Thank you, Mom, for reading this essay, as well as all the other essays that have come before or will follow since. Thank you for sticking with it even when the content is difficult, and thank you for not shying away from the messiness.
The Unicorn Scale tackles Detective Rosa Diaz of "Brooklyn Nine-Nine" and her Season 5 coming out.
How hard should you work to be friends with your ex?
I've told a handful of people that I am bi and each time my heart climbs into my throat and I feel like I can't breathe.
This week The Unicorn Scale is going back in time and rewatching "Mulan."
Despite the privileges that set bi folk apart from the rest of the LGBT+ community, there is still that purgatory-like feeling of not belonging in either camp.
It is wonderful to see the recent explosion of bi visibility, but what is the next step?
Coming out would result in false and negative assumptions about myself and would reflect poorly on my family. I would probably be a pariah, though I usually feel 'apart from' most others anyway.
You saw the movie last year, now let's dive into the book "Call Me By Your Name."
No one is exactly the same kind of “different” as you. But every once in a while, if you are lucky, you come across someone who is close.
This week's Unicorn Scale tackles "Younger."
After years of looking for "The One," I realized that maybe right now, I just want to focus on me.
Like many of us, Aruru's conservative family has made it more difficult for her to come out to the world as bi.
We’re sitting down with folks who have made #StillBisexual videos to find out more about their story. We recently talked to Sonya Saturday about her video.
This week, The Unicorn Scale, looks at Vicki Christina Barcelona. For this movie, Woody Allen left Manhattan, and explores polyamory and bisexuality in Catalonia.
This week on Good Bi Love I’m going to help you find the many silver linings of dating as a bi person.
There's more than one way to be bi and there's more than one way to be out, this week "Baz" talks about how he expresses his bisexuality and what is keeping him from being out to the world.
The leaves are turning and so are the records. So here’s your playlist of bi tunes for Fall! Heat up some cider, get in a comfy sweater and turn the music UP.
I thought it impossible to have a good relationship with my father while still acknowledging the existence of our troubled past, but I now realize that a real relationship is only possible if I learn to sit with this incongruity.
Grown-ish has a great start with it's bi representation and The Unicorn Scales has high hopes for season 2.
Even as millennials are becoming more open-minded to previously taboo topics like casual sex, sexual fluidity, and PrEP; slut-shaming still runs rampant in the gay/bi male community.
Halloween is coming! Why not celebrate by going as one of these bi-tastic characters?
No sooner do you say you're bi than you're bombarded with a slew of invasive, rude, or just plain dumb questions. Here are a few quips to get the nosy bastards off your back for a few minutes.
After 5 seasons of queer representation, The Unicorn Scale looks at how "The Fosters" did on bi representation.
Did you miss the opportunity to come out during bi week? Don't worry, National Coming Out Day is just around the corner.
It can be frustrating to hear people say that I’m obsessed or crazed about discussing bi issues, but the fact of the matter is that I do this because we need to see change.
It wasn't until I was in my 30s did I learn that sex was actually supposed to feel good to everyone involved (including me).
This week the Unicorn Scale looks at "Disobedience" in which Rachel Weisz plays a bi woman that returns to her conservative Jewish community in North London.
I think you might be experiencing a little bit of shame, and you veil this shame with confusion, when the truth of the matter is that you’re not confused.
In honor of Bi Month, it seemed like a good time to answer some questions that I am frequently asked as a bi man.
On the Playa, all are free to redefine who they are and redetermine who they want to be when they return to the Default World.
Just because we are celebrating today, it doesn't mean we’re done being proud and visible!
We talk with Lucy LaForge about coming out in Billboard magazine and her current projects.
This week's Unicorn Scale takes a look at another French bi film, "Blue is the Warmest Color".
Continuing in the spirit of celebration this Bi Pride Month, this week, I want to discuss something short and sweet: Why I Love Being Bi.
The energy I put into hiding is so much better spent enjoying life with the people who make it so special.
Are you interested in being a bi activist? Here are some questions to ask yourself.
I don't know if I want to be in a poly relationship, but I know that I want to communicate with my partner as if we were in a poly relationship.
Billboard Pride is beating bi erasure and giving us some great music.
Happy Bi Pride Month! Sometimes it's easy to fixate on our struggles, so let's try to use this month to reflect on how much we have grown into the awesome bi individuals we are.
Will the biggest dating site, Match.com, ever quit erasing us bi folks?
Bi erasure is present in many arenas and its consequences can be far-reaching. Here's a snapshot of bi erasure in LGBT litigation.
I have no plans to date a man ever. But that doesn’t make me straight.
We frequently talk about how to support our loved ones suffering from depression, but how do we take care of ourselves while supporting our partners?
Bi Book Club is looking back to one of my favorite fantasy novels, "Swordspoint" and the wonderful "World of Riverside" series.
Are bi people kinkier than the rest of the world?
Gabrielle Sidonie Colette is considered one of the great French writers of the 20th century; she was also openly bi.
While part of keeping sex workers safe is fighting human trafficking, that does not mean that all sex work is human trafficking.
Are there any dating apps that are more bi-friendly than others? Some bi folks weighed in with their experiences.
I deleted Grindr for 90 days and learned that there's nothing wrong with using Grindr.
When I was fifteen, I developed feelings for a friend of mine, also a girl, which sparked a year-long crisis that I navigated with bad Buzzfeed quizzes and unhelpful blog posts. At sixteen, I got tired of freaking out and accepted that I was bi.
Sometimes biphobia can seem extremely abstract, but the documentary "The Staircase" reminds us of some of the very real consequences of biphobia.
We are diverse, we are complex, and our unique blend of difference is precisely what stitches us together into a coherent community.
The Unicorn Scale is finally making its way around to Madam Secretary, a show with, not one, but TWO bi characters.
I sometimes feel like I’m only bi, and that’s what people know me for, but there’s so much more to me than my sexual orientation.
You might wonder why I stay in a non-affirming church. My answer: if you love something, you fight and advocate to make it better.
I am interested romantically in men and women. Why is that so hard to understand? Why does that offend some people so much?
I've had two abortions, one was traumatizing, painful, and almost unbearable; the other was about as pleasant as any other medical procedure. Why do we allow such a discrepancy to exist?
Stop assuming people will change for you. Nor should you change fundamental things about your identity or relationship-style for anyone else.
We desperately need our own community – the broader LGBT rights movement, LGBT media, and LGBT-friendly legislators – to step up, hear our voice, and say our name.
I know that I have been bi, and I know that putting that out there and having that identifier at least gives me a place to look, or to feel, some sort of community.
This week The Unicorn Scale goes retro with D.E.B.S.
I'm happily bi and I don't need you to "save" me.
What to do when you're happily monogamous, but feel like there's a part of your sexuality that you still need to explore?
Like many of us, Dewi is out to close friends and some family, but isn't necessarily interested in shouting his sexuality from the rooftops.
Two years after Lexa's death in The 100, we check in with fans and talk about the impact that death had on them and the importance of having an awesome bi woman leading this show.
Ready for a slightly trashy, totally true, queer summer read? It's time to dive into Scotty Bowers' "Full Service: My Adventures in Hollywood and the Secret Sex Lives of the Stars".
Coming out to my grandfather is made doubly difficult by his disease, to him I will forever be his twenty-something year-old boy-chasing granddaughter.
Bi men have are often rendered invisible in popular culture. Recently, these men have been using #bisexualmenspeak to make sure that they are heard.
After coming out to his girlfriend as bi, this young man is still filled with doubt.
We all have our own process when we come out. For some of us it happens when we're teens, for others it happens after 25 years of marriage.
I am bi and I still deserve to be loved.
For Caroline, it was important that everyone know no matter who she's dating, she's #stillbisexual.
This week the unicorn scale goes all the way back to 2000 to take a peep a queer cheerleader we hear might be bi.
At 37, I thought I'd be living in my own home, with my partner and children. Instead, I'm living with my grandpa, about to give him a shower.
Do you have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bi?
I kissed a guy and I liked it. And frankly, that’s not something I will allow myself to feel ashamed about ever again.
Too many LGBT-rights advocates just talk about “gay rights” as an umbrella term for all LGBT issues, and the media and courts have followed their lead.
Coming out can be scary and it's easy to think of a million reasons to to hide your true self. Here are 5 reasons I found to let the world experience my bi magic.
With $22 in my pocket, I hopped on a plane to Guam. All I knew was that a woman named Josie was supposed to meet me at the airport.
This is a Unicorn Scale first; we are revisiting a show because there is now another bi character!
Dating while bi can be frustrating, but I recently realized that I can't allow past rejections to shut ourselves off from future relationships.
I have always known I wanted children, I have always known they would not be my biological children, and this week my potential family came under attack.
Bi.org columnist SB Swartz continues her conversation with Channing Nicole. This time they discuss her experiences with conversion therapy and Channing's journey since then.
Somehow, Sci Fi has become a huge part of bi culture. No, not all #BisLoveSciFi, but quite a few of us do.
Yes, I am in a committed relationship with a woman and yes she is the love of my life, my soulmate, my everything. But that doesn’t mean I’m straight.
One afternoon I sat down to enjoy Channing Tatum's abs and instead found a surprisingly positive representation of the lives of adult entertainers.
As teenagers we all like to imagine that we invented sex, but this documentary about the life of Scotty Bowers reminds us just how wrong we were.
I’ve struggled with labels my whole life.... I’m fascinated by them, and I think they hold an incredible power to both unite but also further divide us.
This year my family joined me for Pride and it was amazing.
Bi.org contributor Rio Veradonir recently chatted with bproud in Italy about his experiences of being a bi man who is polyamorous.
Vance is preparing to come out as bi, what has brought him to this point and what is holding him back?
Last month I slipped into a pair of stripper shoes for the first time in almost fifteen years. I was about to take my first ever formal pole dancing class...
Finally, a bi character in a galaxy far, far away...
Don’t let others discourage you from being your best bi self... All the times you put yourself out there, only to be shut down, are still worth it. Because you do help change people’s mind. You do help in the fight for visibility.
It isn't just the men who hear it; as bi women we are frequently told that our attractions are just a phase.
A sad fact of Pride and other LGBTQ events is that there is frequently a gay man there who is eager to jump in and explain to me that my bisexuality is just a phase.
As an bi rights activist and lawyer it was disheartening to see the amount of bi erasure and outright dismissal coming from those supposedly working for the LGBT community.
I recently had to talk to my goddaughter about sexuality and once again found myself in the in-between. How do I support her and tell her my truth without undercutting her parents?
While reflecting on my birthday, I realized that when I embraced my sexuality I became more comfortable with ambiguity in all aspects of my life.
If the parade is your jam, no judgement here, but there are plenty of us queer folks that aren’t welcome, considered, or just plain don’t wanna. And this, dear friends, is for us, this is for you.
Bi people frequently feel like they are not welcome at Pride; this is doubly true if they are not totally out. Don't worry, Pride is still for you.
I wanted to leave something for you, dear bi parents. So settle into your bath/bed/bunker: we’re ending on a list of bi friendly ideas that are perfect for “me time.”
I do now, and will always, love and accept you, completely. My only hope, today and always, is that you do, too.
Identifying as bi can be daunting. Here are 6 thoughts that might make if easier to embrace the awesome bi label.
Are you ready to go out and celebrate? Make sure you are making the most of your pride festivities this year.
Channing Nicole's #StillBisexual video reminds us that bi people are also the victims of conversion therapy. Bi.org columnist SB Swartz had the chance to talk to Channing about her experiences.
This week we explore the in-between of being bi at Pride.
Pride is for the entire LGBTQ community, don't let prejudices within the community hide your amazing bi relationships.
So many amazing bi artists, singing so many amazing bi songs; here is the perfect soundtrack to your bi summer!
When Pace was dismissive in his original interview about being queer, with the afterthought about why should anyone care about who he’s dating, I bristled.
So much about lawyering appealed to me. Being bi on the other hand? It’s not something I either fantasized about or was really self-aware of at all, not until I was more than halfway through college.
It's that most magical time of year, Pride Month! Some of us are veteran pride goers, but for many it will be their first pride. Here are some helpful hints to keep you healthy and happy at your first pride.
