Being bisexual, for me, doesn’t mean I don’t care about a person’s appearance. It doesn't mean that I’m only attracted to personality. On the contrary, it means I’m attracted to various physical forms (along with personality as well).
Bisexual characters are the butt of jokes in Hollywood and we’re not laughing.
The writings of Anais Nin were a huge part of my awakening as a young woman. Today, on Anais Nin's birthday, I am reminded that orientation is about so much more than physical attraction. And that there's no one right way to be bisexual.
Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.
[Evan Rachel Wood's words] made me feel comforted, and a little less alone. It gave me hope for a new generation of bi kids, who would hopefully see people like her and feel a little less alone, too.
So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.
If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.
Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences
“You may not be able to be out in every single space that you’re interacting in, and so my hope is that for bi folks, with the spaces where one can be out, I hope they are able to capitalize on that for their own well-being.”
Why so many people feel the need to inform me of this dating prejudice, even when I've shown absolutely no interest in them, is beyond me. At the very least, these exchanges are just plain strange. But they are also very upsetting and here's why.
Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."
If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.
Having President Obama in office, someone who vehemently and passionately believes in equality and fairness, told me that we were moving forward. It confirmed what I’d always believed – that the side of equal rights is the right side.
The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.
I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.
I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.
They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.
Next time someone tells you that they are polyamorous, please don't assume that they are promiscuous.
When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.
There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.
Bi folks are of course people and love all the gifts that people love, but here are some extra awesome gift options for the bi people in your life.
You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.
This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?
At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.
Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!
The concept of coming out to my Abuela and Abuelo is daunting and terrifying... I need to give my own grandparents a chance to accept me, even though it might be daunting.
In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.
I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.
Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.
My girlfriend has read and seen everything I've ever done as an activist. Rather than be insecure when I discuss the kind of men I find attractive - she replies 'this is awesome babe, so proud of you.'
The thing about non-monogamous relationships: There’s no unified definition. The more non-monogamous folks I encounter, the more I’m shocked by the number of configurations and variety of rules that exist within the non-monogamous community.
When your relatives ask those inevitable questions, these snappy responses will help you relax and get back to the important work of eating.
With season 12 of “Supernatural” already underway, many fans are asking, “Is Dean ever going to come out of the closet?”
We, the queer community, want to say, “What if I chose to be queer? Let’s say I did. What’s wrong with that?” The answer of course, is nothing.
I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.
Bi.org spoke with Dr. Brian Dodge about his research into how bi people are perceived by the rest of the world and what the potential impacts of the perception are.
We will fight for and alongside each other when the time comes. But right now, it’s okay to mourn. It’s okay to not be okay.
This election week, remember: check in with yourself, be kind to yourself, and most importantly: take care.
I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.
It may seem like a long list, but really it doesn't take a lot to put the B back in your LGBT organization
These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as "bisexual".
Why do a fifth of self-identified straight men watch gay porn? My gut response was to say some of these men are actually closeted gay or bi, but I think that’s an oversimplification.
As Latino LGBT people, our challenges are unique, but so are we to overcome them.
Although I've attended and participated in Prides, I'd never been on the planning side before. I showed up to the first meeting hesitant because bisexuality is often ignored by Pride organizers, but I was immediately made welcome. I loved seeing this whole thing come together, and for me the icing on the cake was when I was made Grand Marshal. Talk about bi visibility!
Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.
Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!
In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:
How does a bi man -- who doesn’t want to be like the stereotypical objectifying straight guy -- reveal that they’re bi in a way that’s not overtly sexual or predatory?
Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.
In honor of Bi Week and Bi Visibility Day, the White House hosted a Bi Community Briefing with members of the bi community.
Throughout the week members and supporters of the bi+ community made us laugh out loud, provided opportunities for enrichment, and gave us even more reason to celebrate. Let’s take a look at some of #BiWeek in tweets!
Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?
For those who haven't yet noticed, Bi.org is presenting our annual Bi Visibility Challenge in celebration of Bi Pride Week!
Happy Bi Visibility Day 2016! Here are some things we'd like to see accomplished before many more Bi Visibility Days have passed. What's on your Bi Wish List?
