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Even if I Never Date Another Woman, I’m Still Bi

Because I don't feel as comfortable around women, deleted my dating apps, and tend to avoid straight places, I meet many more queer men than straight or bi women. Nevertheless, I’m still attracted to women.


5 Thing I’ve Learned In My Year of Being a Bi Activist

Being bi is fantastic, empowering, and just plain fun. Here are some of the things I’ve learned on my journey fighting for bi acceptance.


We Need To Talk About Kelly

If only Kelly Osborne had said that she is open to loving anybody, and left it at that.


I Get Bi With A Little Help From My Friends

In a society as heteronormative as this, when LGBTQ rights and issues are still up for debate, we need connection. We need to feel as if we’re not alone. We need to know that our existence is valid and our problems are not just ours alone. We need a team. We need community. We need family.


Luke Evans Is Gay, Straight, and Gay Again — Or Is He

There are complexities to coming out as a bi man, especially under the scrutiny of a public eye, that fosters this sort of back and forth from gay to straight.


Spotlight on 6 Out and Proud Bi Women

I feel like we sometimes forget to acknowledge the amazing bi folks in mainstream media who are killing it with regards to visibility. This piece is for the women in mainstream media who not only proudly identify as bi, but also advocate for bi equality.


This Bi Life: Bi and On The Ace Spectrum

It was such a relief to know that I could keep my bi identity (which had become very important to me) and also acknowledge this other facet of myself. I started identifying as bi and demisexual, or bidemisexual.


You Love Being Bi

Sometimes, dreaming of a better world and sharing your dreams can influence the best and brightest in our bi global family. Never forget you have that bi global family. Reach out to them, know that you are loved by them.


A Bi By Any Other Name…

Be your proud demi, pan, omni wonderful self. We all still have one thing in common, we are all attracted to more than one gender, we are all a part of the bi+ party.


It’s OK to be a “Messy” Bi Person

It’s my life. I shouldn't have to live in a restricted way just to satisfy the prudish. I am a bi poly guy with no desire to settle down and build a family. I’m an open book. And I’m proud.


My Boyfriend Thinks I’m 50% Gay/50% Straight. Uh-Uh.

This is a common perception in our world. I've been asked who I like more: men or women. What percentage gay am I? What percentage straight am I? I'm 100% bi.


Bi Heroes: Lani Ka’ahumanu

Coming out as bi can at first feel like you are the only bi person in your context. It takes time to unpack and understand our self and our history. Lani Ka’ahumanu, a bi activist, knows this well.


Coming To Terms With My Bisexuality: A Life’s Journey

It’s been a long journey getting here, but I am so happy to be out and 100% true to myself. Just a year and a month ago, I was still wearing my “straight” mask, but now, I am an out and proud bi woman and I couldn’t be happier!


Lady Gaga’s Bright Bi Star Keeps Shining in 2017

Happy birthday, Lady Gaga! Thanks for being one of the very few bi celebrities to actually #SayBisexual. Instead of sneakily hiding behind a "no labels" comment, your transparent example has inspired millions to openly show their #BiPride!


How Rave Culture Helped Me Embrace My Bisexuality

Rave culture's openness and acceptance is a large part of why I was able to come out as bi. It's why I quit trying to be someone else's idea of “normal” and just started being myself.


Why I Put Bi on my Dating Profile

I don’t think you should feel obligated to put that you’re bi on your dating profile if you don’t want to do so. However, for your sake, and to make your romantic/dating life easier, I would highly consider doing so!


Bi and Trans at a Play Party

Bi was a word I thought couldn’t include me because of my gender and attraction. I was wrong. Bi has more than enough room for nonbinary genders and nonbinary attraction. Bi includes me.


Finding Myself in Frank Ocean’s “Chanel”

Frank Ocean is a beacon of visibility for folks who are attracted to more than one gender. His music and words have helped me, and I’m sure thousands of others like me, by showing me that I’m not alone.


So, Are You Friends?

Every conversation we had in Egypt eventually led to the question, "you are friends?.." It took me a few days to realize what they were really saying is, "are you lesbians?"


We Need to Create Bi+ Spaces

The bi+ community needs to make bi+ spaces for ourselves.


Bi People Have Yet to Rise

Where was bisexuality in ABC's "When We Rise"?


The Biphobia Just Outside

We’ve always had a moment for gay rights. When will “LGBT rights” organizations have more than a mere moment for ours?