The in-between defines many parts of our lives, including our relationship styles. This week, I talk about my exploration of polyamory.
Let's celebrate that our community has been growing ever more visible and push to make the next year better than the last.
It's time to say goodbye to some of our favorite bi characters on TV. Hopefully, we will be seeing many great new characters coming to us this fall.
In a broad spectrum of countries ranging from Guam to Spain to Brazil, my racial ambiguity has allowed me to float, rather effortlessly, through a variety of worlds. Ironically, this presumption of my being a local when abroad has made me experience a strange sort of homecoming whenever I travel to foreign places.
Nevertheless, the honest to god truth is that I typically prefer to date men. This doesn’t mean I exclusively date men. That doesn’t mean I’m not open to dating women.... Here, however, are a few reasons why I prefer to date men.
Season 4 of Jane the Virgin gave us not one, but two bi characters!
The last of our roundup of awesome bi characters. We've done bi drama, bi crime, bi parents, bi sci-fi/fantasy, and now it's time for the list of some of the best bi characters in comedy.
In-betweeners like myself have often felt required to take up a more extreme performance of their identity in order to justify belonging.... People are free to assume whatever they like about me, my belonging remains unchanged.
Initially, I had nothing positive to say about this song, but then I had to accept that the narrative of the song does reflect a part of our bi community.
Hollywood's history of bi representation has been pretty bad in the past. How do we make sure that the future looks brighter?
Big bi news this month. For the first time ever, a sitting judge in the United States has openly identified as bi.
What if I’m ostracized? Before, I would’ve just shrugged, acknowledged it stung a little but in the long run, better to know early. But here’s this sweet little babe I’ll be shepherding through society—how will I balance being who I am with how it will effect them?
I learned to make jokes about it, to laugh about it, and to smile at the jokes of others. It was a difficult task that often served only to facilitate the comfort of those around me, but I wanted to belong, to feel accepted, so I grew comfortable with the idea of always leaving part of myself at the door.
There’s nothing inherently more likely to make bi+ people polyamorous. I think it’s because we felt we didn’t fit in to the heteronormative ideal of relationships, and therefore, challenged traditional notions of relationships more.
My mom, in particular, was having a blast, chatting up a storm with guy after guy and receiving more free drinks than I ever have (or probably ever will)...these men couldn’t understand how I got my parents to join me for a night out in Boystown.
I had always hoped that once I felt confident enough to start going to LGBTQIA+ events, I would find an emotional home.... Instead, I discovered many gays and lesbians loved to pick on the bis the most, claiming we were probably going to cheat on them. That we were less-than.
Straddling two worlds (my years working as a stripper, and the path to my PhD) is a state I have repeatedly found myself in, in many ways and at many times throughout my life, but only recently have I come to know it by name. Welcome to the in-between.
Instead of saying, “It gets better,” we should tell other members of the queer community that it could get worse… maybe a lot worse… before it does get better. But eventually, coming out will be absolutely worth it.
Now it's time for some bi characters that are out of this world, here are my favorite bi characters in science fiction and fantasy television. Did yours make the list?
Welcome to Legally Bi, where our very own Nancy Marcus will be exploring why it is so important that our bi voices be heard in politics and the law.
You would think someone on a show called Queer Eye would know what the word bisexual means.
Sometimes people get so tied up in defending, putting down, and negating various identity labels that they forget we are all part of the same LGBT family.
A common misconception is that bi people only exist in fiction and that all we do is have threesomes. In fact, we have jobs and lives, just like everyone else.
It's time for the Unicorn Scale to tackle New Girl and its lovely bi ladies.
This week The Unicorn Scale turns its bi lens to the classic film "Cat On A Hot Tin Roof."
You’re allowed to have things upset you. You’re allowed to question the actions of your partner. But I simply don’t have the mental capacity to deal with people who are insecure about my sexuality.
The answer is yes: I do. I have too much momentum now. And I’ve dealt with too much erasure, discrimination, and just plain B.S. to quietly wait my turn to speak.
This list of bi friendly media was created to have minimal loud noises, engaging premises, and you, dear exhausted parent, in mind.
Abbi Jacobson has admitted to being attracted to men and women, but she didn't use "The B Word." Is it fair for us to call her bi?
Many of us hid our same-sex crushes as children while freely giggling over their opposite-sex counterparts. Who are some of the men and women that you secretly longed for?
If you’re asking this question, I feel like you’re already on the path to being a fabulous partner, and he is damn lucky to have you.
This week The Unicorn Scale looks at a bunch of dreamy French folks singing and being bi together. Welcome to "Love Songs."
When you look at queer parenthood, you should see bi people. These were some of my favorites from TV. Did yours make the list?
This show trivializes the institution that straight people are clamoring to stop LGBTQ+ people from destroying, but take a look at this show and you’ll see that the straight community has done a pretty great job at taking down the institution of marriage all on their own.
We cannot compartmentalize sexual relations, as many straight people do, taking this gender as the one we sleep with and that other as the one we hang out with – if we did, there would be no-one left for us to know.
It would be hypocritical of me to only allow myself to “live my truth” with men, but then not with women. It’s about living all of one’s truth.
We fellow bis know how hard it is to be honest with yourself, let alone the world. Yet, when your words blew open the closet doors to the world, you faced mostly scrutiny, doubt, and scorn. And you deserved so much better than that.
Ever wonder about the women behind the man behind Wonder Woman? This week The Unicorn Scale took a peek at the biopic "Professor Marston and the Wonder Women."
Process that bierasure however you can--scream into a pillow, write your heart out onto a page, DANCE, encourage, try. Just remember to take the care you need.
Let's quit trying to "out-queer" each other and work together to make the world better for everyone.
Old and new, here are some of our favorite bi characters from TV dramas. Who would you add to the list?
Cynthia Nixon is bi. Saying otherwise isn’t true, no matter how much you wish it or how much the word, or idea, challenges your worldview.
In the past, I’ve felt that spending time alone was a sign of a failure.... In fact, I’ve learned that the better I understand myself, the better my other relationships become.
No one who knows me would conceivably label me as shy. So why am I so damn timid when it comes to asking out anyone other than men?
I think if we could allow for sexual curiosity and same-sex platonic intimacy, straight men would be healthier. There would also be less homophobia and sexism in the world.
This week The Unicorn Scale takes a look back at a great bi movie, "Brokeback Mountain."
Dumbledore will not be explicitly gay in the upcoming movie and here's why I'm not concerned.
This weekend Madam Secretary will be introducing another bi character and we are thrilled.
This week we’re kicking heteronormative, patriarchal kids’ stories to the curb and telling tales that feel a little more like home. It’s kids' books for your queer feminist abode!
My sexuality is not a joke, it’s not a hobby, it’s not a side show, or a side dish, or a parlor trick; it’s a valid truth about who I am, how I am, and deserves respectful acknowledgement.
Yes, there are more bi characters on TV than there have been in the past, but are there really that many and why the sudden increase?
For our first Bi Book Club, we're taking a peek at Roxane Gay's 2017 memoir "Hunger".
I got on my knees, put my money where my mouth is, and experienced an entire rainbow of sexual encounters, in order to figure out what I actually like.
Coming out was a huge relief, but there was a dark side that I had not expected. Suddenly men were sending me unsolicited advice telling me how to "improve" my body.
Who's your favorite crime fighting, murder solving bi? Here are ours.
Are queer people afraid to speak up because they are afraid of using the wrong language?
Happy Oscars! Let's talk about one of the most nominated films of all time, which also happens to have some awesome bi ladies in it.
Let's celebrate Emma Gonzalez, the incredible bi teen who is working to change the world.
The Unicorn Scale is getting ready for the Oscars with a peek at Call Me By Your Name.
Many of us first find the courage to explore our sexuality through drug use, but we need to be talking about the dire consequences as well as the freedom.
If you haven't seen it yet, watch it. If you have, watch it again. Janelle Monae's amazing new music video shows us the joy of being bi.
Who are your favorite award winning bi writers, directors, and actors? What's your favorite queer themed film? And who are you rooting for next Sunday?
Your best choices seem to be ignore or say, "I'm not interested." Which do you prefer?
The Oscars are quick approaching, so let's take peek at one of the contenders, Ladybird.
The zero-sum game mentality demands that we choose between false dichotomies: Are you driven by emotion or intellect? Do you put your career first, or your relationships with loved ones? Are you attracted to men or to women?
No matter where you live, at some point in your life, you will come out as bi to someone new, and they will invalidate your bisexuality. Either they will claim bisexuality doesn’t exist, you’re confused, you're doing it for attention, or you’re “actually gay.” It’s inevitable.
Showers are about a community welcoming a new member. They are about celebrating and supporting one another. So let’s throw a welcoming party as queer as the folks we love, y’all!
He cocked an eyebrow. “Are you bi?" I said I am. Queue eye roll and typical response, “Bi men are just gay men who haven’t come fully out,” he said.
This week The Unicorn Scale takes a peek at Netflix's "Grace and Frankie".
I always enjoy when I see or hear of someone coming out. Whether it’s in person or through social media, it’s nice to be able to offer a word of congratulations or, if the coming out process is going poorly, provide advice or encouragement to the person in need. However, in our current tumultuous political climate, I have started seeing another type of coming out story...
I would find myself annoyed with straight and gay family members and friends for making everything about my bi identity. While they did this out of love -- and to illustrate their support -- it got on my nerves.
I’m sure that most of us have attempted, or even succeeded, in removing toxic people from our lives as a resolution, but often family members are exempt from these efforts.
This week we take a peek at Seth MacFarlane's sci-fi comedy, The Orville.
I don’t want to be the special exception to your small-minded belief system; oftentimes, these people act as if they’re making a huge personal and moral sacrifice to accept me as who I am and seem to think I should be thrilled to be the one person in the world who is like this that they accept.
Bisexuality isn't just about sex scandals, and it's time for the media to reflect that.
Our straight partners should not have to be invited every time--but there is no reason besides biphobia that our families aren’t explicitly welcomed, sometimes.
Bi folks deserve to celebrate our coming out just as much as everyone else does.
This week The Unicorn Scale is looking at Spike Lee’s Netflix reboot of his breakthrough film, She’s Gotta Have It.
Welcome to Step Bi Step, a new limited monthly series discussing some of the challenges and joys of bi parenting.
Wouldn’t my life just be a hell of a lot easier if I identified as gay? If I only spoke about, dated, screwed, and loved men? Yes, I believe it undoubtedly would be…if I were gay.
Black Mirror and other popular shows are finally giving us bi characters, so why won't they say the word?
This is where the red flags started popping up. He showed up, and was immediately giving off some very unpleasant vibes.... It turned out that his condition for her dating me was that he would be shown pictures of anything that happened between us, or that if he is in town he wanted to participate.
Thanks to social dating apps, it was and still is relatively easy to find a date or hookup, but finding the long-term friendships I was looking for was not happening with a woof or right swipe...at least not to start.
Sexuality isn’t stagnant. In fact, it’s a journey for everyone regardless of sexual orientation, then we can approach Aaron’s coming out process not as confusion, but as a journey.
In honor of what will hopefully be a bright and wonderful New Year, The Unicorn Scale is looking back to a beloved classic.
Happy New Year, here are a few ways to make your 2018 even more bi-tastic than 2017.
Maybe it's the weather, maybe it's your auntie asking why you aren't seeing anyone, maybe you're just bored, but this seems to be the time of year that people start leaping into relationships.
2017 has been a struggle for many of us, here are some of the shows, movies, podcasts that have helped us get through those rough patches.
Going home for the holidays can be wonderful, but for some us it means spending time in a community that is not as supportive as our new chosen homes.
This year, tv gave us many bi characters. Who is your favorite?
I thought we were building a real relationship, then I noticed she only treated me like her girlfriend when there was someone there to witness it.
So instead of having this smug satisfaction that comes from correcting another person’s sexual identity, let’s be supportive. Let’s believe. And if believing is too much, then let’s keep our mouths shut.
This week, The Unicorn Scale takes a gander at "Godless" and its collection of great female characters in the wild west.
Why? Because I don’t have to worry about getting called names for crushing it to some Britney Spears on the dance floor. I don’t have to fulfill any sort of dress code other than my own personal one.
