Questions & Answers

Is it only straight people who discriminate against bis?

No, bisexual people can and do experience discrimination by lesbians and gays.

Gays, lesbians, and bis know what it’s like to be different from the mainstream. We all know what it’s like to be marginalized for something at the core of our being.  Our sexual orientation is something that we didn’t choose, but it is an important part of who we are. Given all that common ground, you might assume that gays and lesbians would understand bisexuality and accept bi people.  Unfortunately, that too often isn’t the case.

In the U.S., it took decades of struggle to get most national LGBT organizations to include bisexual and trans people in their names and mission statements.  It remains a struggle to get these organizations to include us in their actions, in their leadership, and to represent our needs. On an individual level, many gays and lesbians still question the mere existence of bisexuality or reinforce the myth that all bisexuals are really gay or lesbian.


Many gays and lesbians do not question the existence of bisexuality, those know that bisexuals are not gay or lesbian but bisexual. However gays and lesbians are faced with the fact that when they settle down with a person, to the eyes of society their couple is not seen as equal to a man-woman couple. Their couple might be treated equally, if lucky, by a close group of friends and family members, but never equality by society at large. So a discomfort or even a resentment might be felt by gays and lesbians when they see that bisexuals that settle down in a man-woman couple enjoy all the benefits of heterosexual supremacy that they will never get close to. It would be naive to believe that the strong homophobia that prevails and the absolute supremacy of heterosexual lifestyle in society has no influence at all for many bisexual women and men on the choices made for life-long partners. In that context, resentment from first-hand experiences with bisexual partners can be at the heart of gay and lesbian resentements against bisexuals.


Want to respond to this question? Sign up