Category Archives

Being Bi You Can Still “Pick a Side”

As modern bi culture continues to grow, let’s continue being our fabulous bi selves, and while never feeling pressured to “pick a side,” not feel guilty for finding ourselves drawn towards either the gay or straight community.

Rekindling Relationships with My Old (Straight) Friends

For years, I hid from my old straight "bro" friends; I recently rekindled those relationships and it was good.

What Comes After Bi Visibility? More Bi Spaces

We are making huge strides in bi visibility, the next step is to start creating bi spaces.

How to Deal With Biphobic Family During the Holidays

Here are a few ways to deal with your biphobic family members over the next few weeks.

Staying In Touch With Exes: Is There A Point?

How hard should you work to be friends with your ex?

Good Bi Love: What Comes After Bi Visibility?

It is wonderful to see the recent explosion of bi visibility, but what is the next step?

Do You Really Want a Partner?  

After years of looking for "The One," I realized that maybe right now, I just want to focus on me.

Slut and Prude Shaming in the Gay/Bi Community

Even as millennials are becoming more open-minded to previously taboo topics like casual sex, sexual fluidity, and PrEP; slut-shaming still runs rampant in the gay/bi male community.

Coming Out Bi For National Coming Out Day

Did you miss the opportunity to come out during bi week? Don't worry, National Coming Out Day is just around the corner.

Good Bi Love: Is it Confusion Or Shame?

I think you might be experiencing a little bit of shame, and you veil this shame with confusion, when the truth of the matter is that you’re not confused.

4 Ways to Stay Visible All Year Long

Just because we are celebrating today, it doesn't mean we’re done being proud and visible!

6 Things I Love About Being Bi

Continuing in the spirit of celebration this Bi Pride Month, this week, I want to discuss something short and sweet: Why I Love Being Bi.

Good Bi Love: Reflecting On The Evolution Of My Bi Pride

Happy Bi Pride Month! Sometimes it's easy to fixate on our struggles, so let's try to use this month to reflect on how much we have grown into the awesome bi individuals we are.

Why are There So Many Bi People in Kink Spaces?

Are bi people kinkier than the rest of the world?

Good Bi Love: 90 Days Without Grindr

I deleted Grindr for 90 days and learned that there's nothing wrong with using Grindr.

Our Orientation is Only One Part of Our Identity

I sometimes feel like I’m only bi, and that’s what people know me for, but there’s so much more to me than my sexual orientation.

Stop Projecting Your Relationship Goals On Me

Stop assuming people will change for you. Nor should you change fundamental things about your identity or relationship-style for anyone else.

I Love My Boyfriend, But I Want To Be With A Woman Someday

What to do when you're happily monogamous, but feel like there's a part of your sexuality that you still need to explore?

Good Bi Love: Why Can’t I Trust Myself?

After coming out to his girlfriend as bi, this young man is still filled with doubt.

Am I Still Bi If…?

Do you have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bi?

Bi, Looking for Love, and All Too Familiar with Rejection

Dating while bi can be frustrating, but I recently realized that I can't allow past rejections to shut ourselves off from future relationships.

Going Through the Waves of Loving (and Hating) Labels  

I’ve struggled with labels my whole life.... I’m fascinated by them, and I think they hold an incredible power to both unite but also further divide us.

This Year’s Pride Reminded Me to Never Stop Being Visible

Don’t let others discourage you from being your best bi self... All the times you put yourself out there, only to be shut down, are still worth it. Because you do help change people’s mind. You do help in the fight for visibility.

6 Ways To Make Identifying as Bi Less Daunting

Identifying as bi can be daunting. Here are 6 thoughts that might make if easier to embrace the awesome bi label.

During Pride, Being In An Opposite-Sex Relationship Can Be Activism

Pride is for the entire LGBTQ community, don't let prejudices within the community hide your amazing bi relationships.

Good Bi Love One-year Anniversary: Reflecting on the Past and Looking Towards The Future

Let's celebrate that our community has been growing ever more visible and push to make the next year better than the last.