Happy International Talk Like a Pirate Day folks! This year it coincides with the beginning of Bi Pride Week, so I thought we'd talk about some less heteronormative pirate traditions in order to celebrate both.
Dr. Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli of Deakin University talks to bi.org about her new book "Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men by Women".
This Bi Week we are celebrating some of the many bi activists who have been instrumental in the LGBT rights movement.
Amy Winehouse was the first woman I had heard use this mysterious word "bisexual." She wasn't afraid of her sexual orientation changing what people thought of her and refused to tiptoe around the label.
I'm certainly not suggesting that bi issues are more important than gay issues, simply that they are different issues that both deserve the same amount of respect. The problem is when LGBT groups and health organisations keep adding 'and bisexual' to the mix to try and pass themselves off as inclusive.
The more time I spend involved in bi activism and talking to other bi folks, the more I hear one major complaint. "No one wants to date me." It normally comes down to "people keep rejecting me as a potential romantic partner because I am bi."
It is all too common for bi people to be rejected by partners of either sex simply because we are bi. For a lot of people, bisexuality is a deal breaker when it comes to dating. This can be due to false and unfair stereotypes about bi people being confused or disloyal, or it can even be because some claims to find bi people "gross."
Freddie Mercury was never afraid of challenging society’s sexual and gender expectations.
Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.
The more bi people who are out, the more we will be accepted and someday bisexuality, homosexuality, heterosexuality, etc will all be treated equally. In the mean time, maybe my family will figure it out. Until then, I’ll just keep being me, out and proud.
This week, Bella Thorne came out as bisexual in the chillest way possible, causing an outpouring of love on Twitter. Coming out is about being real, honest, genuine. It isn't just private "bedroom stuff." It affects our romantic and social lives a great deal. If someone doesn't care about all that, that's sad.
We talk to Dr. Eric Schrimshaw of Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health about his recent study on why bisexual men are not coming out to partners, family, and friends.
The message these rulings send out is loud and clear. As far as the justice system is concerned, bisexuality does not exist, and I think that that is unacceptable.
Biphobia remains rampant, even within the gay community. This is in part due to the fact that bi people aren't coming out in large enough numbers yet.
Even as progress is being made with regard to LGBT and women's rights, the 2016 Olympics in Rio this year remind us that more progress is sorely needed... We've witnessed highs and lows in that regard this year.
Harley Quinn is relatively new to the Suicide Squad, not appearing in that group until 2011, and I was delighted that she was going to be a part of the film. Who doesn’t want to watch a kick ass, bisexual, sexy, funny lady super villain/anti hero?
"I was indoctrinated into a kind of machismo culture, which is to say I grew up believing that a man must behave in a stereotypically masculine manner at all times. This meant carefully hiding any parts of myself that might have been perceived as stereotypically 'feminine.'"
Ask most bi people, and they will tell you that the majority of biphobia they experience is from within the LGBT community itself.
When I asked Tara Avery how she became involved in bi activism, her answer was simple. “I just showed up.”
Schrimshaw found that many men aren’t “confused” about their (bi)sexuality. They know they are attracted to both men and women; however, they aren’t open about their (bi)sexuality because they fear stigma, ridicule, and being outed.
As much as we may want to live in a world where everyone is equal, we do not live in that world. The only way to get there is by encouraging social progress, which means discussion, which means using labels.
We are not entertaining ourselves with women until we find the "perfect man." We are not kissing for attention or ratings. We are bi women, and we are still bi no matter whom we are dating.
Just like not all lesbians are "butch" and not all gay men are "queens," not all bi guys are a gay man's stereotyped fantasy of masculinity. Our sexual orientation is more than your porn fetish. Sorry.
It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.
So please, I know you mean well, and I’m flattered, I truly am, but stop asking me and my boyfriend to make out. Stop telling us how hot it is. Stop objectifying our queerness and love.
By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.
Let’s do this. Let's boldly go where no one in the Star Trek universe has gone before. Let's say bisexual.
We are a generation that loves our labels, married or single, black or white, team Edward or team Jacob. The problem is, when it comes down to sexual orientation things are not so black and white.
