My first sexual experiences were with other women but they never went ‘too far’ so, at the time, I reframed them in my head as a youthful curiosity.
Sometimes I think that my life might be exciting, then I read about this badass bi and realized that I lead a very dull existence indeed.
“I mainly feel a sense of embarrassment about coming out to certain people, as well as thinking that it's no one else's business.”
Despite the privileges that set bi folk apart from the rest of the LGBT+ community, there is still that purgatory-like feeling of not belonging in either camp.
We’re sitting down with folks who have made #StillBisexual videos to find out more about their story. We recently talked to Sonya Saturday about her video.
This week's Unicorn Scale takes a look at another French bi film, "Blue is the Warmest Color".
When I was fifteen, I developed feelings for a friend of mine, also a girl, which sparked a year-long crisis that I navigated with bad Buzzfeed quizzes and unhelpful blog posts. At sixteen, I got tired of freaking out and accepted that I was bi.
We are diverse, we are complex, and our unique blend of difference is precisely what stitches us together into a coherent community.
I've had two abortions, one was traumatizing, painful, and almost unbearable; the other was about as pleasant as any other medical procedure. Why do we allow such a discrepancy to exist?
I know that I have been bi, and I know that putting that out there and having that identifier at least gives me a place to look, or to feel, some sort of community.
What to do when you're happily monogamous, but feel like there's a part of your sexuality that you still need to explore?
Two years after Lexa's death in The 100, we check in with fans and talk about the impact that death had on them and the importance of having an awesome bi woman leading this show.
We all have our own process when we come out. For some of us it happens when we're teens, for others it happens after 25 years of marriage.
I am bi and I still deserve to be loved.
I have always known I wanted children, I have always known they would not be my biological children, and this week my potential family came under attack.
It isn't just the men who hear it; as bi women we are frequently told that our attractions are just a phase.
The last of our roundup of awesome bi characters. We've done bi drama, bi crime, bi parents, bi sci-fi/fantasy, and now it's time for the list of some of the best bi characters in comedy.
The answer is yes: I do. I have too much momentum now. And I’ve dealt with too much erasure, discrimination, and just plain B.S. to quietly wait my turn to speak.
Abbi Jacobson has admitted to being attracted to men and women, but she didn't use "The B Word." Is it fair for us to call her bi?
No one who knows me would conceivably label me as shy. So why am I so damn timid when it comes to asking out anyone other than men?
This weekend Madam Secretary will be introducing another bi character and we are thrilled.
My sexuality is not a joke, it’s not a hobby, it’s not a side show, or a side dish, or a parlor trick; it’s a valid truth about who I am, how I am, and deserves respectful acknowledgement.
For our first Bi Book Club, we're taking a peek at Roxane Gay's 2017 memoir "Hunger".
Who's your favorite crime fighting, murder solving bi? Here are ours.
Happy Oscars! Let's talk about one of the most nominated films of all time, which also happens to have some awesome bi ladies in it.
Let's celebrate Emma Gonzalez, the incredible bi teen who is working to change the world.
If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. If you have, watch it again. Janelle Monae's amazing new music video shows us the joy of being bi.
The zero-sum game mentality demands that we choose between false dichotomies: Are you driven by emotion or intellect? Do you put your career first, or your relationships with loved ones? Are you attracted to men or to women?
This week The Unicorn Scale is looking at Spike Lee’s Netflix reboot of his breakthrough film, She’s Gotta Have It.
This is where the red flags started popping up. He showed up, and was immediately giving off some very unpleasant vibes.... It turned out that his condition for her dating me was that he would be shown pictures of anything that happened between us, or that if he is in town he wanted to participate.
In honor of what will hopefully be a bright and wonderful New Year, The Unicorn Scale is looking back to a beloved classic.
I thought we were building a real relationship, then I noticed she only treated me like her girlfriend when there was someone there to witness it.
This week, The Unicorn Scale takes a gander at "Godless" and its collection of great female characters in the wild west.
I’m not going to be the person who shows everyone that bi people aren’t like that, and I’m okay with that.
People who deny bisexuality, and even deny queer folk in general exist, love to hear about these doubts we have and try to use these doubts against us. They love to hear about the abuse queer people have gone through and try to use that to explain away our sexuality as if it's some sort of deviancy. Well, it's not. We know it's not. It's the best thing to ever happen to us, our bisexuality.