Good Bi Love: You Can Still Have Preferences

Nevertheless, the honest to god truth is that I typically prefer to date men. This doesn’t mean I exclusively date men. That doesn’t mean I’m not open to dating women.... Here, however, are a few reasons why I prefer to date men.

What if Rita Ora’s Bi Song Was Just for Us?

Initially, I had nothing positive to say about this song, but then I had to accept that the narrative of the song does reflect a part of our bi community.

Good Bi Love: Are More Bi People Poly?

There’s nothing inherently more likely to make bi+ people polyamorous. I think it’s because we felt we didn’t fit in to the heteronormative ideal of relationships, and therefore, challenged traditional notions of relationships more.

What Changed For Me Once I Started Identifying As Bi

Instead of saying, “It gets better,” we should tell other members of the queer community that it could get worse… maybe a lot worse… before it does get better. But eventually, coming out will be absolutely worth it.

Antoni, a Co-host on “Queer Eye,” Doesn’t Know What Bisexual Means

You would think someone on a show called Queer Eye would know what the word bisexual means.

Why I’m Done Accommodating Your Biphobia

You’re allowed to have things upset you. You’re allowed to question the actions of your partner. But I simply don’t have the mental capacity to deal with people who are insecure about my sexuality.

How Can I Best Support My Bi Boyfriend?

If you’re asking this question, I feel like you’re already on the path to being a fabulous partner, and he is damn lucky to have you.

Good Bi Love: I’m Dating A Woman And I’m Still Queer

It would be hypocritical of me to only allow myself to “live my truth” with men, but then not with women. It’s about living all of one’s truth.

The Bi vs. Pan Rivalry Needs to Stop

Let's quit trying to "out-queer" each other and work together to make the world better for everyone.

Good Bi Love: What About That “One in a Million” Same-Sex Crush

I think if we could allow for sexual curiosity and same-sex platonic intimacy, straight men would be healthier. There would also be less homophobia and sexism in the world.

Why Are There “So Many” Bi People on TV Right Now?

Yes, there are more bi characters on TV than there have been in the past, but are there really that many and why the sudden increase?

Good Bi Love: Is The LGBT Community Becoming Too Elitist?

Are queer people afraid to speak up because they are afraid of using the wrong language?

Let’s Celebrate Janelle Monáe’s Newest Bi Anthem

If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. If you have, watch it again. Janelle Monae's amazing new music video shows us the joy of being bi.

Good Bi Love: 5 Ways To Respond When People Don’t Believe Bisexuality Exists

No matter where you live, at some point in your life, you will come out as bi to someone new, and they will invalidate your bisexuality. Either they will claim bisexuality doesn’t exist, you’re confused, you're doing it for attention, or you’re “actually gay.” It’s inevitable.

Good Bi Love: Knowing the Difference Between Ignorance and Biphobia

He cocked an eyebrow. “Are you bi?" I said I am. Queue eye roll and typical response, “Bi men are just gay men who haven’t come fully out,” he said.

Good Bi Love: Help Your Friends And Family Help You

I would find myself annoyed with straight and gay family members and friends for making everything about my bi identity. While they did this out of love -- and to illustrate their support -- it got on my nerves.

Good Bi Love: The Media Has Made Bisexuality Scandalous, Now Let’s Fix It

Bisexuality isn't just about sex scandals, and it's time for the media to reflect that.

Good Bi Love: We Deserve To Have Our Big Coming Out Moment Too

Bi folks deserve to celebrate our coming out just as much as everyone else does.

Good Bi Love: The Unexpected Thing That Keeps Me Going When I’m Tired Of Being Bi

Wouldn’t my life just be a hell of a lot easier if I identified as gay? If I only spoke about, dated, screwed, and loved men? Yes, I believe it undoubtedly would be…if I were gay.

Good Bi Love: Aaron Carter Isn’t “Confused” About His Bisexuality

Sexuality isn’t stagnant. In fact, it’s a journey for everyone regardless of sexual orientation, then we can approach Aaron’s coming out process not as confusion, but as a journey.

