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Are bisexuals all polyamorous?

Bisexuality and polyamory are two separate identities, and one does not cause the other.  There are many straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual people who are polyamorous, just as there are many who are not.


I am! My wife is! The men we date are! But, no. No, no no. Not all bisexuals are polyamorous. I wish.

You see, my wife and I have been dating bi men together, with the intention of finding "a third," a mutual husband. The number of attractive eligible guys who would be interested but who are monogamous and therefore uninterested in a couple is staggering. It's discouraging for us. But for the other monogamous folks out there, it's good news.

Variety is the spice of life, right? Bi folks come in all shapes and sizes. In monogamous and poly. I have many bi friends who are as true to their monogamous partners as any. If I could turn them to the dark side, I would. BELIEVE ME. ;)


I'm bisexual and NOT polyamorous. I can't even imagine that kind of lifestyle. When I think of having to split my time as a lover between my husband and someone else, I know I couldn't do it even if I wanted to. I don't want to share my husband, and he definitely doesn't want to share me.


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