Last week in Good Bi Love, I explored the question, “Is it right to encourage others to label themselves as bi?" Here are some of your thoughts on the subject.
I’m not going to be the person who shows everyone that bi people aren’t like that, and I’m okay with that.
This week The Unicorn Scale takes a peek at the delightful Magnus Bane of "Shadowhunters".
People who deny bisexuality, and even deny queer folk in general exist, love to hear about these doubts we have and try to use these doubts against us. They love to hear about the abuse queer people have gone through and try to use that to explain away our sexuality as if it's some sort of deviancy. Well, it's not. We know it's not. It's the best thing to ever happen to us, our bisexuality.
What is our role? As activists, bis, and queers ourselves? We want to help, but is going around telling everyone that they should claim the bi label the right thing to do?
Haven't seen "Top Gun" lately? Maybe it's time to take another look, and not just for the volleyball scene.
Finally accepting that I'm bisexual has helped me stop wrestling with my sexual orientation. I'd often be confused about how I could be attracted to guys and girls, because I didn't know what bisexuality was.
I felt as if I found a community. And as any bi guy can tell you, an accepting community is not always easy to come by.
The numbers are in! GLAAD’s Where We Are On TV report shines an annual light on queer characters making big waves on the small screen.
I'm feeling thankful for many things this year, what about you?
Holidays can be rough, here are some ways to make them go a little more smoothly.
Biphobia touches us all in different ways, this week Zachary Zane talks with Dr. Nathan Grant Smith about the potential effects of internalized biphobia among bi men.
This week's Unicorn Scale takes a look at the Swedish thriller, "Girl With The Dragon Tattoo."
At the end of the day, I claim bisexuality proudly. I feel it suits me best. So please, stop telling me I should change my label. I never tell you that you should change yours.
I asked Dr. Puts and his research coordinator, Heather Self, to answer some questions on a study they’re currently working on to explore human sexuality using 23andme data. Notably, they’re focusing on bi people (and are still recruiting bi participants).
I still had this uneasiness I couldn't quite shake. I was back in the closet, in a strange way, and it felt uncomfortable. It was like I was that kid again wanting to scream “I'm bi!” at the top of my lungs.
I worry that gay people who condemn Spacey for saying he “chooses” to be gay will then turn around and tell bi folks to just “choose a side” already.
I knew I wanted to find my new queer community in Chicago and Dodgeball showed me the way.
Let's talk about Darryl Whitefeather of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" and how he's "getting bi."
When you dance your pretty little (giant?) heart out to Grace Jones, or Demi Lovato, or Lady Gaga, you aren't dancing to the music of “lesbians in college.” You're dancing to music created by some of the greatest bi singers to walk this earth.
I told her that the bi label will always be there for her. That it absolutely fits her identity, and she should never feel any shame or embarrassment for claiming the label.
Some bis are poly, some bis aren’t.
As a bi woman, online dating has its own collection of pitfalls.
“I feel joy and comfort knowing I am not alone in this world..... Everyone is unique and different and I don't want to judge anyone no more.”
Bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talks to Dr. Nicole Johnson of The Department of Education and Human Services at Lehigh University about some of the reasons why bi women may face higher rates of sexual violence.
This Unicorn Scale edition covers my newest, happiest TV obsession – “The Bold Type,” ... This frothy, fashionable, blisteringly smart comedy-drama centers on the adventures of Jane, Sutton, and Kat, three twentysomething women working at Scarlet, a global women’s magazine.
“My first experience when I finally realized I was bi/homoflexible, was somewhat exhilarating, and then immediately followed by fear."
Zachary Zane talks to Taylor Jenkins Reid about her novel "The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo" and its bi protagonist.
We've all experienced the bummer of bi stereotypes. Here are some snarky responses to keep on hand next time someone says something like, "so, you're half gay..."
I’ve been on #StandBi for quite a while, and no matter who I end up dating, I will still be bi. I am not going back in the closet just because I don’t have enough bi street cred.
Being out has meant different things to me throughout my life, what does it mean to you?
On National Coming Out Day, I think it’s important to recognize not only those who have the courage and strength to come out, but also those who unconditionally support us and give us the strength to do so.
I don’t think that being viewed as “straight” by people, queer and straight, is a privilege. It’s invisibility. It’s a life of being forced to live in the closet.
Bi.org contributor Lewis Oakley was just nominated as one of PinkNews' Campaigners of the Year. He talks about what this nomination means and how we can all be activists for our community.
Many bi people struggle going back and forth between "queer spaces" and "straight spaces," but why does it have to be such a struggle?
How bi do you have to be to call yourself bi?
Basically, straight guys, it’s like this: If you want to bond with me, just try doing it the normal way.... Don’t treat me any differently simply because you find out I would also love the opportunity to date Megan Fox.
In preparation for this week's season premiere, The Unicorn Scale takes a peek at Bob's Burgers.
In this era of superhero movies, bi.org contributor Jennie Roberson imagines what her bi superhero would be like.
On this day, I want to celebrate being bi. I want to encourage others to come out and embrace the label.... So I figured I’ll start us off. Here are just a few of the reasons I love being bi.
Tomorrow is Bi Visibility Day, how are you planning on showing your bi pride?
In honor of #BiWeek, we took a look at some of the newest out members of our bi family.
"How in the world could I have been bisexual my entire life and not figured it out until I was 48 years old? I can’t be that stupid, can I? I knew in my heart of hearts it was true. It was like all of the pieces of my life had just fallen into place at the same time." - Omar
Regardless of your lifestyle, you’re still bi, and you’re still a part of the bi and LGBTQ community. Your sexuality is independent of what activities you like to engage in.
Just because you love something doesn’t mean it’s perfect, nor does it mean that it’s ultimately the best fit for you...and that’s how I feel about the place I grew up.
In preparation for season 2 of "The Good Place" Jennie Roberson takes a look at the slow reveal of Eleanor's (the main character) bisexuality over the course of season 1.
I asked Max about his fear of coming out bi to the world at large. He replied that in the old days it was more about his male ego, whereas now, it's the potential effect on his family that he's worried about.
My conversation with an Uber driver who just didn't get my bisexuality or my breaking of gender norms.
You've spent the years devising every which way is best to reveal your sexuality to your family, friends, the online world, and the world in general. And then that day came.... So, what now?
This week's Unicorn Scale we look at "Empire" a show that is part King Lear and part Dynasty with a lot of hip hop thrown in. There are also a surprising number of bi characters, let's explore.
This week bi.org contributor Greg Ward spoke with Nelda, a young bi woman who is very active and out as bi online, but hasn't yet fully come out in her everyday life.
Sometimes, just by existing and being your true (bi) self, you’re being an activist. Besides, there will be plenty more times to correct someone when they mislabel your sexual orientation.
This week bi.org contributor Zachary Zane talked to Dr. Sabra Katz-Wise about negative physical health disparities faced by the bi community and what may be causing them.
I’ve struggled with whether I wanted to be a representative every time I mention my sexuality. So I’ve tried different approaches over the years - with varying results.
She feels like she belongs in [online bi] groups but sometimes feels like a fraud because she's never had any sexual experiences with women; only with men. “Can I really call myself bisexual?” Lulu asked. “Like, that's something I struggle with sometimes.”
Most of my gay friends vocally affirm my bisexuality (I wouldn’t be friends with them if they didn't!) but many haven’t seen me interact romantically with women. Bringing up my interest in a woman can still result in confusion as if they forget I’m not only bi, but also do bi advocacy and writing.
As far as coming to terms with my sexuality, I am currently in a period when I am more attracted to women, and I think to myself, 'Am I maybe gay?' But then I get that familiar feeling that says, 'Nope. Still bi.'
If I had it my way, I’d never not work with a fellow bi person. We need each other.
This summer brought us not one, but two, kick-ass bi heroines! Lorraine Broughton and Diana Prince both showed us that bi ladies definitely belong on the big screen.
What about being bi brings Kelvin the most joy and comfort? “Choice,” He stated. “Being with like-minded people. Love is love.” It certainly is, and it's beautiful.
We also need to create spaces that encourage and reward bi disclosure. That would (hopefully) create a positive feedback loop: More bi-visibility → more people come out → creates more bi-visibility → even more bi folks come out!
We Bi+ people are so easily made invisible, we need to create visibility, to show up, to hold space for each other. We need to loudly and proudly make it known that we are Bi+ and not ashamed and not afraid.
Especially when bi people make up the largest portion of the LGB community, our continued erasure is dishonest. Bisexual is not a dirty word and the media's continued refusal to use it only perpetuates the perception that it is.
I get to love both women and men! It's like, if monosexuality is like black and white TV, then bisexuality and pansexuality is like color. It's so different. There's no way in hell I want to be anything other than bisexual.
Whilst I've made peace with being the odd one out, the situation desperately needs to change. We must get bi venues and groups to bring people together....
Today The Unicorn Scale takes a look at "Stage Beauty," a movie set in the 17th century where a man and a woman each hope to be the best Desdemona on the English stage.
Meet Gloria. She is bi and not yet out. Here is her story.
Now the idea that we’re on teams is ludicrous....being a part of the “straight” team, it is your job to “defeat” the gay team. Whatever the hell “defeat” means in this context.
I’ve learned that outside my personal sphere, there will most likely never be a point in my life when I won’t be faced with coming out as bi.
Sometimes it seems expedient to say "I'm so gay" or "I'm gay af," does doing so help to create a greater sense of solidarity with the greater queer community, or simply serve to further erase bisexuality?
This week bi.org contributor Greg Ward talks to a woman in a very conservative church in a conservative area. Even though coming out isn't simple for her, she still sees the beauty of her bisexuality and how it allows her to perceive and interpret the world differently than her straight counterparts.
“I support you, I just don’t want to hear or see anything about your lifestyle.” It can come in a variety of formats, but the gist is typically the same.... I have begun to see this phrase as more of a cop out than an actual expression of sincere support.
I was afraid of never finding a community. Just because we are all individuals who want to express our individuality doesn’t mean we don’t want connection, understanding, and community. I don’t want to be a unique, isolated island, nor can I pretend to be someone I’m not.
This week I was sick to death of watching shows with bi characters who never ever said the word bi, so I decided to sit down and watch "Appropriate Behavior." If you too are sick to death of bi erasure and bi invisibility, check out this awesome movie written, directed, and starring a real life bi woman about a bi woman!
I am grateful. What if we all shared how grateful we are that we are bi? What if we talked about how enriching it is to us? What if, through our stories, the rest of the world can realize we are perfect the way we are as bi people.
These men (and to a lesser extent women) use the poly or open label as justification to screw around, without taking into account the emotions of other people.... However, I would argue that these men aren’t “open." They are simply jerks.
Soon after the lights dimmed, we were introduced to the queer woman paradise that is Themyscira. Now, I’m pretty sure there was not a queer person in any theatre that thought just because this is a women-only island, nothing sexual was going down.
“I have a gift of so many worlds that I should just take it all. How great is this? That when finally I was all, 'I'm bisexual. Oh my gosh, I get to love so many people!'”
It might seem trivial, but walking down the street in rainbow shorts and getting high fives instead of sneers was an incredible experience for me. Little things like that, which make you feel like you belong when for so many of us that has not always been the case, really made Pride for me.
When your crushes on girls are romantic or sexual in nature, it can be tricky to separate your genuine crushes from your ‘girl crushes.’ So where do these two distinct types of crushes meet?
In honor of Frida Kahlo's birthday, The Unicorn Scale takes a look at Julie Taymor's 2002 biopic, Frida.
There's something beautiful to be said about being able to just be like the wind; just go where it blows. And I don't have to restrict myself, and nor should I. It's my life and I think life's meant to be enjoyed. You can enjoy anything. I think there would be a lot more bi people out right now if they viewed it like that.
One question I've received repeatedly, and to be frank, one question I really hadn’t thought much about prior, was “What’s the role of my straight partner in making my bisexuality visible?”
My first [Pride] experience, when in the closet, was life-changing, I can only hope the first time attending as an out and proud bi man will be just as great.
Many bi relationships are openly and visibly queer. But bi people shouldn’t have to be visibly queer in order to be included...Pride has been, is, and always will be, for the bi community too.