I want to focus on why I love being bisexual. Why it is not only a blessing, but a privilege that I was able to discover my (bi)sexuality. And even if I was magically presented the option to press a button and turn either gay or straight, I would never, in a million years, change my sexual orientation.
What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.
Bit by bit, they joined the chorus, and the protesters' megaphones were rendered useless; their futile hatred drowned out by our love. “We're here! We're queer! We're fabulous! Get used to it!” All together, over and over and over....
When someone comes out to you, it is not about you and your feelings. It’s about them opening up to you and trusting you with a part of their life that is very fragile.
This guide is a handy tool for bisexual people who want to educate friends and family, as well as for non-bi people who want to know how to be good allies to bi people.
I never had to come out to him. A fringe benefit of online dating. There it was, my truth right next to my carefully chosen handle: “bisexual.”
Isolated isn’t even the word. How can I unpack my feelings when I don’t even feel like I have a local community with which to do so? How do we create these spaces? How do we feed our communities in these moments?
Despite the fact that bisexual people are the majority of the LGBT population, bi people and their stories are often conspicuously absent from most LGBT festivals. Fortunately, not this time!
Let’s hear it for the Bis! We’re celebrating some of our favorite bisexual characters of the 2015-16 tv season. Are yours on the list?
Two decades in, one of the oldest online dating sites still doesn’t recognize bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation.
For literally everything else in life, humans can like more than one thing - and usually without judgement. It shouldn't be inconceivable to think that some of us have the capacity to be attracted to more than one gender.
Music has been a huge part of my coming out process. Singing live about my experiences has helped me realize just how many like-minded people there out there.
In our last post on self care, we reviewed barriers to self care for the bisexual community. With that acknowledged and in mind, today let’s focus on how we can take care of ourselves.
It's revolutionary for us to love ourselves without conditions, to take care of ourselves without guilt. And there shouldn’t be any guilt in self care.
When earlier this year, Huffington Post’s Gay Voices changed their name to Queer Voices, it was another victory in the long fought battle for bi inclusion, yet it re-awoke ongoing questions and concerns about name changes.
Saying that Clarke being with a man is a bad thing because he is a man—no matter the context—is biphobic.
Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.
There are so many stereotypes about bi people. We are not those things. We are just bisexual.
In modern pop culture the only indicator of bisexuality is behavior. Beyond even that, we can’t assume the character will stay that way. In reality we know bisexuality is in and of itself valid and not a phase.
The orientation (and the people who represent it) have gone from being ignored and actively erased by the media to being part of society's grand narrative.
"Maybe if people could understand that for many of us being bisexual is a permanent not transitional identity, then there was a potential that we could be understood.”
A fan tweeted Mark Hamill to ask if Luke "was bisexual." The actor's reply was very thoughtful. OUT Magazine's headline about the tweet, however - not so much.
If I’m being honest, I’ve felt anxiety in regards to not being “a 50/50” bisexual. Especially as an activist in the LGBT community, I stress about not being perceived as “bi enough.”
Recent studies show more young adults are identifying as bisexual than ever before. Why is that?
My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.
Bisexual activist Nicole Kristal has a message for journalists and politicians who leave the B out of LGBT.
A whole 36 minutes of bisexuality is being added back in when it debuts (again
There's a group that is safe for bi men to experience healthy touching.
An incredible array of notable bisexual leaders are presenting workshops, some for the first time time, at the regional BECAUSE Conference scheduled from April 17 to 19 at the University of Minnesota.
Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda will be portraying women who have two bisexual husbands who are in love with each other.
It's not really an Easter story, but it's an interesting fact about the bisexual symbols of the mysterious figures onEaster Island.
It's an intriguing question for science fiction fans who understand the history of bisexual characters in this specialized genre.
Center Bi, the only bisexual organization that is hosted at a BLGT center in the country, is seeking funds for educational material and outreach. They are trying to make $3,000 in donations before their Pride Festival, and so far have more than $200.
Conner Mertens, the out bisexual football player, is waiting for the next step.
