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Why can’t you bis just make up your mind and pick one [gender]?

To ask a bi person to pick one gender is to ask them to pick a sexuality that is not their own.  It is like asking a straight, gay, or lesbian person to only be attracted to people born on a Monday, Wednesday, or Friday – to do so is entirely arbitrary and demonstrates a basic misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual.


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Well, we can pick one person to be with, but we can't turn off our attraction to opposite gender of the person we're currently with. That's like asking a straight man to choose not being attracted to women anymore. How could he? Even if he told himself he wasn't, if a sexy woman walks by, he's going to have an involuntary reaction. Arousal isn't a voluntary thing. It's an automatic thing our brains and bodies do.

-Amaryn


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