The numbers are in! GLAAD’s Where We Are On TV report shines an annual light on queer characters making big waves on the small screen.
This week's Unicorn Scale takes a look at the Swedish thriller, "Girl With The Dragon Tattoo."
When you dance your pretty little (giant?) heart out to Grace Jones, or Demi Lovato, or Lady Gaga, you aren't dancing to the music of “lesbians in college.” You're dancing to music created by some of the greatest bi singers to walk this earth.
I told her that the bi label will always be there for her. That it absolutely fits her identity, and she should never feel any shame or embarrassment for claiming the label.
As a bi woman, online dating has its own collection of pitfalls.
“I feel joy and comfort knowing I am not alone in this world..... Everyone is unique and different and I don't want to judge anyone no more.”
Bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talks to Dr. Nicole Johnson of The Department of Education and Human Services at Lehigh University about some of the reasons why bi women may face higher rates of sexual violence.
This Unicorn Scale edition covers my newest, happiest TV obsession – “The Bold Type,” ... This frothy, fashionable, blisteringly smart comedy-drama centers on the adventures of Jane, Sutton, and Kat, three twentysomething women working at Scarlet, a global women’s magazine.
I’ve been on #StandBi for quite a while, and no matter who I end up dating, I will still be bi. I am not going back in the closet just because I don’t have enough bi street cred.
Many bi people struggle going back and forth between "queer spaces" and "straight spaces," but why does it have to be such a struggle?
Basically, straight guys, it’s like this: If you want to bond with me, just try doing it the normal way.... Don’t treat me any differently simply because you find out I would also love the opportunity to date Megan Fox.
In preparation for season 2 of "The Good Place" Jennie Roberson takes a look at the slow reveal of Eleanor's (the main character) bisexuality over the course of season 1.
This week bi.org contributor Greg Ward spoke with Nelda, a young bi woman who is very active and out as bi online, but hasn't yet fully come out in her everyday life.
This week bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.
I’ve struggled with whether I wanted to be a representative every time I mention my sexuality. So I’ve tried different approaches over the years - with varying results.
She feels like she belongs in [online bi] groups but sometimes feels like a fraud because she's never had any sexual experiences with women; only with men. “Can I really call myself bisexual?” Lulu asked. “Like, that's something I struggle with sometimes.”
As far as coming to terms with my sexuality, I am currently in a period when I am more attracted to women, and I think to myself, 'Am I maybe gay?' But then I get that familiar feeling that says, 'Nope. Still bi.'
If I had it my way, I’d never not work with a fellow bi person. We need each other.
This summer brought us not one, but two, kick-ass bi heroines! Lorraine Broughton and Diana Prince both showed us that bi ladies definitely belong on the big screen.
We Bi+ people are so easily made invisible, we need to create visibility, to show up, to hold space for each other. We need to loudly and proudly make it known that we are Bi+ and not ashamed and not afraid.
I get to love both women and men! It's like, if monosexuality is like black and white TV, then bisexuality and pansexuality is like color. It's so different. There's no way in hell I want to be anything other than bisexual.
Meet Gloria. She is bi and not yet out. Here is her story.
This week bi.org contributor Greg Ward talks to a woman in a very conservative church in a conservative area. Even though coming out isn't simple for her, she still sees the beauty of her bisexuality and how it allows her to perceive and interpret the world differently than her straight counterparts.
This week I was sick to death of watching shows with bi characters who never ever said the word bi, so I decided to sit down and watch "Appropriate Behavior." If you too are sick to death of bi erasure and bi invisibility, check out this awesome movie written, directed, and starring a real life bi woman about a bi woman!
Soon after the lights dimmed, we were introduced to the queer woman paradise that is Themyscira. Now, I’m pretty sure there was not a queer person in any theatre that thought just because this is a women-only island, nothing sexual was going down.
“I have a gift of so many worlds that I should just take it all. How great is this? That when finally I was all, 'I'm bisexual. Oh my gosh, I get to love so many people!'”
When your crushes on girls are romantic or sexual in nature, it can be tricky to separate your genuine crushes from your ‘girl crushes.’ So where do these two distinct types of crushes meet?
