Bi Guy Khafre Abif Tells His Story of Living with HIV

KhafreAbif_HIV-Imageshare_blog440He worked with the gay and lesbian community as an open bisexual through much of the 1990s and 2000s. Now, Khafre K. Abif is talking about also living with HIV since the early 1990s and throughout his activism.

He is part of the Human Rights Campaign to have people with HIV tell their stories, and he’s one of the few longtime bisexuals. Read his full story by CLICKING HERE.

“Working in the lesbian and gay community,” he explains, “there are so many misconceptions about what bisexuality is and about who bisexual people are. They say we’re ‘on the down-low.’ But for me, knowing that I was positive made me even more aware, whomever I was with, of how I was going to protect them and protect myself.”

It’s more confusing when bisexuality comes into play.

“What about my female partner?” he asks. “I’ve been with the same woman since 2001. She’s still negative, but why is it that we look at the rates of HIV among Black women and that’s not offered to them as well?”

Khafre writes blogs for and he is currently working on several anthologies collecting the voices of groups like women, heterosexual men, transgender people, and youth living with HIV.

“Collecting and sharing those stories is what’s important to me,” he says. “If a story comes to you, you care for it, and you give it away where it’s needed. There are so many people out there living in silence and isolation with HIV, so if someone out there can read something I’ve written, one of these stories, and that can help their journey and bring them out of isolation into the light and affirmation, then I’ve done my job.”

“For me, it’s about being transparent; It’s about being honest, about being open,” he says. “It’s about knocking out people’s stereotypes about what people living with HIV look like, talk like, think like. It’s about standing in my truth, standing up as my authentic self and being proud of who I am.”

HRC is committed, through a collective effort, to ending the HIV/AIDS epidemic and helping secure the health and well-being of people living with HIV, particularly LGBT individuals. To that end, HRC is proud to present a new blog series as part of our #BeInTheKnow campaign — calling attention to the impact of HIV and AIDS on the LGBT community and amplifying the voices of those most affected by the epidemic.

Look for more posts throughout the rest of the year on social media using #BeInTheKnow.

Mike Szymanski
Mike Szymanski has written about bisexual issues since 1989 and has one of the longest-running regular bisexual columns as the National Bisexuality Examiner. He came out as bisexual in a cover story of Genre magazine, which resulted in more than 50 television appearances, including Ricki Lake, Phil Donahue Show and 20/20. Szymanski won the Lambda Literary Award in 2007 for co-authoring an informative humor book “The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips and Lists for Those Who Go Both Ways.” Write him at [email protected]