Betty is currently in a same gender relationship. Very few people know that and the ones who do, don't know that Betty is bi, they know her as a lesbian. She holds on to two secrets tightly.
Statistically there are more bi folks than gay and lesbian. So where are they all and how do you find them?
Meet Stan, years ago he came out as gay. Later he realized that he was bi, and is now unsure how to come out to his gay community.
This week The Unicorn Scale's guest writer, SB, takes us back to 2005 and the romantic comedy, "Imagine Me and You".
Today we meet Estelle, a woman who is mostly happy with her own bisexuality, but struggles with how to be out to her conservative social circle.
Pride reminded me that every time I go out with my amBi friends, I am also helping to build a visible, vibrant, proud bi community. We're helping to make sure that the B in LGBT is being seen, being heard, being counted.
There’s nothing wrong with queer sex. It’s not gross or abominable. Sense8 showed it can be can be beautiful, and yes, even celebrated.
Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Doreen, she used to live a typical Christian American life. Then her husband came out to her as gay and her marriage ended. Now she is coming to terms with her own bisexuality.
Welcome to "Good Bi Love," Bi.org's newest biweekly column.
In honor of Marilyn Monroe's birthday, The Unicorn Scale decided to revisit one of my all time favorite movies, "Some Like It Hot." Yes, it was made in 1959, but it was surprisingly progressive and still plays very well today.
Bi.org contributor, Greg Ward, sat down with a series of bi folks who are not "out" to ask them about their sexuality, their concerns, and why they aren't out. This week we meet Clay, a bi firefighter who is worried that coming out might hurt his career.
I am not an erotic fiction audiobook that exists for your listening pleasure, thank you very much. The idea that bi women just want attention perpetuates the idea that a woman's love for another woman is something for straight men to enjoy.
Bi.org contributor, Blaize Stewart, sat down with his parents to ask what they were thinking when he came out to them.
What we can focus on is the unique reasons why we choose our identity labels, how as a community we face the same struggles, and ways we can work together.
Now I do my best not to assume based off of stereotypes or make snap judgements about a person’s identity or character. I attempt to look at all the possible outcomes of a situation instead of only looking for the most likely one.
If we had the option of immersing ourselves in bi culture, instead of having to choose between gay or straight culture, I suspect most of us would feel pretty at home in the bi spaces.
I thought I was “just gay,” but then I’d remember all of the women I had loved in my lifetime, and all the times I’d cried over a woman I liked, and it was clear that I am not gay.
We believe that men and women, boys and girls can be a lot of different things, can act a lot of different ways, and that we should celebrate those differences. And that is why this bi guy is happy to call himself a feminist.
This had to be a dream out of some corny romance movie with a line like that. But before I knew what to say, I felt myself leaning over and connecting lips with Chad.
I will continue to promote bi visibility and equality, both in and out of the LGBTQ+ community, and hope that the majority of people will not condemn it as an attack, but instead welcome the opportunity to promote inclusivity and respect for others.
From the start we’re given bows or arrows, trucks or ballet slippers, hugs or “stiff upper lip”s. This leads to a lifetime of inequality, both in how we see the world and how others see us.
With what character do you ache to relate, and perhaps already do? It’s okay to feel the bi vibes and embrace them. It's okay to read these characters as bi, who would know better than you what it means to be bi.
Coming out as bi, I've found that many people have a hard time filtering out the inappropriate or uncomfortable inquiries they want to direct at me. While I'm happy to address some of their questions, there are a few that either do not or should not be asked.
Because I don't feel as comfortable around women, deleted my dating apps, and tend to avoid straight places, I meet many more queer men than straight or bi women. Nevertheless, I’m still attracted to women.
This week The Unicorn Scale tackles the time traveling extravaganza, "Outlander".
Content Warning: This article discusses sexual assault and sexual violence
Being bi is fantastic, empowering, and just plain fun. Here are some of the things I’ve learned on my journey fighting for bi acceptance.
If only Kelly Osborne had said that she is open to loving anybody, and left it at that.
In a society as heteronormative as this, when LGBTQ rights and issues are still up for debate, we need connection. We need to feel as if we’re not alone. We need to know that our existence is valid and our problems are not just ours alone. We need a team. We need community. We need family.
There are complexities to coming out as a bi man, especially under the scrutiny of a public eye, that fosters this sort of back and forth from gay to straight.
I feel like we sometimes forget to acknowledge the amazing bi folks in mainstream media who are killing it with regards to visibility. This piece is for the women in mainstream media who not only proudly identify as bi, but also advocate for bi equality.
It was such a relief to know that I could keep my bi identity (which had become very important to me) and also acknowledge this other facet of myself. I started identifying as bi and demisexual, or bidemisexual.
Sometimes, dreaming of a better world and sharing your dreams can influence the best and brightest in our bi global family. Never forget you have that bi global family. Reach out to them, know that you are loved by them.
This week The Unicorn Scale looks at the hilarious comedy, "Chewing Gum," specifically the episode "The Unicorn." 'Cause how could we resist?
Be your proud demi, pan, omni wonderful self. We all still have one thing in common, we are all attracted to more than one gender, we are all a part of the bi+ party.
While these individuals may not claim a bi identity, what they’re engaging in sexually, is by definition, bisexuality. Sexuality doesn’t always have to include romantic attraction or even sexual activity.
It’s my life. I shouldn't have to live in a restricted way just to satisfy the prudish. I am a bi poly guy with no desire to settle down and build a family. I’m an open book. And I’m proud.
This is a common perception in our world. I've been asked who I like more: men or women. What percentage gay am I? What percentage straight am I? I'm 100% bi.
It’s been a long journey getting here, but I am so happy to be out and 100% true to myself. Just a year and a month ago, I was still wearing my “straight” mask, but now, I am an out and proud bi woman and I couldn’t be happier!
Happy birthday, Lady Gaga! Thanks for being one of the very few bi celebrities to actually #SayBisexual. Instead of sneakily hiding behind a "no labels" comment, your transparent example has inspired millions to openly show their #BiPride!
Rave culture's openness and acceptance is a large part of why I was able to come out as bi. It's why I quit trying to be someone else's idea of “normal” and just started being myself.
The Bi Line tackles Katy Perry's speech at the Human Rights Campaign Gala
I don’t think you should feel obligated to put that you’re bi on your dating profile if you don’t want to do so. However, for your sake, and to make your romantic/dating life easier, I would highly consider doing so!
Bi was a word I thought couldn’t include me because of my gender and attraction. I was wrong. Bi has more than enough room for nonbinary genders and nonbinary attraction. Bi includes me.
This week we dive into Todd Haynes' 1998 Glam Rock extravaganza "Velvet Goldmine."
Frank Ocean is a beacon of visibility for folks who are attracted to more than one gender. His music and words have helped me, and I’m sure thousands of others like me, by showing me that I’m not alone.
Every conversation we had in Egypt eventually led to the question, "you are friends?.." It took me a few days to realize what they were really saying is, "are you lesbians?"
The bi+ community needs to make bi+ spaces for ourselves.
Where was bisexuality in ABC's "When We Rise"?
We’ve always had a moment for gay rights. When will “LGBT rights” organizations have more than a mere moment for ours?
It’s an odd thing to say – that I used to discriminate against other bi folks. But I did. I didn’t think bisexuality was sound or valid. That’s how I was taught. And I was taught wrong.
Often, when we say we’re bi to new folks we meet, we’re the first out and open bi person with whom they've had the privilege of speaking. This puts a lot of weight on us. Because you know that their interaction with you will form their opinion on all bi people for the rest of eternity. (Or at least it seems like that.)
Welcome to The Unicorn Scale where we will be talking about the quality of bi representation in various shows, films, and books. First up is Starz's "Black Sails."
I am bi and I struggle with an anxiety disorder. Now, although I have grown to understand and accept both of these facts, they remain strange and oftentimes unfathomable to others.
Being bi, for me, doesn’t mean I don’t care about a person’s appearance. It doesn't mean that I’m only attracted to personality. On the contrary, it means I’m attracted to various physical forms (along with personality as well).
Bisexual characters are the butt of jokes in Hollywood and we’re not laughing.
The writings of Anais Nin were a huge part of my awakening as a young woman. Today, on Anais Nin's birthday, I am reminded that orientation is about so much more than physical attraction. And that there's no one right way to be bisexual.
Sometimes, after mentioning my bisexuality in conversation, there’s silence followed by some incredibly frustrating statements/questions. This annoying follow up conversation often keeps us in the closet, so here are some easy scripts to get you through those conversations/interrogations.
[Evan Rachel Wood's words] made me feel comforted, and a little less alone. It gave me hope for a new generation of bi kids, who would hopefully see people like her and feel a little less alone, too.
So many people think of bi folks as “greedy,” as “wanting it all,” as always on the hunt for new, more, different partners, they forget that we are also people who can be alone.
If nothing else, Gaga's example proved to hundreds of millions of people that it is possible to be a woman, a survivor of sexual assault, proudly bisexual, and a superstar.
Even gender studies classrooms may not be safe spaces. They contain the same biphobic microaggressions that bi folks encounter everywhere else in the world. I hope that somewhere out there, people are beginning to have better experiences.
“You may not be able to be out in every single space that you’re interacting in, and so my hope is that for bi folks, with the spaces where one can be out, I hope they are able to capitalize on that for their own well-being.”
Why so many people feel the need to inform me of this dating prejudice, even when I've shown absolutely no interest in them, is beyond me. At the very least, these exchanges are just plain strange. But they are also very upsetting and here's why.
Now, I have a new fear when coming out. It’s not that people won’t believe it, it’s that they’ll somehow belittle my sexuality by thinking it’s “new" or "hip."
I will never vote for an anti-choice, anti-woman, anti-sex, anti-love candidate. I am proud of voting for these values and will continue to do so.
If someone is too closed minded to understand something as simple as bisexuality, they aren’t for me. If they are so insensitive that they would say biphobic things to someone they KNOW is bi, they aren’t for me.
Having President Obama in office, someone who vehemently and passionately believes in equality and fairness, told me that we were moving forward. It confirmed what I’d always believed – that the side of equal rights is the right side.
The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.
Roger may not be the average person (or alien) you would tell your kid to aspire to be. Nevertheless, there’s something in his pride, his confidence in his sexuality, and his brutal honesty that is inspiring to me.
I truly believe that there is a man, woman, or genderqueer person out there who would love to date your sexy bi self.
I can look as girly or androgynous as I want. I can climb mountains or sit in drawing rooms (first I’d have to find a drawing room). I am still a woman.
David Bowie's life reminds us to have fun. Go for it, it's okay to be weird. In fact it's awesome to be weird.
I thought it would be fun to make a "bi book club" list. I figured I'd draw on my knowledge and that of my friends to create a book of the month list and then we could all read through them together.
Introducing Eliel Cruz's new bi monthly column
They should not love us in spite of our bisexuality, but rather they should love us, and the identities that come with us, wholly.
We’ve reached the end of 2016, and what a year it has been. Let’s take a moment to acknowledge all we choose to keep and all we hope to shed as we walk forward into a new one.
Next time someone tells you that they are polyamorous, please don't assume that they are promiscuous.
When I’m dating a man I can feel myself clinging to parts of LGBT culture harder than when I’m with a woman. Pride festivals become even more empowering than they were before. LGBT clubs feel like even more of a haven. Hell, I even find myself clinging harder to shows and books that feature queer characters.
There was so much to celebrate in 2016, and hopefully the new year will bring even more.
Bi folks are of course people and love all the gifts that people love, but here are some extra awesome gift options for the bi people in your life.
You are bi because that’s who you are. You have no reason to be ashamed of that. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are not alone in your struggle, there are many of us out there, and we know how you feel.
This holiday season, when you need a break from family and all that holiday cheer, why not check out some of these bi TV characters of 2016?
At this point, I’ve now been out for a while, and no longer wallow that many people of various genders refuse to date me. The reason why? I’ve come to see the silver lining.
Why is it that, when I tell you I’m bisexual, the first thing you’re likely to imagine is me having constant sex and threesomes every day? Let me tell you: threesomes are seriously hard to organise, so I should be so lucky!
