Do you remember that episode of "Sex and the City" when Carrie dated a bi guy? The Unicorn Scale does.
It’s hard enough to find a person you want to get serious with, but it seems that as an openly bi man, there will always be additional hurdles to overcome that those in gay or straight relationships typically won’t have to deal with.
Being bi has nothing to do with "what percentage" of attraction you feel for one group or another.
Along with our mother, my father taught me and my siblings how to act and grow into a good person, regardless of gender.
For whatever reason, society has tried to make us think that men and women cannot have close relationships that are securely and happily based in the friend-zone.
It can be frustrating to hear people say that I’m obsessed or crazed about discussing bi issues, but the fact of the matter is that I do this because we need to see change.
In honor of Bi Month, it seemed like a good time to answer some questions that I am frequently asked as a bi man.
I have no plans to date a man ever. But that doesn’t make me straight.
Sometimes biphobia can seem extremely abstract, but the documentary "The Staircase" reminds us of some of the very real consequences of biphobia.
I am interested romantically in men and women. Why is that so hard to understand? Why does that offend some people so much?
Stop assuming people will change for you. Nor should you change fundamental things about your identity or relationship-style for anyone else.
Bi men have are often rendered invisible in popular culture. Recently, these men have been using #bisexualmenspeak to make sure that they are heard.
Do you have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bi?
I kissed a guy and I liked it. And frankly, that’s not something I will allow myself to feel ashamed about ever again.
Yes, I am in a committed relationship with a woman and yes she is the love of my life, my soulmate, my everything. But that doesn’t mean I’m straight.
A sad fact of Pride and other LGBTQ events is that there is frequently a gay man there who is eager to jump in and explain to me that my bisexuality is just a phase.
Sometimes people get so tied up in defending, putting down, and negating various identity labels that they forget we are all part of the same LGBT family.
You’re allowed to have things upset you. You’re allowed to question the actions of your partner. But I simply don’t have the mental capacity to deal with people who are insecure about my sexuality.
It would be hypocritical of me to only allow myself to “live my truth” with men, but then not with women. It’s about living all of one’s truth.
I got on my knees, put my money where my mouth is, and experienced an entire rainbow of sexual encounters, in order to figure out what I actually like.
Coming out was a huge relief, but there was a dark side that I had not expected. Suddenly men were sending me unsolicited advice telling me how to "improve" my body.
Who's your favorite crime fighting, murder solving bi? Here are ours.
Wouldn’t my life just be a hell of a lot easier if I identified as gay? If I only spoke about, dated, screwed, and loved men? Yes, I believe it undoubtedly would be…if I were gay.
So instead of having this smug satisfaction that comes from correcting another person’s sexual identity, let’s be supportive. Let’s believe. And if believing is too much, then let’s keep our mouths shut.
Why? Because I don’t have to worry about getting called names for crushing it to some Britney Spears on the dance floor. I don’t have to fulfill any sort of dress code other than my own personal one.
This week The Unicorn Scale takes a peek at the delightful Magnus Bane of "Shadowhunters".
What is our role? As activists, bis, and queers ourselves? We want to help, but is going around telling everyone that they should claim the bi label the right thing to do?
Haven't seen "Top Gun" lately? Maybe it's time to take another look, and not just for the volleyball scene.
Finally accepting that I'm bisexual has helped me stop wrestling with my sexual orientation. I'd often be confused about how I could be attracted to guys and girls, because I didn't know what bisexuality was.
The numbers are in! GLAAD’s Where We Are On TV report shines an annual light on queer characters making big waves on the small screen.
I still had this uneasiness I couldn't quite shake. I was back in the closet, in a strange way, and it felt uncomfortable. It was like I was that kid again wanting to scream “I'm bi!” at the top of my lungs.
I worry that gay people who condemn Spacey for saying he “chooses” to be gay will then turn around and tell bi folks to just “choose a side” already.
I knew I wanted to find my new queer community in Chicago and Dodgeball showed me the way.
Let's talk about Darryl Whitefeather of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" and how he's "getting bi."
“My first experience when I finally realized I was bi/homoflexible, was somewhat exhilarating, and then immediately followed by fear."
Bi.org contributor Lewis Oakley was just nominated as one of PinkNews' Campaigners of the Year. He talks about what this nomination means and how we can all be activists for our community.
Many bi people struggle going back and forth between "queer spaces" and "straight spaces," but why does it have to be such a struggle?
"How in the world could I have been bisexual my entire life and not figured it out until I was 48 years old? I can’t be that stupid, can I? I knew in my heart of hearts it was true. It was like all of the pieces of my life had just fallen into place at the same time." - Omar
Regardless of your lifestyle, you’re still bi, and you’re still a part of the bi and LGBTQ community. Your sexuality is independent of what activities you like to engage in.
Just because you love something doesn’t mean it’s perfect, nor does it mean that it’s ultimately the best fit for you...and that’s how I feel about the place I grew up.
I asked Max about his fear of coming out bi to the world at large. He replied that in the old days it was more about his male ego, whereas now, it's the potential effect on his family that he's worried about.
This week bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.
Most of my gay friends vocally affirm my bisexuality (I wouldn’t be friends with them if they didn't!) but many haven’t seen me interact romantically with women. Bringing up my interest in a woman can still result in confusion as if they forget I’m not only bi, but also do bi advocacy and writing.
Whilst I've made peace with being the odd one out, the situation desperately needs to change. We must get bi venues and groups to bring people together....
Today The Unicorn Scale takes a look at "Stage Beauty," a movie set in the 17th century where a man and a woman each hope to be the best Desdemona on the English stage.
“I support you, I just don’t want to hear or see anything about your lifestyle.” It can come in a variety of formats, but the gist is typically the same.... I have begun to see this phrase as more of a cop out than an actual expression of sincere support.
I was afraid of never finding a community. Just because we are all individuals who want to express our individuality doesn’t mean we don’t want connection, understanding, and community. I don’t want to be a unique, isolated island, nor can I pretend to be someone I’m not.
There's something beautiful to be said about being able to just be like the wind; just go where it blows. And I don't have to restrict myself, and nor should I. It's my life and I think life's meant to be enjoyed. You can enjoy anything. I think there would be a lot more bi people out right now if they viewed it like that.
Statistically there are more bi folks than gay and lesbian. So where are they all and how do you find them?
Meet Stan, years ago he came out as gay. Later he realized that he was bi, and is now unsure how to come out to his gay community.
Pride reminded me that every time I go out with my amBi friends, I am also helping to build a visible, vibrant, proud bi community. We're helping to make sure that the B in LGBT is being seen, being heard, being counted.
Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Clay, a bi firefighter who is worried that coming out might hurt his career.
Bi.org contributor, Blaize Stewart, sat down with his parents to ask what they were thinking when he came out to them.
If we had the option of immersing ourselves in bi culture, instead of having to choose between gay or straight culture, I suspect most of us would feel pretty at home in the bi spaces.
I thought I was “just gay,” but then I’d remember all of the women I had loved in my lifetime, and all the times I’d cried over a woman I liked, and it was clear that I am not gay.
We believe that men and women, boys and girls can be a lot of different things, can act a lot of different ways, and that we should celebrate those differences. And that is why this bi guy is happy to call himself a feminist.
This had to be a dream out of some corny romance movie with a line like that. But before I knew what to say, I felt myself leaning over and connecting lips with Chad.
From the start we’re given bows or arrows, trucks or ballet slippers, hugs or “stiff upper lip”s. This leads to a lifetime of inequality, both in how we see the world and how others see us.