Father Discusses Bi Teen Son who Committed Suicide After Bullying

The Contra Costa, Calif. Press Democrat talked to the father of the bisexual teen who committed suicide after his bisexual son was bullied at school for years.

The 16-year-old youth, Adam Kizer,086a6ad3f82097b634dadce549ae931a was taken off of life support this past weekend after the suicide attempt on May 26.

“It’s the worst pain you can ever imagine,” Adam’s father, William Kizer, told The Press Democrat.

Only half a year ago, Adam told his family and friends that he was bisexual, and they were all supportive. His father said, “If you’re happy we are happy. I supported him completely.”

But that wasn’t the case at Sonoma Valley High School. “I don’t think the boy went a whole week without somebody messing with him,” his father told the Press Democrat, recounting how fellow students told the youth that he should take his own life. School officials said they never heard about the bullying, and Adam was part of the schools gay-straight alliance.

At only 9 years old, Adam was tied to a tree and drenched with gasoline by neighborhood children. No criminal charges were filed. Yet, when Adam fought off bullies later, he was expelled, the father said. Then, his son was in the juvenile justice system for two years until 2013. The teen played bass guitar in a heavy-metal band, liked wearing skinny jeans and took kickboxing classes and had a close relationship to his father.

This tragic story comes just at the heels of the news of another death of 13-year-old Alyssa Morgan, who came out as bisexual and killer herself after bullying in school. In that case, school officials told the girl to “toughen up.” A few recent studies about depression and suicide show that bisexual youths are particularly vulnerable and at risk.

Adam hanged himself with a fishing line at his grandmother’s home in Sonoma, Calif. He had tried suicide a few times and suffered from depression, because of bullying, his father said.

Adam was an organ donor and his father said the youth’s organs were used to save three lives.

If you or someone you know are an LGBT young person (ages 24 and younger) struggling with thoughts of suicide, you can reach the Trevor Project Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. Transgender and gender-nonconforming individuals needing support can contact the Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 can also be reached 24 hours a day by people of all ages and identities.

Mike Szymanski
Mike Szymanski has written about bisexual issues since 1989 and has one of the longest-running regular bisexual columns as the National Bisexuality Examiner. He came out as bisexual in a cover story of Genre magazine, which resulted in more than 50 television appearances, including Ricki Lake, Phil Donahue Show and 20/20. Szymanski won the Lambda Literary Award in 2007 for co-authoring an informative humor book “The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips and Lists for Those Who Go Both Ways.” Write him at [email protected]