In a perfect world, we might not need labels, but we do not live in a perfect world.
I recently took an online Sex Addiction Screening Test. Here are my test results. It turns out that I’m probably a sex addict and a lot of other fun stuff.
Bizarrely enough, it was polyamory that forced me to confront my jealousy issues and insecurities. It was polyamory that forced me to dig deep down to see what the root of my jealousy was.
My girlfriend has read and seen everything I've ever done as an activist. Rather than be insecure when I discuss the kind of men I find attractive - she replies 'this is awesome babe, so proud of you.'
The thing about non-monogamous relationships: There’s no unified definition. The more non-monogamous folks I encounter, the more I’m shocked by the number of configurations and variety of rules that exist within the non-monogamous community.
When your relatives ask those inevitable questions, these snappy responses will help you relax and get back to the important work of eating.
With season 12 of “Supernatural” already underway, many fans are asking, “Is Dean ever going to come out of the closet?”
We, the queer community, want to say, “What if I chose to be queer? Let’s say I did. What’s wrong with that?” The answer of course, is nothing.
I had begun to think something was wrong with me. I thought I was incapable of finding true love. That’s when I had the revelation. It wasn’t me that was the issue. It wasn’t my partner. It wasn’t that we weren’t good for each other. It was monogamy.
Bi.org spoke with Dr. Brian Dodge about his research into how bi people are perceived by the rest of the world and what the potential impacts of the perception are.
We will fight for and alongside each other when the time comes. But right now, it’s okay to mourn. It’s okay to not be okay.
This election week, remember: check in with yourself, be kind to yourself, and most importantly: take care.
I’ve been much more confident in myself ever since I began to embrace my unique femme style and realized that being femme doesn’t make me any less bi.
GLAAD's annual media report shows that there are more bi characters on TV, unfortunately they are mostly evil or dead. We need more and better bi characters.
No, this isn’t about saying men should suffer like women have. This is about saying we should all have the right to plan when and how we become parents. Yes, men too.
It may seem like a long list, but really it doesn't take a lot to put the B back in your LGBT organization.
How Trump's words inspired frank conversations about sexual assault and its prevalence.
These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as "bisexual".
Why do a fifth of self-identified straight men watch gay porn? My gut response was to say some of these men are actually closeted gay or bi, but I think that’s an oversimplification.
As Latino LGBT people, our challenges are unique, but so are we to overcome them.
Although I've attended and participated in Prides, I'd never been on the planning side before. I showed up to the first meeting hesitant because bisexuality is often ignored by Pride organizers, but I was immediately made welcome. I loved seeing this whole thing come together, and for me the icing on the cake was when I was made Grand Marshal. Talk about bi visibility!
Please, non-bisexual people, don’t erase my sexuality. We exist, and we deserve respect and acknowledgement like everyone else.
Thanks to all the folks who shared their stories. It is wonderful to know that our community is so large, so diverse, and so proud!
In celebration of National Coming Out Day, we decided to highlight some great coming out stories shared by members of the Bi.org community. Here they are, in your own words:
How does a bi man -- who doesn’t want to be like the stereotypical objectifying straight guy -- reveal that they’re bi in a way that’s not overtly sexual or predatory?
Talking about sex can be weird, and often we just don't ask questions. We assume we know it all, because really how complicated can sex be?
Intimacy is hard for all of us. Like so many of the most important things in life, no one really teaches us how to go about finding it, keeping it, or nurturing it.
In honor of Bi Week and Bi Visibility Day, the White House hosted a Bi Community Briefing with members of the bi community.
Throughout the week members and supporters of the bi+ community made us laugh out loud, provided opportunities for enrichment, and gave us even more reason to celebrate. Let’s take a look at some of #BiWeek in tweets!
Gracefully transitioning between 'gay' and 'straight' culture isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. So, I've been asking myself, when the world is divided into 'gay and straight,' where do I put my effort into meeting a partner when I’m neither?
For those who haven't yet noticed, Bi.org is presenting our annual Bi Visibility Challenge in celebration of Bi Pride Week!
Happy Bi Visibility Day 2016! Here are some things we'd like to see accomplished before many more Bi Visibility Days have passed. What's on your Bi Wish List?
Happy International Talk Like a Pirate Day folks! This year it coincides with the beginning of Bi Pride Week, so I thought we'd talk about some less heteronormative pirate traditions in order to celebrate both.
Dr. Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli of Deakin University talks to bi.org about her new book "Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men by Women".
This Bi Week we are celebrating some of the many bi activists who have been instrumental in the LGBT rights movement.
Amy Winehouse was the first woman I had heard use this mysterious word "bisexual." She wasn't afraid of her sexual orientation changing what people thought of her and refused to tiptoe around the label.
I'm certainly not suggesting that bi issues are more important than gay issues, simply that they are different issues that both deserve the same amount of respect. The problem is when LGBT groups and health organisations keep adding 'and bisexual' to the mix to try and pass themselves off as inclusive.
The more time I spend involved in bi activism and talking to other bi folks, the more I hear one major complaint. "No one wants to date me." It normally comes down to "people keep rejecting me as a potential romantic partner because I am bi."
It is all too common for bi people to be rejected by partners of either sex simply because we are bi. For a lot of people, bisexuality is a deal breaker when it comes to dating. This can be due to false and unfair stereotypes about bi people being confused or disloyal, or it can even be because some claims to find bi people "gross."
Freddie Mercury was never afraid of challenging society’s sexual and gender expectations.
Sometimes the Hollywood kiss bores me. It doesn’t reflect my life or my experiences. So here is a list of kisses from fantastic films I love, films that don’t follow that very familiar, very dominant narrative.
A lot of people imagine that polyamory is some kind of carte blanche to do whatever you’d like without ever needing to apologize. In fact, it’s the exact opposite.
The more bi people who are out, the more we will be accepted and someday bisexuality, homosexuality and heterosexuality will all be treated equally. In the meantime, maybe my family will figure it out. Until then, I’ll just keep being me, out and proud.
This week, Bella Thorne came out as bisexual in the chillest way possible, causing an outpouring of love on Twitter. Coming out is about being real, honest, genuine. It isn't just private "bedroom stuff." It affects our romantic and social lives a great deal. If someone doesn't care about all that, that's sad.
We talk to Dr. Eric Schrimshaw of Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health about his recent study on why bisexual men are not coming out to partners, family, and friends.
The message these rulings send out is loud and clear. As far as the justice system is concerned, bisexuality does not exist, and I think that that is unacceptable.
Biphobia remains rampant, even within the gay community. This is in part due to the fact that bi people aren't coming out in large enough numbers yet.
Even as progress is being made with regard to LGBT and women's rights, the 2016 Olympics in Rio this year remind us that more progress is sorely needed... We've witnessed highs and lows in that regard this year.
Harley Quinn is relatively new to the Suicide Squad, not appearing in that group until 2011, and I was delighted that she was going to be a part of the film. Who doesn’t want to watch a kick ass, bisexual, sexy, funny lady super villain/anti hero?
"I was indoctrinated into a kind of machismo culture, which is to say I grew up believing that a man must behave in a stereotypically masculine manner at all times. This meant carefully hiding any parts of myself that might have been perceived as stereotypically 'feminine.'"
Ask most bi people, and they will tell you that the majority of biphobia they experience is from within the LGBT community itself.
When I asked Tara Avery how she became involved in bi activism, her answer was simple. “I just showed up.”
Schrimshaw found that many men aren’t “confused” about their (bi)sexuality. They know they are attracted to both men and women; however, they aren’t open about their (bi)sexuality because they fear stigma, ridicule, and being outed.
One cannot champion economic justice while simultaneously opposing social justice. As much as we may respect Pope Francis for the statements he makes in support of the poor, there's no escaping this fact. It is time for well meaning Catholics to call upon their pope and their church to reform the profound problems at the heart of this contradiction.
As much as we may want to live in a world where everyone is equal, we do not live in that world. The only way to get there is by encouraging social progress, which means discussion, which means using labels.
I don’t know which I find more insulting: the idea that we cannot elect a man because his wife has been seen naked or that we should elect a man because his wife is "hot."
We are not entertaining ourselves with women until we find the "perfect man." We are not kissing for attention or ratings. We are bi women, and we are still bi no matter whom we are dating.
Just like not all lesbians are "butch" and not all gay men are "queens," not all bi guys are a gay man's stereotyped fantasy of masculinity. Our sexual orientation is more than your porn fetish. Sorry.
It was a stellar weekend for bi visibility at the 2016 Comic-Con. Clarkes and Constantines descended upon CA, and we’ve got your bi+ round up right here.
So please, I know you mean well, and I’m flattered, I truly am, but stop asking me and my boyfriend to make out. Stop telling us how hot it is. Stop objectifying our queerness and love.
By asking me questions like this, people deny the love and intimacy I have with my partner, assuming we are only together for sex; that sex with her could never compare to sex with a man.
Let’s do this. Let's boldly go where no one in the Star Trek universe has gone before. Let's say bisexual.
We are a generation that loves our labels, married or single, black or white, team Edward or team Jacob. The problem is, when it comes down to sexual orientation things are not so black and white.
I want to focus on why I love being bisexual. Why it is not only a blessing, but a privilege that I was able to discover my (bi)sexuality. And even if I was magically presented the option to press a button and turn either gay or straight, I would never, in a million years, change my sexual orientation.
What other people may say or think about me, about us, has no bearing on who we are. No matter who we date, no matter who we have sex with, no matter who we fall in love with or marry, we are still bisexual. No one can take that away from us.
Bit by bit, they joined the chorus, and the protesters' megaphones were rendered useless; their futile hatred drowned out by our love. “We're here! We're queer! We're fabulous! Get used to it!” All together, over and over and over....
When someone comes out to you, it is not about you and your feelings. It’s about them opening up to you and trusting you with a part of their life that is very fragile.
Missing your most-loved bi characters while they’re on summer break? Check out some of our favorite bi characters available with subscription right now!
This guide is a handy tool for bisexual people who want to educate friends and family, as well as for non-bi people who want to know how to be good allies to bi people.
I never had to come out to him. A fringe benefit of online dating. There it was, my truth right next to my carefully chosen handle: “bisexual.”
Isolated isn’t even the word. How can I unpack my feelings when I don’t even feel like I have a local community with which to do so? How do we create these spaces? How do we feed our communities in these moments?
Despite the fact that bisexual people are the majority of the LGBT population, bi people and their stories are often conspicuously absent from most LGBT festivals. Fortunately, not this time!
It was a hate crime. Omar Mateen was a homophobe who murdered LGBT people out of sheer hatred, and that is one thing about which we can be certain.
Let’s hear it for the Bis! We’re celebrating some of our favorite bisexual characters of the 2015-16 tv season. Are yours on the list?
Two decades in, one of the oldest online dating sites still doesn’t recognize bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation.
For literally everything else in life, humans can like more than one thing - and usually without judgement. It shouldn't be inconceivable to think that some of us have the capacity to be attracted to more than one gender.
Music has been a huge part of my coming out process. Singing live about my experiences has helped me realize just how many like-minded people there out there.
In our last post on self care, we reviewed barriers to self care for the bisexual community. With that acknowledged and in mind, today let’s focus on how we can take care of ourselves.
It's revolutionary for us to love ourselves without conditions, to take care of ourselves without guilt. And there shouldn’t be any guilt in self care.
When earlier this year, Huffington Post’s Gay Voices changed their name to Queer Voices, it was another victory in the long fought battle for bi inclusion, yet it re-awoke ongoing questions and concerns about name changes.
Saying that Clarke being with a man is a bad thing because he is a man—no matter the context—is biphobic.
Every gay person has their coming out story. For a bi person, the experience is different.
There are so many stereotypes about bi people. We are not those things. We are just bisexual.
In modern pop culture the only indicator of bisexuality is behavior. Beyond even that, we can’t assume the character will stay that way. In reality we know bisexuality is in and of itself valid and not a phase.
The orientation (and the people who represent it) have gone from being ignored and actively erased by the media to being part of society's grand narrative.
"Maybe if people could understand that for many of us being bisexual is a permanent not transitional identity, then there was a potential that we could be understood.”
