Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.
[Evan Rachel Wood's words] made me feel comforted, and a little less alone. It gave me hope for a new generation of bi kids, who would hopefully see people like her and feel a little less alone, too.
So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.
If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.
Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences
Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."
If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.
Having President Obama in office, someone who vehemently and passionately believes in equality and fairness, told me that we were moving forward. It confirmed what I’d always believed – that the side of equal rights is the right side.
The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.
Roger may not be the average person (or alien) you would tell your kid to aspire to be. Nevertheless, there’s something in his pride, his confidence in his sexuality, and his brutal honesty that is inspiring to me.
I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.
I can look as girly or androgynous as I want. I can climb mountains or sit in drawing rooms (first I’d have to find a drawing room). I am still a woman.
I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.
Introducing Eliel Cruz's new bi monthly column
They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.
We’ve reached the end of 2016, and what a year it has been. Let’s take a moment to acknowledge all we choose to keep and all we hope to shed as we walk forward into a new one.
When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.
There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.
You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.
This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?
At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.
Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!
The concept of coming out to my Abuela and Abuelo is daunting and terrifying... I need to give my own grandparents a chance to accept me, even though it might be daunting.
In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.
I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.
Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.
My girlfriend has read and seen everything I've ever done as an activist. Rather than be insecure when I discuss the kind of men I find attractive - she replies 'this is awesome babe, so proud of you.'
I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.
Bi.org spoke with Dr. Brian Dodge about his research into how bi people are perceived by the rest of the world and what the potential impacts of the perception are.
I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.
As Latino LGBT people, our challenges are unique, but so are we to overcome them.
Although I've attended and participated in Prides, I'd never been on the planning side before. I showed up to the first meeting hesitant because bisexuality is often ignored by Pride organizers, but I was immediately made welcome. I loved seeing this whole thing come together, and for me the icing on the cake was when I was made Grand Marshal. Talk about bi visibility!
Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.
Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!
In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:
How does a bi man -- who doesn’t want to be like the stereotypical objectifying straight guy -- reveal that they’re bi in a way that’s not overtly sexual or predatory?
Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.
In honor of Bi Week and Bi Visibility Day, the White House hosted a Bi Community Briefing with members of the bi community.
Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?
For those who haven't yet noticed, Bi.org is presenting our annual Bi Visibility Challenge in celebration of Bi Pride Week!
Happy Bi Visibility Day 2016! Here are some things we'd like to see accomplished before many more Bi Visibility Days have passed. What's on your Bi Wish List?
This Bi Week we are celebrating some of the many bi activists who have been instrumental in the LGBT rights movement.
Amy Winehouse was the first woman I had heard use this mysterious word "bisexual." She wasn't afraid of her sexual orientation changing what people thought of her and refused to tiptoe around the label.
Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.
The more bi people who are out, the more we will be accepted and someday bisexuality, homosexuality, heterosexuality, etc will all be treated equally. In the mean time, maybe my family will figure it out. Until then, I’ll just keep being me, out and proud.
The message these rulings send out is loud and clear. As far as the justice system is concerned, bisexuality does not exist, and I think that that is unacceptable.
"I was indoctrinated into a kind of machismo culture, which is to say I grew up believing that a man must behave in a stereotypically masculine manner at all times. This meant carefully hiding any parts of myself that might have been perceived as stereotypically 'feminine.'"
When I asked Tara Avery how she became involved in bi activism, her answer was simple. “I just showed up.”
It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.
By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.
What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.
Bit by bit, they joined the chorus, and the protesters' megaphones were rendered useless; their futile hatred drowned out by our love. “We're here! We're queer! We're fabulous! Get used to it!” All together, over and over and over....
I never had to come out to him. A fringe benefit of online dating. There it was, my truth right next to my carefully chosen handle: “bisexual.”
Despite the fact that bisexual people are the majority of the LGBT population, bi people and their stories are often conspicuously absent from most LGBT festivals. Fortunately, not this time!
Music has been a huge part of my coming out process. Singing live about my experiences has helped me realize just how many like-minded people there out there.
Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.
There are so many stereotypes about bi people. We are not those things. We are just bisexual.
"Maybe if people could understand that for many of us being bisexual is a permanent not transitional identity, then there was a potential that we could be understood.”
If I’m being honest, I’ve felt anxiety in regards to not being “a 50/50” bisexual. Especially as an activist in the LGBT community, I stress about not being perceived as “bi enough.”
My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.
Here are some of the colorful answers our readers gave when we asked them that question.
"I'm glad that things have progressed in the Scouts since I was a boy, but more protections for LGBT people are still needed."