In honor of Frida Kahlo's birthday, The Unicorn Scale takes a look at Julie Taymor's 2002 biopic, Frida.
Betty is currently in a same gender relationship. Very few people know that and the ones who do, don't know that Betty is bi, they know her as a lesbian. She holds on to two secrets tightly.
This week The Unicorn Scale's guest writer, SB, takes us back to 2005 and the romantic comedy, "Imagine Me and You".
Today we meet Estelle, a woman who is mostly happy with her own bisexuality, but struggles with how to be out to her conservative social circle.
Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Doreen, she used to live a typical Christian American life. Then her husband came out to her as gay and her marriage ended. Now she is coming to terms with her own bisexuality.
I am not an erotic fiction audiobook that exists for your listening pleasure, thank you very much. The idea that bi women just want attention perpetuates the idea that a woman's love for another woman is something for straight men to enjoy.
If we had the option of immersing ourselves in bi culture, instead of having to choose between gay or straight culture, I suspect most of us would feel pretty at home in the bi spaces.
From the start we’re given bows or arrows, trucks or ballet slippers, hugs or “stiff upper lip”s. This leads to a lifetime of inequality, both in how we see the world and how others see us.
Coming out as bi, I've found that many people have a hard time filtering out the inappropriate or uncomfortable inquiries they want to direct at me. While I'm happy to address some of their questions, there are a few that either do not or should not be asked.
If only Kelly Osborne had said that she is open to loving anybody, and left it at that.
In a society as heteronormative as this, when LGBTQ rights and issues are still up for debate, we need connection. We need to feel as if we’re not alone. We need to know that our existence is valid and our problems are not just ours alone. We need a team. We need community. We need family.
I feel like we sometimes forget to acknowledge the amazing bi folks in mainstream media who are killing it with regards to visibility. This piece is for the women in mainstream media who not only proudly identify as bi, but also advocate for bi equality.
It was such a relief to know that I could keep my bi identity (which had become very important to me) and also acknowledge this other facet of myself. I started identifying as bi and demisexual, or bidemisexual.
It’s been a long journey getting here, but I am so happy to be out and 100% true to myself. Just a year and a month ago, I was still wearing my “straight” mask, but now, I am an out and proud bi woman and I couldn’t be happier!
Happy birthday, Lady Gaga! Thanks for being one of the very few bi celebrities to actually #SayBisexual. Instead of sneakily hiding behind a "no labels" comment, your transparent example has inspired millions to openly show their #BiPride!
The Bi Line tackles Katy Perry's speech at the Human Rights Campaign Gala
Every conversation we had in Egypt eventually led to the question, "you are friends?.." It took me a few days to realize what they were really saying is, "are you lesbians?"
We’ve always had a moment for gay rights. When will “LGBT rights” organizations have more than a mere moment for ours?
It’s an odd thing to say – that I used to discriminate against other bi folks. But I did. I didn’t think bisexuality was sound or valid. That’s how I was taught. And I was taught wrong.
Welcome to The Unicorn Scale where we will be talking about the quality of bi representation in various shows, films, and books. First up is Starz's "Black Sails."
I am bi and I struggle with an anxiety disorder. Now, although I have grown to understand and accept both of these facts, they remain strange and oftentimes unfathomable to others.
The writings of Anais Nin were a huge part of my awakening as a young woman. Today, on Anais Nin's birthday, I am reminded that orientation is about so much more than physical attraction. And that there's no one right way to be bisexual.
Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.
[Evan Rachel Wood's words] made me feel comforted, and a little less alone. It gave me hope for a new generation of bi kids, who would hopefully see people like her and feel a little less alone, too.
If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.
Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences.
“You may not be able to be out in every single space that you’re interacting in, and so my hope is that for bi folks, with the spaces where one can be out, I hope they are able to capitalize on that for their own well-being.”
Having President Obama in office, someone who vehemently and passionately believes in equality and fairness, told me that we were moving forward. It confirmed what I’d always believed – that the side of equal rights is the right side.
The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.
I can look as girly or androgynous as I want. I can climb mountains or sit in drawing rooms (first I’d have to find a drawing room). I am still a woman.
I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.
They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.