Good Bi Love: Why Say “I Told You So” When A Bi Person Comes Out As Gay

So instead of having this smug satisfaction that comes from correcting another person’s sexual identity, let’s be supportive. Let’s believe. And if believing is too much, then let’s keep our mouths shut.

Good Bi Love: Is It Right To Label People As Bi? Part 2

Last week in Good Bi Love, I explored the question, “Is it right to encourage others to label themselves as bi?" Here are some of your thoughts on the subject.

Good Bi Love: Is It Right To Label Someone Else As Bi?

What is our role? As activists, bis, and queers ourselves? We want to help, but is going around telling everyone that they should claim the bi label the right thing to do?

Good Bi Love: Reflections On My First Members-Only Play Party

I felt as if I found a community. And as any bi guy can tell you, an accepting community is not always easy to come by.

Good Bi Love: Are Bi Men More Promiscuous?

Biphobia touches us all in different ways, this week Zachary Zane talks with Dr. Nathan Grant Smith about the potential effects of internalized biphobia among bi men.

Good Bi Love: I’m Bi And It’s Not That Complicated

At the end of the day, I claim bisexuality proudly. I feel it suits me best. So please, stop telling me I should change my label. I never tell you that you should change yours.

Why Do Bi Women Face Higher Rates of Sexual Violence? contributor Zachary Zane talks to Dr. Nicole Johnson of The Department of Education and Human Services at Lehigh University about some of the reasons why bi women may face higher rates of sexual violence.

Good Bi Love: Thank You To Those Who Stood Behind Me When I Came Out

On National Coming Out Day, I think it’s important to recognize not only those who have the courage and strength to come out, but also those who unconditionally support us and give us the strength to do so.

Good Bi Love: When Can I Call Myself Bi?

How bi do you have to be to call yourself bi?

Why I Freakin’ Love Being Bi on Bi Visibility Day

On this day, I want to celebrate being bi. I want to encourage others to come out and embrace the label.... So I figured I’ll start us off. Here are just a few of the reasons I love being bi.

Good Bi Love: You Don’t Need The “Lifestyle” To Be Bi

Regardless of your lifestyle, you’re still bi, and you’re still a part of the bi and LGBTQ community. Your sexuality is independent of what activities you like to engage in.

Good Bi Love: My Uber Driver Just Didn’t Get Bisexuality

My conversation with an Uber driver who just didn't get my bisexuality or my breaking of gender norms.

Good Bi Love: Why I Don’t Correct Every Time Someone Mislabels My (Bi)sexuality

Sometimes, just by existing and being your true (bi) self, you’re being an activist. Besides, there will be plenty more times to correct someone when they mislabel your sexual orientation.

Good Bi Love: Examining Physical Health Disparities in Bi People

This week contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.

Good Bi Love: New Study Explores Why Bi Folks Face Greater Health Disparities

We also need to create spaces that encourage and reward bi disclosure. That would (hopefully) create a positive feedback loop: More bi-visibility → more people come out → creates more bi-visibility → even more bi folks come out!

Good Bi Love – My Orientation Is Not A “Team”

Now the idea that we’re on teams is ludicrous....being a part of the “straight” team, it is your job to “defeat” the gay team. Whatever the hell “defeat” means in this context.

Good Bi Love: Liars are Ruining Polyamory for All of Us

These men (and to a lesser extent women) use the poly or open label as justification to screw around, without taking into account the emotions of other people.... However, I would argue that these men aren’t “open." They are simply jerks.

Good Bi Love: What’s The Role of My Straight Partner?

One question I've received repeatedly, and to be frank, one question I really hadn’t thought much about prior, was “What’s the role of my straight partner in making my bisexuality visible?”

Good Bi Love: Hidden in Plain Sight

Statistically there are more bi folks than gay and lesbian. So where are they all and how do you find them?

Welcome To Good Bi Love

Welcome to "Good Bi Love,"'s newest biweekly column.