I sometimes feel like I’m only bi, and that’s what people know me for, but there’s so much more to me than my sexual orientation.
Stop assuming people will change for you. Nor should you change fundamental things about your identity or relationship-style for anyone else.
What to do when you're happily monogamous, but feel like there's a part of your sexuality that you still need to explore?
After coming out to his girlfriend as bi, this young man is still filled with doubt.
Do you have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bi?
Dating while bi can be frustrating, but I recently realized that I can't allow past rejections to shut ourselves off from future relationships.
I’ve struggled with labels my whole life.... I’m fascinated by them, and I think they hold an incredible power to both unite but also further divide us.
Don’t let others discourage you from being your best bi self... All the times you put yourself out there, only to be shut down, are still worth it. Because you do help change people’s mind. You do help in the fight for visibility.
Identifying as bi can be daunting. Here are 6 thoughts that might make if easier to embrace the awesome bi label.
Pride is for the entire LGBTQ community, don't let prejudices within the community hide your amazing bi relationships.
Let's celebrate that our community has been growing ever more visible and push to make the next year better than the last.
Nevertheless, the honest to god truth is that I typically prefer to date men. This doesn’t mean I exclusively date men. That doesn’t mean I’m not open to dating women.... Here, however, are a few reasons why I prefer to date men.
Initially, I had nothing positive to say about this song, but then I had to accept that the narrative of the song does reflect a part of our bi community.
There’s nothing inherently more likely to make bi+ people polyamorous. I think it’s because we felt we didn’t fit in to the heteronormative ideal of relationships, and therefore, challenged traditional notions of relationships more.
Instead of saying, “It gets better,” we should tell other members of the queer community that it could get worse… maybe a lot worse… before it does get better. But eventually, coming out will be absolutely worth it.
You would think someone on a show called Queer Eye would know what the word bisexual means.
You’re allowed to have things upset you. You’re allowed to question the actions of your partner. But I simply don’t have the mental capacity to deal with people who are insecure about my sexuality.
If you’re asking this question, I feel like you’re already on the path to being a fabulous partner, and he is damn lucky to have you.
It would be hypocritical of me to only allow myself to “live my truth” with men, but then not with women. It’s about living all of one’s truth.
Let's quit trying to "out-queer" each other and work together to make the world better for everyone.
I think if we could allow for sexual curiosity and same-sex platonic intimacy, straight men would be healthier. There would also be less homophobia and sexism in the world.
Yes, there are more bi characters on TV than there have been in the past, but are there really that many and why the sudden increase?
Are queer people afraid to speak up because they are afraid of using the wrong language?
If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. If you have, watch it again. Janelle Monae's amazing new music video shows us the joy of being bi.
No matter where you live, at some point in your life, you will come out as bi to someone new, and they will invalidate your bisexuality. Either they will claim bisexuality doesn’t exist, you’re confused, you're doing it for attention, or you’re “actually gay.” It’s inevitable.
He cocked an eyebrow. “Are you bi?" I said I am. Queue eye roll and typical response, “Bi men are just gay men who haven’t come fully out,” he said.
I would find myself annoyed with straight and gay family members and friends for making everything about my bi identity. While they did this out of love -- and to illustrate their support -- it got on my nerves.
Bisexuality isn't just about sex scandals, and it's time for the media to reflect that.
Bi folks deserve to celebrate our coming out just as much as everyone else does.
Wouldn’t my life just be a hell of a lot easier if I identified as gay? If I only spoke about, dated, screwed, and loved men? Yes, I believe it undoubtedly would be…if I were gay.
Sexuality isn’t stagnant. In fact, it’s a journey for everyone regardless of sexual orientation, then we can approach Aaron’s coming out process not as confusion, but as a journey.
So instead of having this smug satisfaction that comes from correcting another person’s sexual identity, let’s be supportive. Let’s believe. And if believing is too much, then let’s keep our mouths shut.
Last week in Good Bi Love, I explored the question, “Is it right to encourage others to label themselves as bi?" Here are some of your thoughts on the subject.
What is our role? As activists, bis, and queers ourselves? We want to help, but is going around telling everyone that they should claim the bi label the right thing to do?
I felt as if I found a community. And as any bi guy can tell you, an accepting community is not always easy to come by.
Biphobia touches us all in different ways, this week Zachary Zane talks with Dr. Nathan Grant Smith about the potential effects of internalized biphobia among bi men.
At the end of the day, I claim bisexuality proudly. I feel it suits me best. So please, stop telling me I should change my label. I never tell you that you should change yours.
Bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talks to Dr. Nicole Johnson of The Department of Education and Human Services at Lehigh University about some of the reasons why bi women may face higher rates of sexual violence.
On National Coming Out Day, I think it’s important to recognize not only those who have the courage and strength to come out, but also those who unconditionally support us and give us the strength to do so.
How bi do you have to be to call yourself bi?
On this day, I want to celebrate being bi. I want to encourage others to come out and embrace the label.... So I figured I’ll start us off. Here are just a few of the reasons I love being bi.
Regardless of your lifestyle, you’re still bi, and you’re still a part of the bi and LGBTQ community. Your sexuality is independent of what activities you like to engage in.
My conversation with an Uber driver who just didn't get my bisexuality or my breaking of gender norms.
Sometimes, just by existing and being your true (bi) self, you’re being an activist. Besides, there will be plenty more times to correct someone when they mislabel your sexual orientation.
This week bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.
We also need to create spaces that encourage and reward bi disclosure. That would (hopefully) create a positive feedback loop: More bi-visibility → more people come out → creates more bi-visibility → even more bi folks come out!
Now the idea that we’re on teams is ludicrous....being a part of the “straight” team, it is your job to “defeat” the gay team. Whatever the hell “defeat” means in this context.
These men (and to a lesser extent women) use the poly or open label as justification to screw around, without taking into account the emotions of other people.... However, I would argue that these men aren’t “open." They are simply jerks.
One question I've received repeatedly, and to be frank, one question I really hadn’t thought much about prior, was “What’s the role of my straight partner in making my bisexuality visible?”
Statistically there are more bi folks than gay and lesbian. So where are they all and how do you find them?
Welcome to "Good Bi Love," Bi.org's newest biweekly column.