An Open Valentine for the Bi+ Community, from Bisexual.org
A fan tweeted Mark Hamill to ask if Luke "was bisexual." The actor's reply was very thoughtful. OUT Magazine's headline about the tweet, however - not so much.
If I’m being honest, I’ve felt anxiety in regards to not being “a 50/50” bisexual. Especially as an activist in the LGBT community, I stress about not being perceived as “bi enough.”
Recent studies show more young adults are identifying as bisexual than ever before. Why is that?
My intention with the #oneofus project is to give bi people something or someone to relate to.
Bisexual activist Nicole Kristal has a message for journalists and politicians who leave the B out of LGBT.
Erasing bisexuality from the foundation of queer rights is a disservice to our history.
In an episode of British comedy Vicious, character Freddie Thornhill, as played by Ian McKellen, dismissed the very idea of bisexuality.
Here are some of the colorful answers our readers gave when we asked them that question.
It’s only in the last few years that we’ve begun to see bisexual characters represented as calmly as Queen Christina was 80 years ago.
Two groundbreaking polls released last week prove what we already know – bisexuality exists and more people see themselves as bi than ever before.
It's time for people to get comfortable saying the word bisexual.
If aliens were to come to our planet and review the recent findings of YouGov, you could forgive them for thinking so.
"I'm glad that things have progressed in the Scouts since I was a boy, but more protections for LGBT people are still needed."
Some of the world’s leading (and cool) sex educators delivered a fun and inspiring talk at The Sex Positive World Seminar at UCLA.
Despite dark clouds, flash floods, and lightning, people still turned out by the tens of thousands to celebrate!
Why do people who would never dare be so confrontational with another human feel totally comfortable policing my dog’s gender performance?
The bisexuality oozes in "Magic Mike XXL." Whose vision of bisexuality is it?
If you see the new documentary "Amy" this weekend and want to know more about the talented performer, here are some statements she (and those who know her well) have said about her bisexuality.
The Supreme Court's ruling doesn't mean that it's all over
Equality is as "American as apple pie," and the Supreme Court reminded us of that this morning. This ground breaking ruling demonstrates what is arguably an American president’s most lasting and important power – the ability to appoint Supreme Court justices.
Julie Rodriguez speaks exclusively to Bisexual.org about her campaign against Vogue's bi erasure.
Bisexual people are eagerly awaiting Supreme Court decision.
Jesus being labelled "bisexual" is not new. Now, a new book by Frank Schaeffer not only reiterates that claim, but also purports that Jesus was very pro-bisexual, too.
A large city in the United Kingdom about 75 miles southwest of London is educating its citizens (and anyone else who may stumble upon it) on the Klein Grid, as well as other ways of identifying one's sexuality.
Bisexual men are specifically being warned about a meningitis outbreak in Chicago during the Pride activities this weekend, and the parade next week on June 28.
Are women suddenly "turning gay" for Ruby Rose?
Disgraced civil rights activist Rachel Dolezal may not be black, as she has claimed, but is she actually bisexual, too?
One of the most famous past U.S. Surgeon Generals tells Bisexual.org why it's important to identify as bi.
Check out the fun and photos of the bis at L.A. Pride this weekend.
BiNet USA sought out funding during the recent Give Out Day, and is continuing to see donations for their all-volunteer group that helps with bisexual issues on a national level. They have reached more than $900 so far but need to raise $7,000 more for some great things they want to accomplish.
Her inspiration came from love. Cynthia Bond spent the past 15 years teaching a writing class to at-risk homeless queer youth at the LGBT Center in New York City. Some of the themes and experiences she had while working with the youth made it into her novel Ruby.
A new book just out about Whitney Houston’s troubled daughter Bobbi Kristina Brown purports that Houston’s bisexuality was real, as all the rumors speculated while the superstar was alive.
A new book and some newly discovered film raises more questions about the disappearance of aviatrix Amelia Earhart—who is referred to as bisexual in some biographies.
BiNet USA and the Bisexual Resource Center are sharing Yahoo Groups that may be of interest to bisexual couples.
Bisexual romance author Alex Anders is organizing a Bisexual Game Night Mixer on June 20 in the Los Angeles area, and it’s getting some notice. OKCupid and Buzzfeed are involved with letting people know about the event, and their Buzzfeed videos on bisexuality have received more than three million views.
The beloved Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings characters of Dumbledore and Gandalf got married across the street from the rabidly-anti-gay Westboro Baptist Church.
Alan Cumming made no secret that he was bisexual and proud of it as he co-hosted the Tony Awards.
Dr. Margaret Robinson, a research scientist at the Ontario HIV Treatment Network is trying to figure out the reasons behind a proliferation in studies that show high rates of bisexual women using marijuana.
Not many BLGT activists appreciated the tease of the bisexual bromance that went on for "The Bachelorette" this week, and many criticized the network for gay baiting in the worst way.
Father of a bisexual teen who killed himself said the school officials didn't do anything, but that he was supportive of his son.
She is planning on wearing provocative clothing and she hopes to stir things up.
The Oscar-winning actress doesn't like labels, but she's dating women, too now.
Two guys in 'The Bachelorette' say they have fallen for each other, but it may all be a big bisexual publicity stunt.
A bull that was thought to be gay is now showing bisexual tendencies, even without his balls.
The largest national survey in the United Kingdom ever to assess the needs of bisexuals was released Tuesday (May 26, 2015). The survey revealed that up to 38 percent of the people who identified as bisexual have experienced some sort of sexual harassment.
John Forbes Nash, the brilliant mathematician who inspired the movie “A Beautiful Mind,” died in a car accident on Saturday, May 23, 2015, with his wife. Although many books and biographies called Nash bisexual, or homosexual, the Princeton professor denied such labels
See a comprehensive list of bisexual military people.
Earlier this week, Oregon's bisexual governor Kate Brown continued to make history by signing a bill that ends gay conversion therapy in her state.
On this Memorial Day weekend, noted bisexual soldier Cliff Arnesen shares with Bisexual.org some memories of his testimony before the U.S. Congress, which was 25 years ago, on May 16, 1990.
Angelina Jolie is out and proud as bisexual—everyone knows that. But now, her husband Brad Pitt is declared a “Secret Bisexual” on the cover of Star Magazine.
Cate Blanchett blames her unintentional bisexual coming out for an incomplete quote in the Variety article.
Stephen Fry, an openly bisexual actor, who is married to a man in Great Britain, has released on You Tube a dramatic series that fights homophobia called “Out There.”
A media storm has swirled around the Variety article where classic two-time Oscar-winning happily-married actress Cate Blanchett has talked about her past relationships with women. Mostly, the media are positive, but some think the whole thing is a publicity stunt, while others welcome "finally, a classy bisexual."
A book that takes a unique peak at the lives of Hispanic women is now available in Spanish language.
The darling little girl from "The Cosby Show," Raven-Symoné, pointed out on "The View" on Monday that she feels the same way Miley Cyrus does about not being labelled for liking guys and girls.
Simon Hughes, a Member of Parliament for more than three decades, lost his seat last week in an election. He has been openly bisexual for the last 10 years of his tenure.
There’s a much-discussed sex scene between handsome James Marsden (who plays a bisexual actor) and Jack Black (a heterosexual schlub who can’t forget their one-time liaison).
Julia Canfield, president of the Bisexual Resource Center has been awarded the Student Excellence in Public Health Practice Award from Boston University.
Miley Cyrus said that not all of her past relationships were “straight, heterosexual” ones. Although she didn’t use the B-word, media outlets are interpreting this as the actress/singer coming out as bisexual.
Bisexual.org, this site you're now reading, just purchased Bi.org so that both URLs go to the same site. There was some concern that when the British bisexual news site lost the domain name that someone would snatch it up and turn it into a porn site.
Republican State Representative Randy Boehning from North Dakota was caught over the weekend sending unsolicited pictures of his private parts to a 21-year-old on Grindr.
Screen Shot 2015-04-27 at 2.50.40 PMOn Tuesday (April 28, 2015), the U.S. Supreme Court will once again hear arguments about same-sex marriage. One of the Amicus Briefs (or Friends of Court briefs) submitted to argue against same-sex marriage is from a group called “Same-Sex Attracted Men and Their Wives in Support of Respondents & Affirmance.”
Honey Boo Boo’s mother, known lovingly by reality show fans as “Mama June,” and Honey Boo Boo’s sister Pumpkin both came out on Inside Edition.
A whole 36 minutes of bisexuality is being added back in when it debuts (again
When Marvel Comic’s “All-New X-Men" No. 40 hits the stands on Wednesday, there’s some potential bisexual erasure.
"Are you for real? If so, life truly is stranger than fiction," that's what the columnist responds at first.
It's a happy ending that doesn't always happen when someone comes out as bisexual.
Unfortunately, (or maybe fortunately) there's a lot of bi erasure when it comes to politicians being caught in the act of a gay liaison. A politician can be in a marriage for most of his life and have a bunch of children and still get caught in a bathroom stall with a male prostitute. But is he bi? No, he's labelled "gay."
Veja Magazine talked to one pop singer and he or she came out as bisexual to the online magazine and faced a lot of criticism.
There's a group that is safe for bi men to experience healthy touching.
AfterEllen.com takes a look at "10 Lesbian and Bisexual Characters on Broadway." That doesn't mean the actors and actresses are bisexual, but their characters are.
The headline was shocking enough, and at first, it may come across as a bit of stereotypical, but it's meant i good fun, so we're sharing it.
Dr. Samantha Tornello who conducted the comprehensive Gay/Bisexual Dads Study, and is offering updates of her project through her quarterly newsletter: Gay/Bisexual Dads Study Spring 2015 Newsletter, is seeking participants in a new study.
He worked with the gay and lesbian community as an open bisexual through much of the 1990s and 2000s. Now, Khafre K. Abif is part of the Human Rights Campaign to have people with HIV tell their stories, and he's one of the few longtime bisexuals.
In a story by Tiara Williams in The Reel Network, a profile about singing superstar Little Richard talks about his bisexuality.
The mean-spirited over-sexed character of Julia played by Jennifer Aniston in the comedy Horrible Bosses 2 was so horrible that it made GLAAD's top five in "Most Offensive Movies of 2014."
During the press tours for Fast & Furious 7, actress Michelle Rodriguez was again asked about her sexuality, particularly her bisexuality, and yes, she affirmed that she still is, and is still proud of it.
There's a fascinating thread from David and his WickedGayBlog. David is a 40-something Boston-based blogger who has had more action on his latest Question of the Day than any other.
Men who are married in Saudi Arabia who are found guilty will be stoned to death. But, an unmarried man caught in a homosexual act will be punished with 100 lashes and banishment for a year.
American Idol's Crystal Bowersox came out as bisexual in 2014. The Ohio native was competing in the night season when Lee DeWyze won.
An unusual group of men who are attracted to men, and their wives, are petitioning the U.S. Supreme Court against same-sex marriage.
Eliel Cruz wrote a story for Advocate.com that details the ugly stereotypes that caused some bi people to stay in the closet, according to a new study.
An incredible array of notable bisexual leaders are presenting workshops, some for the first time time, at the regional BECAUSE Conference scheduled from April 17 to 19 at the University of Minnesota.
Amber Heard, the out bisexual wife of actor Johnny Depp, may be ending her marriage to the superstar after only 62 days.
Gay writer and journalist Dan Savage has been, well, savaged by bisexuals in the past for saying that bisexuals don't exist. But, he's changed his tune on that, and realizes that he contributed in the past to bi erasure and is against that.
These are a dozen positive memes that you can cut and paste and share on your Facebook page.
Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda will be portraying women who have two bisexual husbands who are in love with each other.
Slate advice columnist Emily Yoffe, better known as Dear Prudence, responded to a bisexual reader’s question about coming out by telling her to stay closeted.
SheWired.com is putting up another funny list. This time, it's 10 fights that lesbians and bisexual women get into.
PopDust.com calls Lindsay Lohan "the Los Angeles bisexual train wreck serial criminal offender" and every once in a while they check in to see what (and who) she's d0ing.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention will lead new programs totaling more than $185 million in HIV prevention funding for men who have sex with men.