I am Bi and I Used to Be Biphobic

It’s an odd thing to say – that I used to discriminate against other bi folks. But I did. I didn’t think bisexuality was sound or valid. That’s how I was taught. And I was taught wrong.


You Are Not Responsible for the “Bi Brand”

Often, when we say we’re bi to new folks we meet, we’re the first out and open bi person with whom they've had the privilege of speaking. This puts a lot of weight on us. Because you know that their interaction with you will form their opinion on all bi people for the rest of eternity. (Or at least it seems like that.)


I’m Bisexual and I Have Anxiety and I’m Not Alone

I am bi and I struggle with an anxiety disorder. Now, although I have grown to understand and accept both of these facts, they remain strange and oftentimes unfathomable to others.


Yes, Sometimes I Do Miss Being With Men

Being bisexual, for me, doesn’t mean I don’t care about a person’s appearance. It doesn't mean that I’m only attracted to personality. On the contrary, it means I’m attracted to various physical forms (along with personality as well).


9 Ridiculous Questions People Ask About Being Bi and How to Answer Them

Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.


Evan Rachel Wood’s HRC Speech is Just One Reason She’s My Bi Hero

[Evan Rachel Wood's words] made me feel comforted, and a little less alone. It gave me hope for a new generation of bi kids, who would hopefully see people like her and feel a little less alone, too.


Solo on Valentine’s Day and Still Bi

So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.


The Bi Line: Lady Gaga Rocks the Super Bowl

If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.


Navigating Academic Spaces When Bi

Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences


Bisexuality is Not “New” or “Hip”

Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."


4 Things I Don’t Want to Hear on a First Date… Again

If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.


Thank You, President Obama

Having President Obama in office, someone who vehemently and passionately believes in equality and fairness, told me that we were moving forward. It confirmed what I’d always believed – that the side of equal rights is the right side.


Tales From Indie Pride in Italy

The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.


4 Ways Roger The Alien Taught Me to be Bi Better

Roger may not be the average person (or alien) you would tell your kid to aspire to be. Nevertheless, there’s something in his pride, his confidence in his sexuality, and his brutal honesty that is inspiring to me.


5 Dating Tips for Bi Men

I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.


Why I Still Identify As Female

I can look as girly or androgynous as I want. I can climb mountains or sit in drawing rooms (first I’d have to find a drawing room). I am still a woman.


Bi Book Club 2017

I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.


Welcome to The Bi Line

Introducing Eliel Cruz's new bi monthly column


No, My Partner Isn’t ‘Bothered’ By My Bisexuality

They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.


Dear You: A New Year’s Love Letter

We’ve reached the end of 2016, and what a year it has been. Let’s take a moment to acknowledge all we choose to keep and all we hope to shed as we walk forward into a new one.


Bi Folks in “Straight” Relationships Still Need Queer Spaces

When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.


Bisexuality in 2016: a Recap

There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.


This Bi Life: I Still Feel Guilty for My Attraction to Women

You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.


The Year 2016 in Bi TV

This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?


The Silver Lining of Dating When Bi

At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.


My Sexuality Is Not Just About Sex

Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!


This Bi Life: Holiday Self-Care Puerto Rico

The concept of coming out to my Abuela and Abuelo is daunting and terrifying... I need to give my own grandparents a chance to accept me, even though it might be daunting.


Why I Don’t “Not Do Labels”

In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.


I’m a Sex Addict (And So Are You)

I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.


Bi and Poly Part III: Managing Jealousy

Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.


A Love Letter to My Girlfriend – From Your Bi Boyfriend

My girlfriend has read and seen everything I've ever done as an activist. Rather than be insecure when I discuss the kind of men I find attractive - she replies 'this is awesome babe, so proud of you.'


Bi and Poly Part 1: Are You Ready to Be Non-Monogamous?

I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.


When Neutral Isn’t Enough: New Research Into Stigmas Around Bisexuality

Bi.org spoke with Dr. Brian Dodge about his research into how bi people are perceived by the rest of the world and what the potential impacts of the perception are.


How I Maintain Visibility as a Bi Femme

I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.


Bilingual, Bicultural, Bisexual

As Latino LGBT people, our challenges are unique, but so are we to overcome them.


