Aaron Carter Isn’t “Confused” About His Bisexuality

Sexuality isn’t stagnant. In fact, it’s a journey for everyone regardless of sexual orientation, then we can approach Aaron’s coming out process not as confusion, but as a journey.


5 Bi New Year’s Resolutions for 2018

Happy New Year, here are a few ways to make your 2018 even more bi-tastic than 2017.


Good Bi Love: Why Say “I Told You So” When A Bi Person Comes Out As Gay

So instead of having this smug satisfaction that comes from correcting another person’s sexual identity, let’s be supportive. Let’s believe. And if believing is too much, then let’s keep our mouths shut.


Good Bi Love: Is It Right To Label People As Bi? Part 2

Last week in Good Bi Love, I explored the question, “Is it right to encourage others to label themselves as bi?" Here are some of your thoughts on the subject.


Good Bi Love: Is It Right To Label Someone Else As Bi?

What is our role? As activists, bis, and queers ourselves? We want to help, but is going around telling everyone that they should claim the bi label the right thing to do?


Good Bi Love: Reflections On My First Members-Only Play Party

I felt as if I found a community. And as any bi guy can tell you, an accepting community is not always easy to come by.


Good Bi Love: Are Bi Men More Promiscuous?

Biphobia touches us all in different ways, this week Zachary Zane talks with Dr. Nathan Grant Smith about the potential effects of internalized biphobia among bi men.


Good Bi Love: I’m Bi And It’s Not That Complicated

At the end of the day, I claim bisexuality proudly. I feel it suits me best. So please, stop telling me I should change my label. I never tell you that you should change yours.


Good Bi Love: A Bi Perspective on Kevin Spacey

I worry that gay people who condemn Spacey for saying he “chooses” to be gay will then turn around and tell bi folks to just “choose a side” already.


Good Bi Love: Why I Told My Best Friend It’s Okay To Call Herself A Lesbian

I told her that the bi label will always be there for her. That it absolutely fits her identity, and she should never feel any shame or embarrassment for claiming the label.


Why Do Bi Women Face Higher Rates of Sexual Violence?

Bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talks to Dr. Nicole Johnson of The Department of Education and Human Services at Lehigh University about some of the reasons why bi women may face higher rates of sexual violence.


Writing Nuanced Queer Protagonists: A Q&A with Taylor Jenkins Reid, Writer of “The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo”

Zachary Zane talks to Taylor Jenkins Reid about her novel "The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo" and its bi protagonist.


Good Bi Love: Thank You To Those Who Stood Behind Me When I Came Out

On National Coming Out Day, I think it’s important to recognize not only those who have the courage and strength to come out, but also those who unconditionally support us and give us the strength to do so.


Good Bi Love: When Can I Call Myself Bi?

How bi do you have to be to call yourself bi?


Why I Freakin’ Love Being Bi on Bi Visibility Day

On this day, I want to celebrate being bi. I want to encourage others to come out and embrace the label.... So I figured I’ll start us off. Here are just a few of the reasons I love being bi.


Good Bi Love: You Don’t Need The “Lifestyle” To Be Bi

Regardless of your lifestyle, you’re still bi, and you’re still a part of the bi and LGBTQ community. Your sexuality is independent of what activities you like to engage in.


Good Bi Love: My Uber Driver Just Didn’t Get Bisexuality

My conversation with an Uber driver who just didn't get my bisexuality or my breaking of gender norms.


Good Bi Love: Why I Don’t Correct Every Time Someone Mislabels My (Bi)sexuality

Sometimes, just by existing and being your true (bi) self, you’re being an activist. Besides, there will be plenty more times to correct someone when they mislabel your sexual orientation.


Good Bi Love: Examining Physical Health Disparities in Bi People

This week bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.


Good Bi Love: New Study Explores Why Bi Folks Face Greater Health Disparities

We also need to create spaces that encourage and reward bi disclosure. That would (hopefully) create a positive feedback loop: More bi-visibility → more people come out → creates more bi-visibility → even more bi folks come out!


Good Bi Love – My Orientation Is Not A “Team”

Now the idea that we’re on teams is ludicrous....being a part of the “straight” team, it is your job to “defeat” the gay team. Whatever the hell “defeat” means in this context.


Good Bi Love: Liars are Ruining Polyamory for All of Us

These men (and to a lesser extent women) use the poly or open label as justification to screw around, without taking into account the emotions of other people.... However, I would argue that these men aren’t “open." They are simply jerks.


Good Bi Love: What’s The Role of My Straight Partner?

One question I've received repeatedly, and to be frank, one question I really hadn’t thought much about prior, was “What’s the role of my straight partner in making my bisexuality visible?”


Good Bi Love: Hidden in Plain Sight

Statistically there are more bi folks than gay and lesbian. So where are they all and how do you find them?


Welcome To Good Bi Love

Welcome to "Good Bi Love," Bi.org's newest biweekly column.


