Irish Mom Gets Advice on ‘How Do I Tell My Sons Their Father is Bi?’
Advice columnist Dr. John Sharry, a social worker and founder of the Parents Plus charity and writer for the Irish Times offered advice to a women on how to tell her two children that their dad is bisexual. The advice seemed pretty good.
Q I’m a mum of two boys, and I separated from their dad about a year ago. The reason for the split was that he was a cross-dresser and bisexual, something he didn’t tell me about before we married.
He is quite public in his lifestyle choices and I am concerned that the children will be teased about this in school, and so on. I’m not sure if I should tell them, or say nothing. What do you recommend?
Here are excerpts of his response:
A. Generally, important family issues are always best explained to children by their parents.
* If their father’s sexuality is public and known by many people then I would say it is best that your children are told by you and their father.
* Exactly when to tell your children, how best to tell them and how to share the “telling” with their father are more open questions.
* I think it best if he tells them first in a child-centred way that they can understand.
* There is no evidence that telling a child about their parents’ sexual orientation will confuse their own orientation; instead, I would suggest it is more likely to help them feel more secure in whatever their own orientation turns out to be.
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