Bi Pride in Southern Oregon

Although I've attended and participated in Prides, I'd never been on the planning side before. I showed up to the first meeting hesitant because bisexuality is often ignored by Pride organizers, but I was immediately made welcome. I loved seeing this whole thing come together, and for me the icing on the cake was when I was made Grand Marshal. Talk about bi visibility!


Bi Erasure and Biphobia: Two Sides of the Same Coin

Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.


Yay for Bi Visibility: Our 11 #iamBi Contest Winners!

Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!


In Your Own Words: Coming Out Bi

In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:


Not Just Another Male Gaze

How does a bi man -- who doesn’t want to be like the stereotypical objectifying straight guy -- reveal that they’re bi in a way that’s not overtly sexual or predatory?


This Bi Life: Black, Bi, and Sexy

Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.


Bi Visibility at the White House!

In honor of Bi Week and Bi Visibility Day, the White House hosted a Bi Community Briefing with members of the bi community.


Bi and Dating, when the World is Divided into “Gay” and “Straight”

Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?


Join the Bi Visibility Challenge!

For those who haven't yet noticed, Bi.org is presenting our annual Bi Visibility Challenge in celebration of Bi Pride Week!


Bi and Mighty

Happy Bi Visibility Day 2016! Here are some things we'd like to see accomplished before many more Bi Visibility Days have passed. What's on your Bi Wish List?


The Bisexual Warriors of the “Gay” Movement

This Bi Week we are celebrating some of the many bi activists who have been instrumental in the LGBT rights movement.


How Amy Winehouse’s Honesty Helped Make Me Stronger

Amy Winehouse was the first woman I had heard use this mysterious word "bisexual." She wasn't afraid of her sexual orientation changing what people thought of her and refused to tiptoe around the label.


10 Timeless Movie Kisses

Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.


This Bi Life: Still Out, Still Proud

The more bi people who are out, the more we will be accepted and someday bisexuality, homosexuality, heterosexuality, etc will all be treated equally. In the mean time, maybe my family will figure it out. Until then, I’ll just keep being me, out and proud.


What Does Bi Erasure Look Like?

The message these rulings send out is loud and clear. As far as the justice system is concerned, bisexuality does not exist, and I think that that is unacceptable.


This Bi Life: Growing Up in Mexico

"I was indoctrinated into a kind of machismo culture, which is to say I grew up believing that a man must behave in a stereotypically masculine manner at all times. This meant carefully hiding any parts of myself that might have been perceived as stereotypically 'feminine.'"


Finding Community at Comic-Con

When I asked Tara Avery how she became involved in bi activism, her answer was simple. “I just showed up.”


Live From Hall B: Bi Representation Thrives at Comic-Con

It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.


8 Questions I Get Asked As A Bisexual Woman

By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.


This Bi Life: I Don’t Feel Bi Enough

What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.


Bi Pride at Portland’s Pride

Bit by bit, they joined the chorus, and the protesters' megaphones were rendered useless; their futile hatred drowned out by our love. “We're here! We're queer! We're fabulous! Get used to it!” All together, over and over and over....


This Bi Life: My Monogamous Marriage

I never had to come out to him. A fringe benefit of online dating. There it was, my truth right next to my carefully chosen handle: “bisexual.”


#StillBisexual Takes Our Stories to the Big Screen!

Despite the fact that bisexual people are the majority of the LGBT population, bi people and their stories are often conspicuously absent from most LGBT festivals. Fortunately, not this time!


Bi at the Brooklyn Museum!

Music has been a huge part of my coming out process. Singing live about my experiences has helped me realize just how many like-minded people there out there.


Coming Out Bisexual: My Story

Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.


I’m Bisexual, but not…

There are so many stereotypes about bi people. We are not those things. We are just bisexual.


The Power of Us: #StillBisexual

"Maybe if people could understand that for many of us being bisexual is a permanent not transitional identity, then there was a potential that we could be understood.”


Confession: I’m Not “50/50″ Bisexual

If I’m being honest, I’ve felt anxiety in regards to not being “a 50/50” bisexual. Especially as an activist in the LGBT community, I stress about not being perceived as “bi enough.”


Bi, Pan, Omni, Poly, Fluid, NoLabel, etc. = #oneofus

My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.


Are Bi People All Polyamorous?

Here are some of the colorful answers our readers gave when we asked them that question.


Being Bisexual in the Boy Scouts (then and now)

"I'm glad that things have progressed in the Scouts since I was a boy, but more protections for LGBT people are still needed."