How Being Bi Helped Me See Past the Binary

Now I do my best not to assume based off of stereotypes or make snap judgements about a person’s identity or character. I attempt to look at all the possible outcomes of a situation instead of only looking for the most likely one.


My Life Changed When I Just Owned My Bi Label

I thought I was “just gay,” but then I’d remember all of the women I had loved in my lifetime, and all the times I’d cried over a woman I liked, and it was clear that I am not gay.


Even if I Never Date Another Woman, I’m Still Bi

Because I don't feel as comfortable around women, deleted my dating apps, and tend to avoid straight places, I meet many more queer men than straight or bi women. Nevertheless, I’m still attracted to women.


Spotlight on 6 Out and Proud Bi Women

I feel like we sometimes forget to acknowledge the amazing bi folks in mainstream media who are killing it with regards to visibility. This piece is for the women in mainstream media who not only proudly identify as bi, but also advocate for bi equality.


Why I Put Bi on my Dating Profile

I don’t think you should feel obligated to put that you’re bi on your dating profile if you don’t want to do so. However, for your sake, and to make your romantic/dating life easier, I would highly consider doing so!


Finding Myself in Frank Ocean’s “Chanel”

Frank Ocean is a beacon of visibility for folks who are attracted to more than one gender. His music and words have helped me, and I’m sure thousands of others like me, by showing me that I’m not alone.


We Need to Create Bi+ Spaces

The bi+ community needs to make bi+ spaces for ourselves.


You Are Not Responsible for the “Bi Brand”

Often, when we say we’re bi to new folks we meet, we’re the first out and open bi person with whom they've had the privilege of speaking. This puts a lot of weight on us. Because you know that their interaction with you will form their opinion on all bi people for the rest of eternity. (Or at least it seems like that.)


Yes, Sometimes I Do Miss Being With Men

Being bi, for me, doesn’t mean I don’t care about a person’s appearance. It doesn't mean that I’m only attracted to personality. On the contrary, it means I’m attracted to various physical forms (along with personality as well).


Solo on Valentine’s Day and Still Bi

So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.


Bisexuality is Not “New” or “Hip”

Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."


4 Ways Roger The Alien Taught Me to be Bi Better

Roger may not be the average person (or alien) you would tell your kid to aspire to be. Nevertheless, there’s something in his pride, his confidence in his sexuality, and his brutal honesty that is inspiring to me.


5 Dating Tips for Bi Men

I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.


The Silver Lining of Dating When Bi

At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.


Why I Don’t “Not Do Labels”

In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.


Bi and Poly Part III: Managing Jealousy

Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.


Bi and Poly Part II: How to Ask your Partner For a Non-Monogamous Relationship

The thing about non-monogamous relationships: There’s no unified definition. The more non-monogamous folks I encounter, the more I’m shocked by the number of configurations and variety of rules that exist within the non-monogamous community.


When Sexual Fluidity Is Turned Against Us

We, the queer community, want to say, “What if I chose to be queer? Let’s say I did. What’s wrong with that?” The answer of course, is nothing.


Bi and Poly Part 1: Are You Ready to Be Non-Monogamous?

I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.


4 Ways Porn Perpetuates Misconceptions About Bisexuality

These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as "bisexual".


1 in 5 Straight-Identifying Men Watch Same-sex Porn: Are They All Closeted?

Why do a fifth of self-identified straight men watch gay porn? My gut response was to say some of these men are actually closeted gay or bi, but I think that’s an oversimplification.


Not Just Another Male Gaze

How does a bi man -- who doesn’t want to be like the stereotypical objectifying straight guy -- reveal that they’re bi in a way that’s not overtly sexual or predatory?


Bi and Dating, when the World is Divided into “Gay” and “Straight”

Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?


Women Report That Bisexual Men Make Better Lovers, Fathers, and Partners

Dr. Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli of Deakin University talks to bi.org about her new book "Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men by Women".


What Keeps Bi Men in the Closet?

We talk to Dr. Eric Schrimshaw of Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health about his recent study on why bisexual men are not coming out to partners, family, and friends.


Revealing Research on why Many Bisexual Men Don’t Come Out

Schrimshaw found that many men aren’t “confused” about their (bi)sexuality. They know they are attracted to both men and women; however, they aren’t open about their (bi)sexuality because they fear stigma, ridicule, and being outed.


I Know You Mean Well, But Please Stop Watching Us Kiss

So please, I know you mean well, and I’m flattered, I truly am, but stop asking me and my boyfriend to make out. Stop telling us how hot it is. Stop objectifying our queerness and love.


How My Bisexuality is a Privilege

I want to focus on why I love being bisexual. Why it is not only a blessing, but a privilege that I was able to discover my (bi)sexuality. And even if I was magically presented the option to press a button and turn either gay or straight, I would never, in a million years, change my sexual orientation.


Why Can’t We Like More Than One?

For literally everything else in life, humans can like more than one thing - and usually without judgement. It shouldn't be inconceivable to think that some of us have the capacity to be attracted to more than one gender.