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Even if I Never Date Another Woman, I’m Still Bi

Because I don't feel as comfortable around women, deleted my dating apps, and tend to avoid straight places, I meet many more queer men than straight or bi women. Nevertheless, I’m still attracted to women.


The Unicorn Scale: Outlander

This week The Unicorn Scale tackles the time traveling extravaganza, "Outlander".
Content Warning: This article discusses sexual assault and sexual violence


5 Thing I’ve Learned In My Year of Being a Bi Activist

Being bi is fantastic, empowering, and just plain fun. Here are some of the things I’ve learned on my journey fighting for bi acceptance.


We Need To Talk About Kelly

If only Kelly Osborne had said that she is open to loving anybody, and left it at that.


Luke Evans Is Gay, Straight, and Gay Again — Or Is He

There are complexities to coming out as a bi man, especially under the scrutiny of a public eye, that fosters this sort of back and forth from gay to straight.


This Bi Life: Bi and On The Ace Spectrum

It was such a relief to know that I could keep my bi identity (which had become very important to me) and also acknowledge this other facet of myself. I started identifying as bi and demisexual, or bidemisexual.


A Bi By Any Other Name…

Be your proud demi, pan, omni wonderful self. We all still have one thing in common, we are all attracted to more than one gender, we are all a part of the bi+ party.


Stop Calling “Straight” Men Who Have Sex With Men Straight

While these individuals may not claim a bi identity, what they’re engaging in sexually, is by definition, bisexuality. Sexuality doesn’t always have to include romantic attraction or even sexual activity.


It’s OK to be a “Messy” Bi Person

It’s my life. I shouldn't have to live in a restricted way just to satisfy the prudish. I am a bi poly guy with no desire to settle down and build a family. I’m an open book. And I’m proud.


My Boyfriend Thinks I’m 50% Gay/50% Straight. Uh-Uh.

This is a common perception in our world. I've been asked who I like more: men or women. What percentage gay am I? What percentage straight am I? I'm 100% bi.


Coming To Terms With My Bisexuality: A Life’s Journey

It’s been a long journey getting here, but I am so happy to be out and 100% true to myself. Just a year and a month ago, I was still wearing my “straight” mask, but now, I am an out and proud bi woman and I couldn’t be happier!


How Rave Culture Helped Me Embrace My Bisexuality

Rave culture's openness and acceptance is a large part of why I was able to come out as bi. It's why I quit trying to be someone else's idea of “normal” and just started being myself.


She Kissed a Girl, But Is She Bi?

The Bi Line tackles Katy Perry's speech at the Human Rights Campaign Gala


Why I Put Bi on my Dating Profile

I don’t think you should feel obligated to put that you’re bi on your dating profile if you don’t want to do so. However, for your sake, and to make your romantic/dating life easier, I would highly consider doing so!


Bi and Trans at a Play Party

Bi was a word I thought couldn’t include me because of my gender and attraction. I was wrong. Bi has more than enough room for nonbinary genders and nonbinary attraction. Bi includes me.


The Unicorn Scale: Velvet Goldmine

This week we dive into Todd Haynes' 1998 Glam Rock extravaganza "Velvet Goldmine"


Bi People Have Yet to Rise

Where was bisexuality in ABC's "When We Rise"?


I am Bi and I Used to Be Biphobic

It’s an odd thing to say – that I used to discriminate against other bi folks. But I did. I didn’t think bisexuality was sound or valid. That’s how I was taught. And I was taught wrong.


You Are Not Responsible for the “Bi Brand”

Often, when we say we’re bi to new folks we meet, we’re the first out and open bi person with whom they've had the privilege of speaking. This puts a lot of weight on us. Because you know that their interaction with you will form their opinion on all bi people for the rest of eternity. (Or at least it seems like that.)


Welcome to the Unicorn Scale: Black Sails

Welcome to The Unicorn Scale where will be talking about the quality of bi representation in various shows, films, and books. First up is Starz's "Black Sails".


I’m Bisexual and I Have Anxiety and I’m Not Alone

I am bi and I struggle with an anxiety disorder. Now, although I have grown to understand and accept both of these facts, they remain strange and oftentimes unfathomable to others.


