Category Archives

Meet Iris. Iris Is In The Closet.

I get to love both women and men! It's like, if monosexuality is like black and white TV, then bisexuality and pansexuality is like color. It's so different. There's no way in hell I want to be anything other than bisexual.


What Happens When a ‘Girl Crush’ is a ‘Crush Crush’

When your crushes on girls are romantic or sexual in nature, it can be tricky to separate your genuine crushes from your ‘girl crushes.’ So where do these two distinct types of crushes meet?


Good Bi Love: What’s The Role of My Straight Partner?

One question I've received repeatedly, and to be frank, one question I really hadn’t thought much about prior, was “What’s the role of my straight partner in making my bisexuality visible?”


Meet Betty. Betty Is In The Closet.

Betty is currently in a same gender relationship. Very few people know that and the ones who do, don't know that Betty is bi, they know her as a lesbian. She holds on to two secrets tightly.


Meet Stan. Stan Is In The Closet.

Meet Stan, years ago he came out as gay. Later he realized that he was bi, and is now unsure how to come out to his gay community.


Meet Estelle. Estelle is in the Closet.

Today we meet Estelle, a woman who is mostly happy with her own bisexuality, but struggles with how to be out to her conservative social circle.


Meet Doreen. Doreen is in the Closet.

Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Doreen, she used to live a typical Christian American life. Then her husband came out to her as gay and her marriage ended. Now she is coming to terms with her own bisexuality.


Meet Clay. Clay is in the Closet.

Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Clay, a bi firefighter who is worried that coming out might hurt his career.


It’s Time to Take Bi Women Seriously

I am not an erotic fiction audiobook that exists for your listening pleasure, thank you very much. The idea that bi women just want attention perpetuates the idea that a woman's love for another woman is something for straight men to enjoy.


What My Parents Think About My Bisexuality

Bi.org contributor, Blaize Stewart, sat down with his parents to ask what they were thinking when he came out to them.


Please, Let’s Stop Arguing About Identity Labels

What we can focus on is the unique reasons why we choose our identity labels, how as a community we face the same struggles, and ways we can work together.


How Being Bi Helped Me See Past the Binary

Now I do my best not to assume based off of stereotypes or make snap judgements about a person’s identity or character. I attempt to look at all the possible outcomes of a situation instead of only looking for the most likely one.


It’s Not About “Choosing A Side”

If we had the option of immersing ourselves in bi culture, instead of having to choose between gay or straight culture, I suspect most of us would feel pretty at home in the bi spaces.


My Life Changed When I Just Owned My Bi Label

I thought I was “just gay,” but then I’d remember all of the women I had loved in my lifetime, and all the times I’d cried over a woman I liked, and it was clear that I am not gay.


Gay, Straight, or Bi, We Shared a Moment

This had to be a dream out of some corny romance movie with a line like that. But before I knew what to say, I felt myself leaning over and connecting lips with Chad.


10 Questions You Should Never Ask A Bi Person

Coming out as bi, I've found that many people have a hard time filtering out the inappropriate or uncomfortable inquiries they want to direct at me. While I'm happy to address some of their questions, there are a few that either do not or should not be asked.


The Unicorn Scale: Chewing Gum

This week The Unicorn Scale looks at the hilarious comedy, "Chewing Gum," specifically the episode "The Unicorn." 'Cause how could we resist?


4 Things I Don’t Want to Hear on a First Date… Again

If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.


5 Dating Tips for Bi Men

I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.


Thank You David Bowie for Reminding Us It’s Okay to Be Weird

David Bowie's life reminds us to have fun. Go for it, it's okay to be weird. In fact it's awesome to be weird.


No, My Partner Isn’t ‘Bothered’ By My Bisexuality

They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.


1 in 5 Straight-Identifying Men Watch Same-sex Porn: Are They All Closeted?

Why do a fifth of self-identified straight men watch gay porn? My gut response was to say some of these men are actually closeted gay or bi, but I think that’s an oversimplification.


8 Questions I Get Asked As A Bisexual Woman

By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.


Bisexual – It’s Time to Reclaim the Word

We are a generation that loves our labels, married or single, black or white, team Edward or team Jacob. The problem is, when it comes down to sexual orientation things are not so black and white.


Bisexual Conversations 101

This guide is a handy tool for bisexual people who want to educate friends and family, as well as for non-bi people who want to know how to be good allies to bi people.