Next time someone tells you that they are polyamorous, please don't assume that they are promiscuous.
When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.
There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.
You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.
This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?
Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!
I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.
When your relatives ask those inevitable questions, these snappy responses will help you relax and get back to the important work of eating.
We will fight for and alongside each other when the time comes. But right now, it’s okay to mourn. It’s okay to not be okay.
I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.
GLAAD's annual media report shows that there are more bi characters on TV, unfortunately they are mostly evil or dead. We need more and better bi characters.
It may seem like a long list, but really it doesn't take a lot to put the B back in your LGBT organization.
These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as "bisexual".
Although I've attended and participated in Prides, I'd never been on the planning side before. I showed up to the first meeting hesitant because bisexuality is often ignored by Pride organizers, but I was immediately made welcome. I loved seeing this whole thing come together, and for me the icing on the cake was when I was made Grand Marshal. Talk about bi visibility!
Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.
Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!
In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:
Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.
In honor of Bi Week and Bi Visibility Day, the White House hosted a Bi Community Briefing with members of the bi community.
Throughout the week members and supporters of the bi+ community made us laugh out loud, provided opportunities for enrichment, and gave us even more reason to celebrate. Let’s take a look at some of #BiWeek in tweets!
This Bi Week we are celebrating some of the many bi activists who have been instrumental in the LGBT rights movement.
Amy Winehouse was the first woman I had heard use this mysterious word "bisexual." She wasn't afraid of her sexual orientation changing what people thought of her and refused to tiptoe around the label.
The more time I spend involved in bi activism and talking to other bi folks, the more I hear one major complaint. "No one wants to date me." It normally comes down to "people keep rejecting me as a potential romantic partner because I am bi."
Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.
This week, Bella Thorne came out as bisexual in the chillest way possible, causing an outpouring of love on Twitter. Coming out is about being real, honest, genuine. It isn't just private "bedroom stuff." It affects our romantic and social lives a great deal. If someone doesn't care about all that, that's sad.
Harley Quinn is relatively new to the Suicide Squad, not appearing in that group until 2011, and I was delighted that she was going to be a part of the film. Who doesn’t want to watch a kick ass, bisexual, sexy, funny lady super villain/anti hero?
When I asked Tara Avery how she became involved in bi activism, her answer was simple. “I just showed up.”
We are not entertaining ourselves with women until we find the "perfect man." We are not kissing for attention or ratings. We are bi women, and we are still bi no matter whom we are dating.
It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.
By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.
What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.
This guide is a handy tool for bisexual people who want to educate friends and family, as well as for non-bi people who want to know how to be good allies to bi people.
I never had to come out to him. A fringe benefit of online dating. There it was, my truth right next to my carefully chosen handle: “bisexual.”
Let’s hear it for the Bis! We’re celebrating some of our favorite bisexual characters of the 2015-16 tv season. Are yours on the list?
Music has been a huge part of my coming out process. Singing live about my experiences has helped me realize just how many like-minded people there out there.
Saying that Clarke being with a man is a bad thing because he is a man—no matter the context—is biphobic.
Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.
In modern pop culture the only indicator of bisexuality is behavior. Beyond even that, we can’t assume the character will stay that way. In reality we know bisexuality is in and of itself valid and not a phase.
The orientation (and the people who represent it) have gone from being ignored and actively erased by the media to being part of society's grand narrative.
My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.
It’s only in the last few years that we’ve begun to see bisexual characters represented as calmly as Queen Christina was 80 years ago.
If you see the new documentary "Amy" this weekend and want to know more about the talented performer, here are some statements she (and those who know her well) have said about her bisexuality.
The Oscar-winning actress doesn't like labels, but she's dating women, too now.
Earlier this week, Oregon's bisexual governor Kate Brown continued to make history by signing a bill that ends gay conversion therapy in her state.
A media storm has swirled around the Variety article where classic two-time Oscar-winning happily-married actress Cate Blanchett has talked about her past relationships with women. Mostly, the media are positive, but some think the whole thing is a publicity stunt, while others welcome "finally, a classy bisexual."
A book that takes a unique peak at the lives of Hispanic women is now available in Spanish language.
The darling little girl from "The Cosby Show," Raven-Symoné, pointed out on "The View" on Monday that she feels the same way Miley Cyrus does about not being labelled for liking guys and girls.