Yes, Sometimes I Do Miss Being With Men

Being bisexual, for me, doesn’t mean I don’t care about a person’s appearance. It doesn't mean that I’m only attracted to personality. On the contrary, it means I’m attracted to various physical forms (along with personality as well).


What’s So Funny About Bisexuality?

Bisexual characters are the butt of jokes in Hollywood and we’re not laughing.


How Anais Nin Reminded Me There’s No One Right Way to Be Bi

The writings of Anais Nin were a huge part of my awakening as a young woman. Today, on Anais Nin's birthday, I am reminded that orientation is about so much more than physical attraction. And that there's no one right way to be bisexual.


9 Ridiculous Questions People Ask About Being Bi and How to Answer Them

Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.


Solo on Valentine’s Day and Still Bi

So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.


The Bi Line: Lady Gaga Rocks the Super Bowl

If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.


Navigating Academic Spaces When Bi

Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences


3 Reasons To Quit Saying “I Don’t Date Bi People”

Why so many people feel the need to inform me of this dating prejudice, even when I've shown absolutely no interest in them, is beyond me. At the very least, these exchanges are just plain strange. But they are also very upsetting and here's why.


Bisexuality is Not “New” or “Hip”

Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."


4 Things I Don’t Want to Hear on a First Date… Again

If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.


4 Ways Roger The Alien Taught Me to be Bi Better

Roger may not be the average person (or alien) you would tell your kid to aspire to be. Nevertheless, there’s something in his pride, his confidence in his sexuality, and his brutal honesty that is inspiring to me.


5 Dating Tips for Bi Men

I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.


Thank You David Bowie for Reminding Us It’s Okay to Be Weird

David Bowie's life reminds us to have fun. Go for it, it's okay to be weird. In fact it's awesome to be weird.


Bi Book Club 2017

I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.


No, My Partner Isn’t ‘Bothered’ By My Bisexuality

They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.


I’m Polyamorous, Not Promiscuous

Next time someone tells you that they are polyamorous, please don't assume that they are promiscuous.


Bi Folks in “Straight” Relationships Still Need Queer Spaces

When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.


Bisexuality in 2016: a Recap

There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.


5 Gift Ideas for Your Bi Bestie

Bi folks are of course people and love all the gifts that people love, but here are some extra awesome gift options for the bi people in your life.


This Bi Life: I Still Feel Guilty for My Attraction to Women

You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.


The Year 2016 in Bi TV

This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?


The Silver Lining of Dating When Bi

At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.


My Sexuality Is Not Just About Sex

Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!


This Bi Life: Holiday Self-Care Puerto Rico

The concept of coming out to my Abuela and Abuelo is daunting and terrifying... I need to give my own grandparents a chance to accept me, even though it might be daunting.


Why I Don’t “Not Do Labels”

In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.


I’m a Sex Addict (And So Are You)

I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.


Bi and Poly Part III: Managing Jealousy

Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.


A Love Letter to My Girlfriend – From Your Bi Boyfriend

My girlfriend has read and seen everything I've ever done as an activist. Rather than be insecure when I discuss the kind of men I find attractive - she replies 'this is awesome babe, so proud of you.'


Home for the Holidays and Coming Out As Bi?

When your relatives ask those inevitable questions, these snappy responses will help you relax and get back to the important work of eating.


Supernatural’s Scariest Monster: Bi Erasure

With season 12 of “Supernatural” already underway, many fans are asking, “Is Dean ever going to come out of the closet?”


When Sexual Fluidity Is Turned Against Us

We, the queer community, want to say, “What if I chose to be queer? Let’s say I did. What’s wrong with that?” The answer of course, is nothing.


Bi and Poly Part 1: Are You Ready to Be Non-Monogamous?

I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.


When Neutral Isn’t Enough: New Research Into Stigmas Around Bisexuality

Bi.org spoke with Dr. Brian Dodge about his research into how bi people are perceived by the rest of the world and what the potential impacts of the perception are.


How I Maintain Visibility as a Bi Femme

I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.


4 Ways Bi Representation on TV Can and Should Be Better

GLAAD's annual media report shows that there are more bi characters on TV, unfortunately they are mostly evil or dead. We need more and better bi characters.