Bisexual comedienne Sandra Bernhard does a play-by-play analysis about her former girlfriend Madonna's latest video "Ghosttown."
President Obama, who is one of the most bi-friendly presidents in U.S. history (the photos here notwithstanding), has said Wednesday night that he believes that the government should ban harmful reparative therapy.
There's a great blog from 22-year-old Meghan in Michigan called "Through Laughter Comes Enlightenment" and she is asking for people to respond to therapists receiving bisexual clients.
Recently in an interview, 25-year-old actor Brenton Thwaites has hinted that he may have attractions to both guys and gals.
Is Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy in a bisexual love affair? Of course we know Harry has hetero leanings, but even the Harry Potter creator J.K. Rowling wrote that Harry was “rapidly becoming obsessed with Draco Malfoy” in Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince.
Shraya is currently on a west coast tour with authors Amber Dawn and Leah Horlick. Here’s Shraya’s conversation with Bi Magazine. Read all of Bi Magazine's Q & A interview.
The parents of a murdered girl want to sue their daughter's husband because he didn't tell them that he was bisexual.
Zachary Zane was pretty brave, but he did it it and it changed his life. And, he writes about it: "In one of the proudest moments of my life, I changed my OkCupid profile from straight to bisexual."
A new comedy sitcom on FOX debuted last week featuring a newcomer actress, Meera Rohit Kumbhani, as the free-spirited bisexual named Zara.
About double the percentage of youth identify as bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgender than they did only four years ago, according to a study from the Public Religion Research Institutrp_FB-1-300x300.jpge.
At the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee a teaching assistant put out an email that offers extra credit to students—but only if they’re bisexual. Unfortunately, the right-wing conservative Campus Reform is making an issue about the extra credit and calling it discriminatory.
On the site of Upworthy.com, Katy Butler tells her intriguing story about coming out as bisexual. It turns out that coming out as a lesbian was easy. The hard part? Admitting she still liked men.
Actor Alan Cumming could convince Larry King that bisexuality exists (even when Anna Paquin baffled him a bit about it), and he thinks that it's a bit easier for celebrities to come out as such.
Blogger Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards, a Presbyterian minister made a strange revelation on an Easter Sunday-- she came out as bisexual. To everyone.
Only a few months ago, funny guy Russell Brand seemed a bit serious when he said he wished he was bisexual. More recently, he has crusaded against porn, comparing it to fast food, and that he has bedded thousands of women.
The provocative online magazine DNA.com recently compiled the most out female celebs who are bisexual. Some you may not know.
British film director Edgar Wright insists he will keep the bisexuality in the love triangle at the center of the book Grasshopper Jungle by Andrew Smith.
It's not really an Easter story, but it's an interesting fact about the bisexual symbols of the mysterious figures onEaster Island.
Is the randy cartoon rabbit swinging both ways?
Australian-born Londoner Josef Salvat is starring as a bisexual hustler in one of the most erotic videos to come out these days.
A movie about an urban fantasy that takes the audience into an intriguing journey of BLGT issues, with a lot of bisexuality, won a prestigious award for short films this week.
A major study shows that people whose sexual identities changed toward same-sex attraction in early adulthood reported more symptoms of depression.
You'll have to check out this really hysterical list from SheWired by Charlotte Dingle called "10 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Bisexual Girl in a Mono Relationship."
It's an intriguing question for science fiction fans who understand the history of bisexual characters in this specialized genre.
Listen to a radio interview about Bisexual Health Awareness Month.
He mentions "Orange is the New Black" and “Transparent” and the third season of “House of Cards.”
TMZ Sports talked to a closeted bisexual NFL player who wasn't thrilled about out gay player Michael Sam's comments saying that other gay men are less courageous for not coming out.
It was a joke that Sacha Baron Cohen is once again involved in the biopic about legendary bisexual rocker Freddie Mercury.
How many of the Advocate's 18 LGBT rockers are bi? You may not be surprised.
The question at the Bisexual.org's weekly Community Advice is one that every out bisexual has had to deal with, either subtly or blatantly.
Feminist writer Valarie Clark-Neff from Columbus, Ohio has a humorous article in the UK website.
Center Bi, the only bisexual organization that is hosted at a BLGT center in the country, is seeking funds for educational material and outreach. They are trying to make $3,000 in donations before their Pride Festival, and so far have more than $200.
Conner Mertens, the out bisexual football player, is waiting for the next step.
E.J. Rosetta, an out bisexual from the United Kingdom, posted a brilliant column in the lesbian publication Curve that's about biphobia.
A report in USA Today says that gay and bisexual men in the United States are twice as likely as heterosexual men to get skin cancer, according to a new study.
One of the UK's hottest scripted reality shows, The Only Way is Essex (or TOWIE for those in the know) is waiting for a cliffhanger that may be answered Sunday night to see if handsome hunk James Lock on the show is bisexual.
A survey found that almost 30 percent of bisexual women and 23 percent of lesbian women live in poverty compared to 20 percent of heterosexual women.
Read all the things the out bi politician has done for her state so far.
New game is the company's first step into having a bisexual character in its storytelling.
A young woman talks very frankly and plainly on the Vinted.com site about her life-long attraction toward women, but never acting on it.
The International Dublin Gay Theatre Festival will be featuring a fascinating original bisexual-themed play this year.
Angelina Jolie, famous bisexual, makes another announcement about drastic surgeries she is doing for her health.
Check out the question of the week on the Bisexual.org Facebook page.
The old classic films sometimes have bisexual content that is hinted at, but not expressly talked about, yet you can see them in Hollywood this weekend at the TCM Classic Film Festival. And, there are out and open celebrities who will be talking about the classic movies.
There are a lot of statistics that need to be improved, particularly ones involving bi women.
The rapper details her horrific abuse in the latest issue of Playboy.
The man accused of beating up a youth in Corinth, Mississippi, that made national news, said he was bisexual aScreen Shot 2015-03-23 at 10.04.00 PMnd it wasn't a hate crime.
Thoughtful piece by a bisexual youth explores bisexual erasure.
The provocative play about bisexuality opens in a small theater company in Colorado.
The PBS Digital YouTube series First Person with host Kristin Russo explores bisexual erasure.
A study released late last year shows that bisexual men and women aren't any more or less jealous about their relationships than anyone else.
Longtime bi activist was struck by a truck this week.
A new edgy teen fiction story is posted on Wattpad.
It will be easier for gay and bi parents to adopt now that Florida is starting to get rid of an obsolete law.
Denise is profiled by her local paper about her activism.
Tab Hunter discusses James Dean and the bisexual rumors.
The whole list is shown in a nice photo gallery.
Check out the story on Bi Magazine that talks about the speculation of the fictional president of the United States, Frank Underwood, from "House of Cards."
The HBO movie "Bessie" of bisexual blues legend Bessie Smith has a sneak peek on You Tube (see above).
Bisexual Army Veteran Cliff Arnesen shared this intriguing photograph of the early days of marching in the St. Patrick's Day Parade in South Boston.
Meet a bisexual leprechaun.
Here are the most famous Irish bisexuals. Bet you didn't know a few of them.
More about guys being wild about Harry Styles.
Bi women are often forgotten in the statistics for health research.
Are we the Jan Brady of the LGBT movement?
See how Angel Haze's story helped this mom and daughter reunite.
Advice columnist Dr. John Sharry, a writer for the Irish Times offered advice to a women on how to tell her two children that their dad is bisexual
You should weigh in to this question if you have any ideas.
A fascinating panel on bi media this weekend.
The National Enquirer just published an excerpt of a new book that talked about how Joan liked bisexual men, married a few of them, and even tried to bed Rock Hudson, (who had sex with both men and women).
Bisexual rapper Angel Haze is starring in "Truce" and helping out a bi girl get accepted by her mom.
Move over Catwoman, the bisexuality headlines as far as comic book characters will have to be shared by a new bi character, "Harley Quinn."
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'The 100' saw the lead female character kiss a girl.
A UK report called "Boys Who Like Boys" talked about how at least 20 percent of the gay and bisexual young men face bullying in school by a teacher or another adult.
The new Journal of Bisexuality is out! The new Journal of Bisexuality is out!
The LA Pride celebration and the world's first LGBT Pride Parade will take place this year June 12 through 14 in West Hollywood, Calif.
A recent report shows that bisexuals aren't represented as judges.
Writer Eliel Cruz once again comes up with a list that slaps down some incorrect perceptions about dating bisexuals.
Nearly one-fifth of those identifying as BLGT in the UK military identified as bisexual.
Monica Bellucci, who just turned 50, is being coy about the rumored bisexuality of her character in the upcoming James Bond thriller, "Spectre."
Conan O'Brien tried his hand on the male meet-up site Grindr, and in a hysterical bawdy segment on his show.
The bisexual Bard's masculine play 'Othello' will now be done by a group of ladies.
Dirk Shafer, who directed and wrote two defining movies on the gay world, really "got" bisexuality.
Bi and gay men who have frequent partners are urged to get tested due to an increase in syphilis.
Details about the bisexuality of one of the most intelligent bisexuals ever.
Studies refute the claim that jail turns you gay, as one contender for president claims. Bi, maybe.
The United Kingdom's Health Service Executive is trying to reduce the high levels of HIV of men having sex with men, and are asking that bisexual and gay men take a survey to help them.
Desiree Akhavan became known as the "Iranian bisexual" at the Sundance Film Festival.
Tiara Thomas is a rising R&B singer, and the 25-year-old is pretty bisexual in her lyrics, but she remains coy about her own personal preferences.
One of the most out and famous bisexuals of the day, Alan Cumming, is joining a celibacy campaign?! Say it isn’t so!
Famous bisexual names, and longtime bisexual activists are in the mix in the eight nominees for the Bisexual Categories in the prestigious Lambda Literary Awards.
Help this bisexual dancer with an innovate plan for a unique performance.
A court ruling allows a claim against bisexual discrimination to continue against Bank of America.
The Association of Writers and Writing Programs (or AWP Conference) is being held in Minneapolis this April, and some bi activists are looking for a few good writers.
A gay teen who has a homophobic father, found out that his dad was using the gay hookup app Grindr.
More than 7,700 people saw this question, here are some of their responses.
Actress Shailene Woodley, who is part of the sci-fi film franchise Divergent got a little miffed when the press dubbed her "bisexual." She says she's pansexual.
In another first for the comic book world, DC Comics favorite feline foil, Catwoman, whose name is Selina Kyle, is coming out as bisexual in the next issue of the series.
In The New York Times book review section on Sunday, a review by Sloan Crosley detailed the protagonist of a new book, The Sex Lives of Siamese Twins.
The bisexual community has dubbed March as Bisexual Health Awareness Month (BHAM). Beginning March 2, there will be a concerted effort to get the word out about bi-specific health issues, with new incentives and informational drives every week.
A personal look at how a budding bisexual kid identified with Mr. Spock, and later got to tell Leonard Nimoy in person.
Crystal Fleming, who also writes for the Huffington Post, has a heart-felt post and shares her story for #ThisIsLuv.
An assistant professor from the psychology department of the University of Missouri in Kanas City, Missouri is seeking bisexual women to participate in a study about their experience involving distress and discrimination.
An opinion column by Jon Greenberg on Everyday Feminism.com discusses the ways that colorblindness contributes to racism. It's only a tiny step to take that step to homophobia or biophobia.
Read about the setting (Seattle) and the movie of "Fifty Shades of Grey" as reported in Bi Magazine.
Queen Latifah will be portraying the out, brave and bisexual Bessie Smith in "Bessie" on HBO.
The Advocate.com has a powerful opinion piece by Jase Peeples that talks about how it matters how people identify in public.
BECAUSE is a cool acronym that stands for Bisexual Empowerment Conference, A Uniting Supportive Experience., and they've announced their keynote speakers and theme.
No, it's not that bisexual women necessarily have fewer problems dating, maybe it's just more concentrated.
Bisexual journalist Eliel Cruz has a funny column discussing the problems that bisexual guys have on dates.
An Alabama judge says some ridiculous things about bisexuality.
Neil Patrick Harris, who strutted before millions at the Academy Awards, hasn't truly revealed all about his sexual past, which was pretty bisexual.
