Is coming out different for bi people?
Coming out is different for bi people than it is for gay people in several ways. Most importantly, the coming out process never really ends for bisexual people. Typically, bi people must come out to each and every person they date. If a bi person gets serious with someone from the straight community, they must come out to that person. If a bi person gets serious with someone from the gay or lesbian community, they must come out to that person too. Of course, this process can be simplified by coming out before the first date. Still, that is a level of disclosure that is not expected of straight, gay or lesbian people (whose orientation is just assumed by virtue of the gender of their date). Unfortunately, biphobic reactions are far too common and almost every bisexual person has horror stories to share about dating or courting a straight, gay, or lesbian person for whom bisexuality was a deal-breaker. That additional risk of romantic rejection, rejection because of one’s sexual orientation, is not a hurdle faced by straight and gay people. Hopefully, as bisexuality is better understood and becomes more accepted, that will change for the better.
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