17 Ways for LGBT Organizations to be More Bi Inclusive

It may seem like a long list, but really it doesn't take a lot to put the B back in your LGBT organization


4 Ways Porn Perpetuates Misconceptions About Bisexuality

These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as "bisexual".


1 in 5 Straight-Identifying Men Watch Same-sex Porn: Are They All Closeted?

Why do a fifth of self-identified straight men watch gay porn? My gut response was to say some of these men are actually closeted gay or bi, but I think that’s an oversimplification.


Bilingual, Bicultural, Bisexual

As Latino LGBT people, our challenges are unique, but so are we to overcome them.


Bi Erasure and Biphobia: Two Sides of the Same Coin

Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.


Yay for Bi Visibility: Our 11 #iamBi Contest Winners!

Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!


In Your Own Words: Coming Out Bi

In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:


This Bi Life: Black, Bi, and Sexy

Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.


15 Great Tweets from #BiWeek

Throughout the week members and supporters of the bi+ community made us laugh out loud, provided opportunities for enrichment, and gave us even more reason to celebrate. Let’s take a look at some of #BiWeek in tweets!


Bi and Dating, when the World is Divided into “Gay” and “Straight”

Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?


Bi and Mighty

Happy Bi Visibility Day 2016! Here are some things we'd like to see accomplished before many more Bi Visibility Days have passed. What's on your Bi Wish List?


Women Report That Bisexual Men Make Better Lovers, Fathers, and Partners

Dr. Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli of Deakin University talks to bi.org about her new book "Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men by Women".


Researchers Need to Acknowledge Bi Men’s Unique Needs

I'm certainly not suggesting that bi issues are more important than gay issues, simply that they are different issues that both deserve the same amount of respect. The problem is when LGBT groups and health organisations keep adding 'and bisexual' to the mix to try and pass themselves off as inclusive.


Would You Be Open to Dating Someone Who is Bisexual?

The more time I spend involved in bi activism and talking to other bi folks, the more I hear one major complaint. "No one wants to date me." It normally comes down to "people keep rejecting me as a potential romantic partner because I am bi."


Biphobia is not just “Watered Down Homophobia”

It is all too common for bi people to be rejected by partners of either sex simply because we are bi. For a lot of people, bisexuality is a deal breaker when it comes to dating. This can be due to false and unfair stereotypes about bi people being confused or disloyal, or it can even be because some claims to find bi people "gross."


10 Timeless Movie Kisses

Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.


This Bi Life: Still Out, Still Proud

The more bi people who are out, the more we will be accepted and someday bisexuality, homosexuality, heterosexuality, etc will all be treated equally. In the mean time, maybe my family will figure it out. Until then, I’ll just keep being me, out and proud.


What Keeps Bi Men in the Closet?

We talk to Dr. Eric Schrimshaw of Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health about his recent study on why bisexual men are not coming out to partners, family, and friends.


What Does Bi Erasure Look Like?

The message these rulings send out is loud and clear. As far as the justice system is concerned, bisexuality does not exist, and I think that that is unacceptable.


What Can the Bi Community Learn from Dan Savage?

Biphobia remains rampant, even within the gay community. This is in part due to the fact that bi people aren't coming out in large enough numbers yet.


This Bi Life: Growing Up in Mexico

"I was indoctrinated into a kind of machismo culture, which is to say I grew up believing that a man must behave in a stereotypically masculine manner at all times. This meant carefully hiding any parts of myself that might have been perceived as stereotypically 'feminine.'"


Bi-power – A Call to Action

Ask most bi people, and they will tell you that the majority of biphobia they experience is from within the LGBT community itself.


Revealing Research on why Many Bisexual Men Don’t Come Out

Schrimshaw found that many men aren’t “confused” about their (bi)sexuality. They know they are attracted to both men and women; however, they aren’t open about their (bi)sexuality because they fear stigma, ridicule, and being outed.


Sorry, “Mr. Right.” I’m Still Bi.

We are not entertaining ourselves with women until we find the "perfect man." We are not kissing for attention or ratings. We are bi women, and we are still bi no matter whom we are dating.