About 50 bisexuals engaged in a Bi Visibility March at the 27th National Conference on LGBT Equality: Creating Change.
Lady Gaga stunned by singing the "Sound of Music" medley at the Oscars, and she was great!
The Pew Research Center is just analyzing a 2013 study of 1,200 LGBT adults and made some recent findings about bisexuals.
Bringing up the bisexual secret life of the civil rights leader gets many activists in the African American community angry, but, a number of recent books have documented Malcolm’s life of relationships with both men and women.
The most bi Oscar show ever was 2000 when at least 10 of the movies nominated in the various categories had some element of bisexuality.
See videos of Kate Brown's swearing in, flanked by her mother and her husband.
Nathan Henry is the first bisexual to be on MTV UK's "Geordie Shore" in 10 seasons.
Can you afford the most popular bisexual Internet name that's going to be on the market?
These are the 12 most important things to know about the new out bisexual governor of Oregon.
The 12-minute show featuring Katy Perry at the 2015 Super Bowl with impressive fireworks, lots of dancers, and instant costume changes will be talked about as one of the most spectacular in years, equivalent to an Olympic Games opening. But was it too bisexual?
Join Bisexual.org community member, Mike Szymanski, and TELL your story.
A few weeks ago we asked our Facebook community#Bisexual Resolutions for 2015: Be Bisexual and Proud to share their new year's resolutions with us. We were impressed with the wide range of responses and wanted to share them with you. We're always here to help support you in achieving your goals throughout the new year!
There has been a huge amount of controversy surrounding the release of the Columbia Pictures film, ‘The Interview” starring James Franco and Seth Rogan because of the political issues that are part of the script. But even without the international political conflict, there would be plenty to talk about once the movie came out. This buddy-buddy film has a lot of homoerotic moments that are closer than the usual “bro-moments” that you’d see in the “Harold & Kumar” or “Hangover” films.
Any bisexual knows it is not easy to live openly as bisexual. The ignorance, judgment and jokes are just the beginning. So what is it like to walk in the shoes of someone who is bisexual, African-American, polyamorous, atheist, a nude model and a cancer survivor? What does it mean to navigate those identities – separately or as a whole – in a world that often reveals its ignorance and judgment about sex, sexuality, race, gender and bodies?
"Does being bisexual have to mean dating hell?" This is what the main character in this new bi webseries, Alex Wagner, asks himself. We're in love with this new, hip web series from BiUSTV.
The greatest achievement of Texts is to make us want to read these classics in case we missed any as part of our required reading in school. So, yes, stop looking at your cellphone and read a book! And while you’re at it, check out The Toast; it is a deliciously addictive concoction.
For a generation that grew up on Three’s Company, a 1970s-80s ABC network show that played sexual orientation for cheap laughs, television as the most LGBT-friendly entertainment was unthinkable. The nomination of a transgender actress for an Emmy award (Laverne Cox for her outstanding work in Orange Is The New Black) was something few of us imagined we would live to see. Just this year alone, more than a dozen television shows feature LGBT storylines through their main cast or recurring characters. So many shows and so little time is a welcome conundrum keeping our Tivo® boxes and DVRs working overtime. Online debates among a growing fan base often reach the high pitch of religious fervor. So, dear television viewers, we are (finally) here, we are queer, get used to it!
We are THANKFUL for our thriving Facebook community now over 100,000 members strong! We asked YOU what you were most thankful for this year and these were some of our favorites.
Being the curious gays that we are, we decided to dig a little deeper, scouring the internet for clues. And what we discovered is, well, surprising. Apparently it’s not just the ladies who prefer two dicks in their porn. Self-professed straight men enjoy it, too.
We reached out to our active and AWESOME Facebook community and asked them to tell us HOW they knew they were bisexual. We received hundreds of great comments and here are some of our favorites. You can join us on our Facebook page, Twitter and Instgram by following "Bisexualdotorg".
Bisexual.org has a THRIVING Facebook community over 70,000 members strong. We've tapped into our shared wisdom by asking our community what THEY feel are the most common MISCONCEPTIONS about bisexuals. Here are their TOP answers.
Two decades ago barely a quarter of Americans believed members of the LGBT
community should enjoy equal marriage rights; now nearly two-thirds accept
This quantum leap cannot be explained by what sociologists call generational
shift – that is older, conservative folk dying off and younger, more liberal
people taking their places. Something more radical and unforeseen took place
that precipitated a change in opinion that leapt across the generations.
Most of the weird social situations bi people (women in particular) have to deal with are summed right up with this Buzzfeed video, 15 Bisexual Girl Problems. The 2 minute video accurately depicts the awkward situations bisexual women face in a world that assumes you’re only attracted to one gender.
We want to send out a HUGE thanks to the THOUSANDS of you that showed your #BiPride and shared you photos and stories for our #WhatBiLooks like contest!
According to GLAAD's latest media reports, on television, out of the "66 regular or recurring LGBT characters on scripted cable television, 35 are gay men, while only 4 are bisexual males." Meanwhile, of the 102 LGBT-inclusive films released in 2013 (note that's not all films, just the ones that had LGBT characters), there was only one bisexual male character. That means that less than 6% of LGBT representation on television was of bisexual men, and less than 1% in films in 2013.
Sexuality is not a binary; it’s not all gay or straight. There’s a pretty good chance you’re going to date someone who has, in the past, been romantically involved with someone of another gender. You may date someone who, in the future, will date someone of another gender. It’s not the end of the world, and it shouldn't affect your relationship.
We're launching a #WhatBiLooksLike contest to share our BEAUTIFUL community with world and we hope you'll join us. Everyone who posts their #WhatBiLooksLike pic to our Facebook page or shares with us on Twitter will be eligible to win a Bisexual.org goodie box including hat, sunglasses, wristband, Bisexual DVD's, books and lollipops.
Veteran TV host Larry King made a fool of himself recently when he repeatedly prodded the ‘True Blood’ actress about being bisexual while also being married to a man.
Larry King likely gave birth, albeit unintentionally, to at least one fledgling punk band during a recent interview with Anna Paquin, when he asked her if she is a “non-practicing bisexual.”The actress, who is married to her True Blood co-star Stephen Moyer, tried to set King straight by saying that she’s “monogamously married,” but this only served to confuse him more.“But you were bisexual?” he asked, forcing Paquin to explain that it’s not a “past tense thing” and that if a straight person “were to break up” with their partner, their sexuality wouldn’t just stop existing. Which was about the most PC way you could possibly point out that just because you agree to stay faithful to one person doesn’t mean that you stop wanting to have sex with other people—something the many-times-married Larry King probably knew already.
Thirty women get personal and offer up their personal stories around being bisexual. This compelling article was originally published on buzzfeed.com.
"Personally, I think choosing between men and women is like choosing between cake and ice cream. You’d be daft not to try both when there are so many different flavours." - Bjork
“Männertreffen" [Men's gathering] I heard Christoph say to somebody across the breakfast table at the Z-Bi last November. My ears immediately perked up, my eyes widened, and I literally jumped up to find out more. I was soon treated to an enthusiastic stream of stories about BiNe’s retreat and it was hard not to notice how everyone's faces lit up when they spoke. Clearly, I had stumbled upon something special; I was ready to sign up on the spot.
In 2005, the New York Times published an article with a catchy headline that sent waves through the LGBT world. Titled "Straight, Gay, or Lying," the article reported on study by researchers at the University of Chicago that failed to find 50/50 arousal patterns in a specific sample of men. Of course there is no requirement for bisexuals to be attracted to men and women in exactly the same way. Of course showing men pornography and measuring their erections is an imperfect measure of sexuality at best. Of course one sample of men is not representative of all men. Unfortunately, none of those important details, details that the scientists themselves pointed out, spoke loudly enough to drown out the power of that sound bite. Such is the nature communication in our media-saturated world.
by Richard Wolf and Brad Heath, USA TODAY
WASHINGTON D.C.— The Supreme Court delivered a double-barreled boost to the cause of same-sex marriage from Maine to California Wednesday by acting boldly in one case and backing off in another.
Precisely a decade after it struck down all remaining state laws banning sodomy, the court declared a key section of the federal Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional on equal protection grounds. But the justices took no stand on the merits of California's ban on same-sex marriage, leaving a lower court's decision that overturned Proposition 8 as the last word.
GLAAD recently announced that the organization has formally dropped the words 'Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation' from its name and will be known going forward as simply GLAAD, the LGBT media advocacy organization.
Accompanying the change is a renewed commitment to incorporate bisexual and transgender people as well as allies from diverse backgrounds in GLAAD's work to shape the media narrative and build public support for LGBT people.
In a New York Times piece over the weekend, bisexual comedienne Margaret Cho challenged those who are asking people if they are gay or not.
A noteworthy panel of well-known bisexuals discussed the misrepresentation of certain mainstream media and how bisexuality is incorrectly portrayed.
A handsome 29-year-old man who identifies as bisexual left his job in November as a video producer at CBS and is now suing for sexual harassment, saying he was repeatedly drunkenly groped and kissed by powerful men at the network — including the director for the “CBS Evening News with Scott Pelley.”
Actress, comedian and bisexual. She has never hesitated to give her take on the celebrities around her. A famous example was on the Letterman show in 1988, where Bernhard said that Madonna – appearing on the show with her – was much better than Sean Penn in bed, thus alluding to Bernhard's then bisexual status and fueling speculation about her relationship with the singer.
Malcolm S. Forbes (August 19, 1919 – February 24, 1990) was publisher of Forbes magazine, founded by his father B. C. Forbes and today run by his son Steve Forbes. Soon after his death in 1990 Malcolm S. Forbes was revealed to have been bisexual. Steve Forbes’ apparent tolerance of his father’s sexual orientation was seized upon by social conservatives in 1996, and severely damaged his prospects in the Republican party.
Joan Crawford, an American actress in film, television and theatre. Want to see more famous bisexuals? Join us on Facebook, Twitter or Google+ to get weekly updates on famous bisexuals, bisexual facts and FAQs.
Mike White. American writer, director, actor and producer for television and film, is an L.A. native and self-described bisexual whose sideways sensibility has resulted in the HBO hit series Enlightenment and three giant mainstream hits (Orange County, School of Rock and Nacho Libre).
"I do not in the least underestimate bisexuality. . . I expect it to provide all further enlightenment." - Sigmund Freud.
In the aftermath of Indian Supreme Court’s decision on Section 377, activists have implemented two major game plans: aggressive legal challenges and campaigns to change public perception and attitudes toward different forms of gender and sexual expression.
Why does Lady Gaga have to prove her bisexuality?
By Nataliya Vasilyeva and Mansur Mirovalev
MOSCOW — A bill that stigmatizes Russia’s LGBT community and bans the distribution of information about homosexuality to children was overwhelmingly approved by the lower house of parliament Tuesday. More than two dozen protesters were attacked by anti-gay activists and then detained by police, hours before the State Duma approved the Kremlin-backed legislation in a 436-0 vote, with one abstention.
While the eyes may be the window to the soul, pupil dilation can reveal a person's sexual orientation, finds a new Cornell study. Pupils were found to widen most when study participants watched erotic videos of people they found attractive, thereby revealing where they were on the sexual spectrum from heterosexual to homosexual.
JERUSALEM, May 24 (IPS) - Public discussions about sexuality and gender diversity are difficult to start in many places. But a new multimedia project that is garnering buzz in Palestine aims to reverse this trend and open up dialogue within Palestinian society around these historically taboo issues.
Brazil Approves Same-Sex Marriage
BRAZIL has become the third and largest Latin American country to give a de facto green light to same-sex marriage.
In a bold stride for the majority Roman Catholic nation, the National Council of Justice, a panel which oversees Brazil's legal system and is headed by the chief justice of the Supreme Court, said government offices that issue marriage licenses had no standing to reject same-sex couples.
New York Times Magazine:
The Scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists
The music mogul who played key roles in the careers of superstars like Whitney Houston, Alicia Keys and Kelly Clarkson has come out as bisexual.
In his new memoir, The Soundtrack of My Life, 80-year-old Clive Davis acknowledges his bisexuality, which he describes as "something that my children and close friends have always known, but that I knew I would need to discuss in a biography," according to USA Today.