Here are the most famous Irish bisexuals. Bet you didn't know a few of them.
Writer Eliel Cruz once again comes up with a list that slaps down some incorrect perceptions about dating bisexuals.
Nearly one-fifth of those identifying as BLGT in the UK military identified as bisexual.
The bisexual Bard's masculine play 'Othello' will now be done by a group of ladies.
BECAUSE is a cool acronym that stands for Bisexual Empowerment Conference, A Uniting Supportive Experience., and they've announced their keynote speakers and theme.
Bisexual.org has a THRIVING Facebook community over 70,000 members strong. We've tapped into our shared wisdom by asking our community what THEY feel are the most common MISCONCEPTIONS about bisexuals. Here are their TOP answers.
Two decades ago barely a quarter of Americans believed members of the LGBT
community should enjoy equal marriage rights; now nearly two-thirds accept
This quantum leap cannot be explained by what sociologists call generational
shift – that is older, conservative folk dying off and younger, more liberal
people taking their places. Something more radical and unforeseen took place
that precipitated a change in opinion that leapt across the generations.
According to GLAAD's latest media reports, on television, out of the "66 regular or recurring LGBT characters on scripted cable television, 35 are gay men, while only 4 are bisexual males." Meanwhile, of the 102 LGBT-inclusive films released in 2013 (note that's not all films, just the ones that had LGBT characters), there was only one bisexual male character. That means that less than 6% of LGBT representation on television was of bisexual men, and less than 1% in films in 2013.
Sexuality is not a binary; it’s not all gay or straight. There’s a pretty good chance you’re going to date someone who has, in the past, been romantically involved with someone of another gender. You may date someone who, in the future, will date someone of another gender. It’s not the end of the world, and it shouldn't affect your relationship.
Actress, comedian and bisexual. She has never hesitated to give her take on the celebrities around her. A famous example was on the Letterman show in 1988, where Bernhard said that Madonna – appearing on the show with her – was much better than Sean Penn in bed, thus alluding to Bernhard's then bisexual status and fueling speculation about her relationship with the singer.
Malcolm S. Forbes (August 19, 1919 – February 24, 1990) was publisher of Forbes magazine, founded by his father B. C. Forbes and today run by his son Steve Forbes. Soon after his death in 1990 Malcolm S. Forbes was revealed to have been bisexual. Steve Forbes’ apparent tolerance of his father’s sexual orientation was seized upon by social conservatives in 1996, and severely damaged his prospects in the Republican party.
Veteran TV host Larry King made a fool of himself recently when he repeatedly prodded the ‘True Blood’ actress about being bisexual while also being married to a man.
Larry King likely gave birth, albeit unintentionally, to at least one fledgling punk band during a recent interview with Anna Paquin, when he asked her if she is a “non-practicing bisexual.”The actress, who is married to her True Blood co-star Stephen Moyer, tried to set King straight by saying that she’s “monogamously married,” but this only served to confuse him more.“But you were bisexual?” he asked, forcing Paquin to explain that it’s not a “past tense thing” and that if a straight person “were to break up” with their partner, their sexuality wouldn’t just stop existing. Which was about the most PC way you could possibly point out that just because you agree to stay faithful to one person doesn’t mean that you stop wanting to have sex with other people—something the many-times-married Larry King probably knew already.
Thirty women get personal and offer up their personal stories around being bisexual. This compelling article was originally published on buzzfeed.com.
Joan Crawford, an American actress in film, television and theatre. Want to see more famous bisexuals? Join us on Facebook, Twitter or Google+ to get weekly updates on famous bisexuals, bisexual facts and FAQs.
"I do not in the least underestimate bisexuality. . . I expect it to provide all further enlightenment." - Sigmund Freud.
“Männertreffen" [Men's gathering] I heard Christoph say to somebody across the breakfast table at the Z-Bi last November. My ears immediately perked up, my eyes widened, and I literally jumped up to find out more. I was soon treated to an enthusiastic stream of stories about BiNe’s retreat and it was hard not to notice how everyone's faces lit up when they spoke. Clearly, I had stumbled upon something special; I was ready to sign up on the spot.