Julia Canfield, president of the Bisexual Resource Center has been awarded the Student Excellence in Public Health Practice Award from Boston University.
Honey Boo Boo’s mother, known lovingly by reality show fans as “Mama June,” and Honey Boo Boo’s sister Pumpkin both came out on Inside Edition.
Veja Magazine talked to one pop singer and he or she came out as bisexual to the online magazine and faced a lot of criticism.
AfterEllen.com takes a look at "10 Lesbian and Bisexual Characters on Broadway." That doesn't mean the actors and actresses are bisexual, but their characters are.
During the press tours for Fast & Furious 7, actress Michelle Rodriguez was again asked about her sexuality, particularly her bisexuality, and yes, she affirmed that she still is, and is still proud of it.
American Idol's Crystal Bowersox came out as bisexual in 2014. The Ohio native was competing in the night season when Lee DeWyze won.
Amber Heard, the out bisexual wife of actor Johnny Depp, may be ending her marriage to the superstar after only 62 days.
PopDust.com calls Lindsay Lohan "the Los Angeles bisexual train wreck serial criminal offender" and every once in a while they check in to see what (and who) she's d0ing.
Bisexual comedienne Sandra Bernhard does a play-by-play analysis about her former girlfriend Madonna's latest video "Ghosttown."
Shraya is currently on a west coast tour with authors Amber Dawn and Leah Horlick. Here’s Shraya’s conversation with Bi Magazine. Read all of Bi Magazine's Q & A interview.
The provocative online magazine DNA.com recently compiled the most out female celebs who are bisexual. Some you may not know.
You'll have to check out this really hysterical list from SheWired by Charlotte Dingle called "10 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Bisexual Girl in a Mono Relationship."
Angelina Jolie, famous bisexual, makes another announcement about drastic surgeries she is doing for her health.
Denise is profiled by her local paper about her activism.
The National Enquirer just published an excerpt of a new book that talked about how Joan liked bisexual men, married a few of them, and even tried to bed Rock Hudson, (who had sex with both men and women).
Desiree Akhavan became known as the "Iranian bisexual" at the Sundance Film Festival.
Tiara Thomas is a rising R&B singer, and the 25-year-old is pretty bisexual in her lyrics, but she remains coy about her own personal preferences.
Help this bisexual dancer with an innovate plan for a unique performance.
Actress Shailene Woodley, who is part of the sci-fi film franchise Divergent got a little miffed when the press dubbed her "bisexual." She says she's pansexual.
In The New York Times book review section on Sunday, a review by Sloan Crosley detailed the protagonist of a new book, The Sex Lives of Siamese Twins.
An assistant professor from the psychology department of the University of Missouri in Kanas City, Missouri is seeking bisexual women to participate in a study about their experience involving distress and discrimination.
Queen Latifah will be portraying the out, brave and bisexual Bessie Smith in "Bessie" on HBO.
No, it's not that bisexual women necessarily have fewer problems dating, maybe it's just more concentrated.
Lady Gaga stunned by singing the "Sound of Music" medley at the Oscars, and she was great!
These are the 12 most important things to know about the new out bisexual governor of Oregon.
Any bisexual knows it is not easy to live openly as bisexual. The ignorance, judgment and jokes are just the beginning. So what is it like to walk in the shoes of someone who is bisexual, African-American, polyamorous, atheist, a nude model and a cancer survivor? What does it mean to navigate those identities – separately or as a whole – in a world that often reveals its ignorance and judgment about sex, sexuality, race, gender and bodies?
Most of the weird social situations bi people (women in particular) have to deal with are summed right up with this Buzzfeed video, 15 Bisexual Girl Problems. The 2 minute video accurately depicts the awkward situations bisexual women face in a world that assumes you’re only attracted to one gender.
Actress, comedian and bisexual. She has never hesitated to give her take on the celebrities around her. A famous example was on the Letterman show in 1988, where Bernhard said that Madonna – appearing on the show with her – was much better than Sean Penn in bed, thus alluding to Bernhard's then bisexual status and fueling speculation about her relationship with the singer.
Thirty women get personal and offer up their personal stories around being bisexual. This compelling article was originally published on buzzfeed.com.