Being a Bi Man Isn’t About Being a “Masculine” Fantasy

Just like not all lesbians are "butch" and not all gay men are "queens," not all bi guys are a gay man's stereotyped fantasy of masculinity. Our sexual orientation is more than your porn fetish. Sorry.


Live From Hall B: Bi Representation Thrives at Comic-Con

It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.


I Know You Mean Well, But Please Stop Watching Us Kiss

So please, I know you mean well, and I’m flattered, I truly am, but stop asking me and my boyfriend to make out. Stop telling us how hot it is. Stop objectifying our queerness and love.


8 Questions I Get Asked As A Bisexual Woman

By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.


Bisexual – It’s Time to Reclaim the Word

We are a generation that loves our labels, married or single, black or white, team Edward or team Jacob. The problem is, when it comes down to sexual orientation things are not so black and white.


How my Bisexuality is a Privilege

I want to focus on why I love being bisexual. Why it is not only a blessing, but a privilege that I was able to discover my (bi)sexuality. And even if I was magically presented the option to press a button and turn either gay or straight, I would never, in a million years, change my sexual orientation.


This Bi Life: I Don’t Feel Bi Enough

What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.


5 Things Not To Say When Your Friend Comes Out

When someone comes out to you, it is not about you and your feelings. It’s about them opening up to you and trusting you with a part of their life that is very fragile.


Bisexual Conversations 101

This guide is a handy tool for bisexual people who want to educate friends and family, as well as for non-bi people who want to know how to be good allies to bi people.


#StillBisexual Takes Our Stories to the Big Screen!

Despite the fact that bisexual people are the majority of the LGBT population, bi people and their stories are often conspicuously absent from most LGBT festivals. Fortunately, not this time!


Our Favorite Bi Characters of the 2015-16 Season

Let’s hear it for the Bis! We’re celebrating some of our favorite bisexual characters of the 2015-16 tv season. Are yours on the list?


Why Can’t We Like More Than One?

For literally everything else in life, humans can like more than one thing - and usually without judgement. It shouldn't be inconceivable to think that some of us have the capacity to be attracted to more than one gender.


For the Love of Fandom: Bierasure and #LGBTFansDeserveBetter

Saying that Clarke being with a man is a bad thing because he is a man—no matter the context—is biphobic.


Coming Out Bisexual: My Story

Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.


I’m Bisexual, but not…

There are so many stereotypes about bi people. We are not those things. We are just bisexual.


Clarke Griffin, Bisexual: CW’s The 100 and Dystopian Future at Its Finest

In modern pop culture the only indicator of bisexuality is behavior. Beyond even that, we can’t assume the character will stay that way. In reality we know bisexuality is in and of itself valid and not a phase.


Is Bisexuality Increasingly in the Public Consciousness?

The orientation (and the people who represent it) have gone from being ignored and actively erased by the media to being part of society's grand narrative.


Bi, Pan, Omni, Poly, Fluid, NoLabel, etc. = #oneofus

My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.


Stop Erasing Bisexuality

Bisexual activist Nicole Kristal has a message for journalists and politicians who leave the B out of LGBT.


Ian McKellen’s Character on “Vicious” Displays Unfortunate Biphobia

In an episode of British comedy Vicious, character Freddie Thornhill, as played by Ian McKellen, dismissed the very idea of bisexuality.


Don’t Inflict Your Gender Norms on my Dog

Why do people who would never dare be so confrontational with another human feel totally comfortable policing my dog’s gender performance?


From Our Facebook Community: The Top 30 Most Common Misconceptions About Bisexuals

Bisexual.org has a THRIVING Facebook community over 70,000 members strong. We've tapped into our shared wisdom by asking our community what THEY feel are the most common MISCONCEPTIONS about bisexuals. Here are their TOP answers.


Advocate.com Op-Ed: Biphobia and Dating Bi Guys

Sexuality is not a binary; it’s not all gay or straight. There’s a pretty good chance you’re going to date someone who has, in the past, been romantically involved with someone of another gender. You may date someone who, in the future, will date someone of another gender. It’s not the end of the world, and it shouldn't affect your relationship.